Originally, I planned to get married after living together for a trial period. Unexpectedly, after living together for a year, I discovered that he had no intention of getting married. When pressed, he said that he wanted to live together forever without any burden and feel comfortable, so they ended up breaking up. "Everything is my problem, and I have been blaming everyone before, allowing complaints and hatred to surround me - in fact, all the pain is caused by my disrespect of cause and effect and my indulgence in sexual misconduct. Here, I want to express my gratitude to others through my disrespect for cause and effect. The real retribution warns everyone that if you don’t find a partner, you must not engage in sexual intercourse, and you will attract an unsatisfactory wife or husband. If you have a partner, you must not engage in sexual intercourse, as it will cause the family to break up and the loving couple to go their separate ways.
If I had kept myself clean at that time and refused to have sex before marriage, perhaps this would not have been the outcome. Then I would have lived a happier life than I do now. Only then did I realize that adultery is the first of all evils, and filial piety is the first of all. I should listen to my parents. If my parents disagree, there must be parents. According to the truth, I should stick to the bottom line and protect myself, cherish my body, stay away from sexual immorality, refuse premarital sex, and keep clean. Now I really regret it, no matter whether you have a partner or not, sexual immorality will make you lose everything, wealth, and lover. Your family, body, and career will all go away from you, and all you will get is a wretched face, a muddy mind, and an extremely weak body, so you must not engage in sexual immorality and end up like me where everything is lost. , I realized that when I look back, I must remember that it was precisely because of my previous sexual misconduct that I received such retribution. Boys should not think about hooking up with girls. Only by being a gentleman can you attract virtuous wives. Girls should not be slutty or wear revealing clothes. , such as low-cut clothes, skirts that are above the knee, and backless ones that expose the navel, are absolutely not allowed. Karma will not spare anyone. Whether you admit it or not, believe it or not, cause and effect exists.
Many men feel that cohabitation itself may be a hint of not getting married. If the woman objects and asks for marriage when they first live together, the marriage may have already happened. In other words, the man desires to get married before cohabitation, but after cohabitation. Once your feelings are satisfied, it doesn’t matter whether you get married or not. If you are pressured by your girlfriend who is eager to get married at this time, you will subconsciously want to evade responsibility immediately, and your relationship will gradually fade away, and you will not want to be bound by marriage. , once a man doesn’t want to take responsibility, it’s very easy to break up. Although living together can give you a deeper understanding of the other person, the biggest risk of cohabitation and trial marriage is that the other person will slowly lose their “desire to get married.” The biggest reason for the breakdown. The retribution of evil deeds (don’t live together before marriage, it is too harmful)
Passion overdrafts marriage and makes marriage boring: We have the ability to repay the early consumption of materials. This kind of attempt and early consumption of marriage is obviously beyond the limit. The repayment ability of many people has been reduced, and the passion and happiness of marriage have been preempted, leaving only fatigue and boredom. The intervention of various practical factors has caused the two people to feel that their life together is boring. No wonder some survey data show that after Couples who get married while living together are more likely to divorce than couples who get married without cohabitation, so please do not live together and avoid premarital sex. It is really not responsible for your own health.
Foreign studies have found that couples who cohabitate first and then get married are more likely to encounter problems such as affairs, alcoholism, and drug abuse after marriage than ordinary couples. The authoritative domestic violence agency in the United States also found that in cohabitation relationships, Violence is more common among couples than in marriages, and cohabiting couples are twice as likely to experience violence as couples. The proportion of those with serious violence problems is five times that of married people. Women in cohabiting relationships are five times more likely to suffer from depression than married women.
In fact, among the population suffering from depression, cohabiting women rank second only to women who have been divorced more than twice. Cohabiting people are twice as likely to suffer from mental illness as all married people. In fact, cohabiting relationships are indeed relatively unstable. A nationwide survey in the United States found that cohabiting men are four times more likely to cheat than average husbands. While women are less likely to be unfaithful on average than men, women are still eight times more likely to cheat in cohabiting relationships than married women.
The main argument of many people who support trial marriage is to "try" for a period of time before marriage. It helps to adapt to each other and can improve the success rate of future marriages. Unfortunately, this is just a delusion. Surveys have found that couples who have lived together have a divorce rate that is 50% higher than the average couple. Studies have also found that couples as high as 40 years old will never get married after living together. Cohabiting couples have an 80% chance of breaking up, and 40% of them break up before they even walk down the aisle. Another 40 will be divorced within 10 years, which shows that the reasons for supporting trial marriage are untenable. So what kind of harm will it cause if you live together before marriage and the bride is not you?
1. Physical harm.
Living together before marriage is likely to lead to unwanted pregnancy. After pregnancy, the innocent child could only be aborted because there was no guarantee of legal marriage. First of all, you have to bear the pain on the operating table. Secondly, the abortion may be unsuccessful or too frequent, resulting in lifelong infertility. There are also some unmarried men and women who play the role of making a meal out of raw rice because their parents beat them up. But before making this decision, you must first be prepared not to need a bride price or a wedding.
2. Emotional harm.
Although many women are now very open-minded about living together before marriage, the vast majority of unmarried women must take true love or future marriage as the premise when choosing a partner to live with. Once they live together, especially after having had an abortion, and then being abandoned ruthlessly, this will cause great harm to women emotionally. There are even some men who lack responsibility and suddenly disappear from the world after hearing the news of pregnancy from their live-in girlfriends. At this time, the girl must be so helpless - she dare not tell her parents about the pregnancy, and she has no shame to tell her friends. In the end, A man ran to the hospital and walked to the operating table. Faced with this situation, what we want to ask is: As a woman, is it necessary to hurt yourself in this way?
3. Damage to reputation.
When you start a romantic cohabitation, your friends, colleagues and the other party’s friends and colleagues will definitely know it. Once living together doesn't work out, your reputation is actually being damaged before you face a new relationship. If you meet some unkind friends again, who make some sarcastic remarks behind your back, or try to put on your shoes, will your new love be smooth sailing? However, life is like this. You have to bear the responsibility for what you have done. We can't control other people's mouths, but we can definitely control our own behavior. If you live together before marriage, others will inevitably judge you unobjectively through colored glasses.
4. The harm of love concept.
In the love stage, men and women who are deeply in love but fail to get marriage in the end will often have fear and confusion about love for many years after the relationship fails, and may gradually become leftover men. Leftover women. When you reach the age where you must get married, you will hastily find a partner for yourself, which is what everyone often calls "getting married for the sake of getting married." But will such a marriage be happy? If there is no cohabitation before marriage and just a simple love relationship, the harm suffered will be reduced by at least half, and the healing time will also be shortened by at least half.
5. The harm of outlook on life.
The most intuitive manifestation of the pessimistic mood of frustrated love is lack of energy or distraction in life, study, and work.
Living together before marriage is an act of sexual immorality, the first of all evils, and the consequences of sexual immorality are the fastest and most violent. We know that sexual immorality is one of the most harmful behaviors. As the saying goes, "sexual immorality is the first of all evils", sexual immorality is a very serious immoral behavior. Moreover, nature brings disasters to adultery most quickly. Once we commit adultery, the consequences will come quickly. In addition to causing career failure, it will also seriously deplete our marital blessings and make our marriage unhappy. Cohabitation without marriage is considered sexual immorality and will cause us great pain, such as domestic violence mentioned above, constant quarrels between couples, cheating, depression, suicidal thoughts, poor health, academic and career difficulties, divorce, etc. Moreover, couples who live together have an 80% chance of breaking up, and most of them will not grow old together. Therefore, once you live together before marriage, you have almost said goodbye to a happy marriage. Everyone must be careful not to take detours. I advise everyone to stay away from sexual immorality and never live together without being married. You will pay the price!