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A few days ago, a man went to a small restaurant and ordered a bowl of beef noodles. While waiting for noodles, he overheard a conversation at the next table. There are two men and one woman in the conversation, and it is estimated that they are all post-8s. One of them should be husband and wife, and the woman is still holding her child in her arms. ?

One of the men said, "It's really time to have a rest after a while. I haven't had a rest for half a year since I started this business." ?

The woman answered, "Yes, there is no point in making money. You must enjoy your life."

The man sighed at once. "Who said no, but I just can't stop. Sometimes I feel very flustered after stopping a little. Now I don't try my best to make money. What should I do in the future?".

the woman echoed, "Don't talk about you, just say that I am a housewife. Now he is earning money outside alone, and he still feels insecure. He is afraid that he will lose his job one day, so the whole family can't drink the northwest wind." ?

"So, I'd better earn more money while I'm young, and I'll be more comfortable in the future. Now I'm tired." The man comforted himself.

A woman's husband has probably been thinking about it before, and finally said, "Why don't I learn to do some business with you? Maybe there's a way to make a living if I really lose my job one day."

When I left the restaurant after eating, I deliberately looked at the man who had always turned his back on me. Under the young mold, there was unbearable fatigue and vicissitudes. When I looked at him, he was laughing, and his face was wrinkled to the corner of his eye and forehead, and his whole face looked wrinkled.

China people who do small business overseas usually run a family-style restaurant by husband and wife, which is small, mostly a small restaurant or a French fries shop. From the procurement of raw materials to the final service link, it depends on two people, day and night, spring, summer, autumn and winter, a moment can not be separated from that small shop.

The shops run by foreigners here are usually closed on Sundays, and it is estimated that the only store that can be found open on Sundays is China. I often go to a Sichuan restaurant to eat, which is also family-style. A middle-aged couple, basically every time they go there, they are busy, the man is at the front desk and the woman is in the kitchen.

Not long ago, I found a sign hanging at the door "Closed for three days". Later, I learned that the couple had gone to Italy for three days.

I was quite surprised. "I've been eating here for so long, and I've never closed the door. How can I go out to play this time?"

The boss shook his head. "I can't help it. We have been guarding this store all day, and we can't leave one step. We have been here for almost ten years, and we have never even been to Italy. This time, we were cruel and closed the door and went there."

after what he said, he felt a little sorry for the couple. "Well, it's hard to go out to play once. How can you only go for three days?"

The boss said helplessly, "Look, it was such a small shop. People come to eat today and watch the door close, and when they come again and close the door tomorrow, they won't come again. We make a living from this small shop, but our son is useless. Now we want to enjoy it, and we won't have anything to rely on when we get old."

Ben wanted to answer the phone, but another guest came, and the boss immediately greeted him with a menu.

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I read an article earlier that China people are very tired, and they are struggling to make money. Every day, they wander between the roots of living, and there is no reason to stop, and they can't stop.

I have seen too many examples around me. Many people struggle day and night in order to get more material wealth and make their lives better. The soaring house prices and prices whip everyone who is working hard. You must run fast enough and not stop, otherwise you will fall behind.

Some people say that China people used to be poor and afraid, so now money is everything.

at any time, making money is the most necessary means of making a living, and it is a real existence that falls on our daily necessities. Everything that is divorced from the material foundation is illusory. It is understandable to work hard to make a living.

there is a standard in Levi's cultural dimension called "avoidance of uncertainty", which refers to the panic and defense of uncertain factors in life. China people's index in this dimension is particularly high, on the contrary, Americans are particularly low.

This seems to explain why people in China like to save money and Americans like to spend in advance. We are always anxious about the uncertainty of the future, fearing that something will happen in the future and make us unprepared. At this time, the deposit in the bank account is the biggest source of security.

On the contrary, Americans like to use credit cards and pay them back after use. In their culture, they are very worried about the uncertainty of the future, and their outlook on life is more in line with the idea expressed by "if you are drunk tonight, you will worry about tomorrow".

I saw an interesting sentence the other day, "Melancholy people live in the past, practical people live in the present, and anxious people live in the future."

most people live in the past and the future, and only a few people live in the present. The so-called living in the present is not to look back at the road that has passed reluctantly or regretfully, nor to worry about looking up at the road in front of you in panic, but to focus on the road under your feet and take every step at the moment.

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I have heard many people say that the road they are taking now is not the one they once dreamed of taking, but what changes their route is nothing more than the so-called "reality". To put it bluntly, it is to make a living. Dreams can't be eaten and drunk, but money can.

Most people in China yearn for a stable life, which also comes from our high avoidance index of the uncertainty of future life. Only when we buy a good house, find a stable job and find a good family, the so-called "getting married and starting a career" will all be over, and the future will become clear.

When I was young, my passion for pursuing my dreams slowly dissipated, and I gradually found that everything in the future was ethereal and uncertain on the road to pursuing my dreams. Even after eating this meal, I didn't know where the next meal was, and I didn't know where to stay the next night.

This dream of being divorced from material dependence can't give most people the sense of security they need. Many people say that I don't want to live a life as long as I can see it, but in fact, that's what they need. You don't need to worry about the uncertainty of the future, and you don't need to be anxious about the confusion in the future. You just need to follow the established route.

In recent years, there has been a popular word, "slash youth", which refers to those young people who are not satisfied with a single career and choose multiple careers and diversified lives.

I found that most slash youths' second jobs are related to their original dreams. An engineer works as a photographer in his second job, but if you ask him if he is willing to give up his steady job as an engineer to take photos, he will definitely answer you, no.

He can only allow himself to do what he is interested in on the basis of material dependence. Even though he doesn't like the job as an engineer so much, it can give him a sense of security. Only with a sense of security can he have the confidence to pursue his dreams.

There are many people around. They are doing jobs that they like or hate, and they are in contact with all kinds of people who can't get along with each other. No matter how much pressure they face, how many grievances and pressures they suffer, they will vent their anger with a rant, a barbecue, a few bottles of beer, a cumin-flavored burp, a sleep and a bloody resurrection the next day.

for most people, there are no stormy waves in life, the dark tide is surging, and everything is calm. Working hard for your small family, running around for a day, and coming home at night, someone left himself a lamp and a bowl of hot noodles, which is the greatest happiness.

Every time after work, there are pedestrians coming and going in the subway station and bus stop. Some of them are in a hurry, some are tired and have different looks. Whether they are trying to get a stable life or a dream, they must be working hard and persisting because of some belief.

"May the years be quiet and the world be stable" is a cliche, but it is what we ordinary people have been striving for all our lives.

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