Five years ago, life was tough for men and women. Men and women carefully plan the use of every penny. Although life is difficult, the relationship between men and women is very good.
Every day when going to work, men and women go out together. If it rains, the two of them will hold an umbrella. A woman always holds a man's waist tightly with one hand and holds an umbrella with the other. The man is much taller than the woman, so the man bends down, while the woman lifts the umbrella high and covers the man.
The man said distressedly: "You are tired holding the umbrella, let me hold it. The rain is really bad, making you suffer so much."
The woman gently Said: "I like rainy days and the feeling of walking with you on rainy days. With you by my side, I feel very safe."
The man smiled happily. Pedestrians on the road saw him and said with envy: "Look at this couple, so affectionate, they look like young people who have just fallen in love." In fact, the man and the woman have been married for several years.
When they arrived at the unit, the woman put away her umbrella, and the man discovered that half of the woman's body was soaked by the rain and was dripping water, while the man's whole body was dry. The man felt distressed and said angrily: "Look how you held up the umbrella, you're going to get sick."
The woman didn't answer, looking very sweet.
Seeing that the performance of the unit was not improving, the man soon resigned and started a business at home. First, he opened a small cigarette shop. Because the business was good, the cigarette shop turned into a small supermarket a year later. Later, the man owned his own company and bought a car. They own the best building in the city center, and the man lets the woman work as a full-time housewife at home.
When a man goes out, he takes his own car instead of walking. The man's time at home became less and less, and later he gradually stopped coming back for several days. Several times the woman wanted the man to have a good rest at home, but the man declined on the grounds that he was busy.
Finally one day, the man came back, and the first thing he said was: "Let's get a divorce, and I'll give you 200,000." The woman listened to the man's words and didn't speak for a long time. In fact, women already knew that today would happen, but they didn't expect it to happen so soon. The woman was a little sad, but she didn't embarrass the man. She just said calmly: "Okay, I'll go through the formalities with you."
It was raining outside. The woman took out an umbrella from the house and said softly: "I have only one request."
What request? You tell me, I promise you. "
It's very close to the Civil Affairs Bureau from here. I just want you and I to go there to go through the formalities under an umbrella instead of taking your car." The woman looked at the man and said.
The man nodded.
The woman held an umbrella and raised it above the man's head. The rain was pattering outside, and the wind blew from time to time, blowing into the man's face. A chill came over him, and the man shuddered and tucked his clothes inside. When the woman saw it, she moved her umbrella towards the man.
Arrived, both stopped. The woman put away her umbrella, and the man realized that half of the woman's body was soaked by the rain and dripping water, but the man's body was completely dry. The man asked in confusion: "Why are you doing this?"
The woman said casually, as before: "You have stomach problems, which will happen when you catch a cold. I won't be with you anymore, you Learn to take care of yourself.
After hearing this, the man did not speak for a long time. He suddenly turned around and hugged the woman: "I'm sorry, I'm really sorry. Let's go home..." the man murmured. , "I want you to walk with me in the rain for the rest of my life, are you willing..."
Two lines of clear tears overflowed from the woman's eyes.
Recently, there was a scene in Kuwait. The speed at which newlyweds got married and divorced set a record for the shortest marriage in history.
This marriage took only 3 minutes from the time of marriage to the breakup of the engagement.
This is what happened.
The couple went to the local court to register their marriage. After completing all the formalities, they were happily preparing to leave.
At this time, the bride accidentally fell in front of her husband.
The groom’s first reaction was not to help the bride up, but to burst out laughing, not forgetting to curse “stupid!”
Unexpectedly, the groom’s behavior was so sudden This ignited the bride's anger, so she shouted a sentence that shocked everyone in the court, "Divorce!!"
Before the groom could react, the bride had already gone to the judge to terminate the engagement.
After reading this news, I couldn’t help but laugh out loud.
Among the high praise comments below, one reads "Details defeat marriage."
I deeply agree.
Liu Yiyang said a very classic saying in "The Age of Naked Marriage", details defeat love.
As everyone knows, the same is true in marriage.
Some people may think that familiarity between partners is informal.
The bride fell, and the groom’s ridicule was not malicious and understandable. There is no need to divorce because of such a trivial matter.
However, in the bride’s heart, this man who has just received the certificate is the one she wants to work with for the rest of her life.
When she fell and lost face, he not only refused to help her, but also laughed mercilessly. This detail is enough to show that he does not care about his own feelings.
Which girl doesn’t want to marry someone who knows both coldness and warmth?
It is better to divorce as soon as possible than to spend your whole life with someone who doesn’t care about you.
A married woman wanted to help her four-year-old daughter take a bath at night, but the daughter refused.
The family asked the reason, and the daughter said: "Because mom's belly is too scary."
She had a caesarean section, and the wound was not healed during recovery, so the scar was a bit conspicuous.
She didn't pay attention to Tong Yanwuji.
But the husband was holding the child and said casually: "Did you hear that? Even my daughter thinks you are ugly."
She was a little angry and asked: "What do you mean? "
My husband said: "I am not interested. "
Do you think the scar on my stomach is ugly? "
I didn't say it, it was my daughter who said it. It was just a joke. What's there to be angry about?"
The two of them quarreled. The daughter was so frightened that she cried and said, "Mom is a crazy woman" and that this was what her father said.
She also cried, feeling so wronged that she even wanted a divorce. She felt that she worked and took care of her family wholeheartedly, so how could she become an "ugly crazy woman".
My daughter is still young, so she doesn’t understand her dedication and the ugly scar on her belly is the trace left by walking through the hell gate when she gave birth to a child.
As her husband, if he could explain to his daughter the reason why her mother has scars on her body and let her daughter learn to feel sorry for her mother, the wife would definitely feel very happy.
But he said sarcastically, "Even my daughter thinks you are ugly."
Whether it is a joke or not, in the wife's mind, it is just adding insult to injury.
The French writer Voltaire once said: "It is not the mountains in the distance that make people tired, but the grain of sand in their shoes."
On the road of life, true What overwhelms us is often not the "big mountain", but the tiny "grain of sand" in our shoes.
In married life, some trivial details are enough to crush a marriage.
I read a story in a brief book and I can’t forget it for a long time.
When she was 12 years old, her mother and father divorced. Just because my father flicked cigarette ashes and threw cigarette butts into the orchid pot raised by my mother, no matter how many times he tried to dissuade me, it was of no use.
When relatives and friends came to persuade her, my mother only said one sentence: "He is very nice, but we can't get along with him."
Even my grandmother scolded her angrily. In the eyes of grandma, her son-in-law is tall, handsome, able to make money, and filial to the family. On the contrary, her daughter is willful and selfish, regardless of the feelings of her children and parents.
It is also difficult for her to understand what her daughter complains about her husband, such as not liking to take a bath, throwing clothes and socks around, devouring food, not having time to spend time with her, and not remembering her birthdays and anniversaries...
I hope you can understand mom, a lifetime is too long. ”
When she was 16 years old, her mother married another man.
The stepfather was not tall and average-looking, but he was clean and refreshing and had a gentle smile.
He will replace his mother’s flowers and plants with beautiful flower pots;
Match his mother’s new light green plaid tablecloth with new plates, dishes and chopsticks;
He He would hold her hand and go for a walk along the river to watch the sunset and sunrise;
Mom loves to study recipes, and her stepfather is her most loyal gourmet, praising her mother’s cooking in different ways;
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There was nothing wrong with her father, and he was considered a good husband in the eyes of outsiders. But her mother still decided to divorce him.
Their marriage was defeated by the details. .
Marriage Pope John Gottman said that the key to a successful relationship is not a candlelight dinner or a romantic beach, but caring about your partner and caring about the small moments in life.
My stepfather did just that.
Every detail in his actions showed his thoughtfulness and respect for his wife.
Life is too long. Life is not difficult if you live it with someone who loves you.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: The harm a man does to a woman does not necessarily mean that he has fallen in love with someone else. , but he disappointed her when she had expectations, did not support her when she was weak, and was jealous of her when she succeeded.
Women are naturally more delicate and sensitive than men. They can feel "not cared about" from the small details, and of course, they can also capture love from them.
In a certain topic collection, some girls said things that moved them.
He always holds my hand tightly when crossing the road, and he always walks on the outside side of the road. ”
I wonder why I follow him at night. It was so quiet when we were on the phone. Later I found out that he covered the phone with his hand every time, for fear of waking me up while I was sleeping. "
I remember when it was very cold in the winter, I would shrink back under the quilt after going to the bathroom. He pulled me into his arms in his sleep and held me tightly."
After finishing He would kiss my forehead softly and say "Goodnight, baby." It's been years and nothing has changed. ”
It is not difficult to find that what impresses a woman is nothing more than some details.
Marriage is very complicated. One word or one action can make it fall apart; < /p>
But marriage is also very simple. A little care and warmth from you can make the other half feel sweet and happy.
It takes a hundred years to be in the same boat, and a thousand years to be in love. It’s not easy to get married.
If we truly love each other, please be thoughtful in life and let every detail of our relationship add points to our marriage.
I saw a video yesterday. Ten seconds, but it made people feel very uncomfortable.
The girl chased the car to save the man who was about to leave. She patted the car window and shouted:
"I beg you, I am." Seriously, I would do anything for you. I can wash your clothes, I can cook for you, I can do anything for you, I can do anything for you! "
"I beg you, don't leave, okay? "
But such humble begging had no effect. The car showed no intention of stopping. The girl shouted hoarsely: "I beg you, don't go! What should I do if you leave? "
The people in the car seemed not to hear. The car drove faster and faster, leaving behind the girl who was crying bitterly and speeding away.
I feel very sorry for this girl and love her so much. People are loved to the point of being humble, but they are still ignored and hurt.
Try your best to love him, but in the end it will only break your heart. The person who does not love you will not feel half-hearted.
Not all efforts can bring good results. Your cherishment cannot be given to the wrong person.
People who really care about you are reluctant to let you humble; people who need you to keep them in every possible way, it is better to let them go.
The girl had a fever, so she went to buy medicine and milk tea for her boyfriend, and ran all the way to his downstairs.
In the cold wind, she waited for half an hour but did not see her boyfriend. She only found out after asking his roommate that he was playing games.
He never went downstairs. He told the girl on WeChat, "I didn't ask you to buy it," and asked the girl to throw away the milk tea and not make him lose his temper.
The authorities are obsessed with it, but bystanders know clearly. The majority of the story is filled with comments from distressed girls.
When two people are together, they should be equal and respect each other. If they love you humbly, they will only become more unappreciative of you.
You can use the energy of bringing milk tea to your boyfriend to care for your own body.
You have to love yourself well before someone will love you.
"Love requires appropriate tolerance, not unlimited tolerance."
The meaning of two people being together is to make you a happier version of yourself, not to be so humble that you lose yourself.
Good love is mutual, cherishing each other and respecting each other.
Take care of each other in daily life, and face problems together instead of one person just paying unilaterally.
Chen Xiaochun will inform Ying Caier of all work arrangements in advance, so that she will not worry and be anxious, and will come back to take care of her and the children as soon as she has time.
He didn’t know much about romance at first, but he also learned to prepare surprises for his wife on birthdays and anniversaries.
He also wrote a love letter to her: "Dear wife, I am very happy today because I can share every bit of me with you. The so-called every bit of me is... I love you, just Just like the sky cannot be without stars, the sun and the moon."
Ying Cai'er openly wrote five words in her Weibo introduction: Chen Xiaochun's wife.
At Jordan Chan's concert, she cheered for her husband like a fangirl.
No one has to compromise to cater to the other. They love each other and regard the other as the only one.
No one looks up to the other, and no one needs to lean down. Two people give each other, cherish and take care of each other. This is good love.
The other person said: "I don't love you anymore."
You got anxious and blurted out, "It doesn't matter! We can still be together!"
After saying that, you suddenly cried, not because you were sad that the other person didn't love you anymore.
But because of this moment, you suddenly realize that you have become a beggar of love.
I thought that by being good enough to someone, I could win his love, but in the end I realized that I had actually lost it without even realizing it.
If he always makes you feel wronged, just let him go. There is no one in this world that you cannot live without.
You must be well loved and cared for, just like the father’s expectation in “The Last One”, “She should think about growing old together with the person she likes, getting married, holding her head high, and being very tough. "Yes, longing for it, as if you have won."
Girl, you are most beautiful when you are confident and love yourself.
Don’t give in to love, the crown will fall off, just be brave and let the unparalleled hero protect you.
On the evening of August 1, a beautiful 22-year-old girl was killed by someone slitting her throat in a shopping mall in Cixi, Ningbo, Zhejiang.
The girl’s surname is Chen. She is a dance teacher and a member of the Cixi Dancers Association. She has 395,000 fans on Douyin because of her sweet appearance and superb dancing.
The murderer of the girl was a fair and handsome man named Wu.
According to news reports, before the incident, Ms. Chen and Mr. Wu were in a relationship.
Ms. Chen’s family situation is good and she has been favored by her parents since she was a child. Mr. Wu’s family background is relatively poor.
Due to many factors such as family background, character and personality, Ms. Chen’s parents clearly opposed their daughter’s relationship with Mr. Wu.
After Ms. Chen and Mr. Wu fell in love, they discovered that her boyfriend looked exactly like Huo Jianhua. He had a paranoid personality, a petty mind, and a dark heart. They often quarreled over trivial matters.
On the day of the incident, Mr. Wu, who was wearing a mask, came to the mall with the murder weapon, found Ms. Chen who was happily grabbing dolls in front of the claw machine, and stabbed her in the throat fiercely.
Miss Chen, who liked dancing, One Piece, and playing King of Glory, fell into a pool of blood and never woke up.
Also, my parents cried heartbrokenly.
It turns out that a bad relationship can really kill you.
It seems that those whose parents oppose it should really be cautious.
Ms. Chen’s unfortunate experience reminds me of the “beautiful graduate student forced to commit suicide” incident that has spread all over the Internet in the past two days——
Ms. Pan in the incident is from Jiaxing, Zhejiang , a graduate student with a medical background.
Her ex-husband, Classmate Bo, is her college classmate. Classmate Bo, like Wu Zhanan, comes from a poor family, is thin, good-looking, and very romantic.
When he was pursuing Miss Pan, he put a big heart-shaped candle on the playground to propose. Miss Pan was so moved that she was good-looking, well-off and well-educated, and she willingly married him, who didn’t have a car. , a poor boy with no house and no money.
Ever since Miss Pan brought classmate Bo home for the first time, Pan's parents had opposed their relationship, and Pan's father even threatened to sever ties with his daughter.
But Miss Pan would rather accept the scolding from her parents and not get a cent of the bride price, and still want to marry classmate Bo.
Shortly after the marriage, classmate Bo persuaded Miss Pan: We have to buy a house. You go home and ask your parents for money.
Miss Pan shamelessly came home and was scolded by her father. She borrowed 100,000 yuan and paid a down payment to buy a house.
Soon, Miss Pan became pregnant and gave birth to a girl. Classmate Bo said again: We have to buy a car. You go home and ask your parents for money.
Miss Pan went home again and asked for money. For the sake of her granddaughter, her father gave her another 80,000 yuan.
Classmate Bo said disdainfully: It’s only 80,000 yuan. You can’t drive a car that costs more than 100,000 yuan. Everyone else drives a car that costs 300,000 yuan.
Ms. Pan borrowed another 40,000 car payment from relatives.
After buying the car, classmate Bo said: Who is still working these days? They all start their own businesses. After selling our house, I want to start a business.
After much deliberation, Miss Pan decided to support the man’s ambition and sold the house.
Two months after starting the business, Mr. Bo met a girl born in 1995 while on a business trip. Just like he did with Ms. Pan, he launched a passionate and crazy love offensive, and even visited the girl as his future son-in-law. 's parents.
Miss Pan found out that her husband was cheating on her and wanted a divorce.
Classmate Bo promised to return to his family, and asked Ms. Pan for a loan of 100,000 yuan on the grounds that the funds were not available.
A month later, classmate Bo, who was still disconnected from his sister, filed for divorce from Miss Pan. The reason was: Spending money on sou-sou would make you look old after giving birth.
Only then did Ms. Pan realize that while she was taking care of her baby to cook and save money on food and clothing at home, her husband and his sister often visited five-star hotels and spent tens of thousands of dollars at every turn.
Miss Pan, who sold her house to support her husband despite her parents' opposition to marriage, could not bear the insult and blow, suffered from depression, and burned charcoal to commit suicide.
During the suicide, Miss Pan fell into the fire and suffered 80% burns on her body and one ear was missing.
Classmate Bo, who took wedding photos with a girl born in 1995 before getting divorced, when he heard about it, his first sentence was "Have you breathed your last?"
It turns out that the infatuated lover's unrepentance is rewarded by the thin lover's repeated disappointment.
It seems that the parents do not dislike the poor and love the rich, but have long seen through the true colors of the scumbag.
In the case of murdering his wife and hiding her corpse in Shanghai, Yang Liping, a beautiful female teacher, insisted on marrying Wu Xiaodong despite her parents' objections.
As a result, after many quarrels, Wu Xiaodong strangled Yang Liping to death, put it in his refrigerator, overdrafted his late wife's credit card by 100,000 yuan, traveled to the mountains and rivers, and rented a hotel to have sex.
It was not until more than three months later that Yang Liping's parents insisted on seeing their daughter that they received the sad news that their daughter had died.
There are many such examples around us.
I have a relative who grew up in a good family and was good-looking. When he was 24 years old, he fell in love with a man who owned a barber shop who looked exactly like Nicholas Tse.
The parents disagreed for three reasons.
First of all, regardless of how much the boy has studied, he is a foreigner who has not returned home for more than ten years, which makes people uneasy.
Secondly, it doesn’t matter whether the boy is rich or not, I just say that the people he interacts with every day are of a different kind, and the circle is different from that of my family.
Finally, if you like a boy who is too sweet, he will also be liked by others. He is afraid that you will suffer a loss if you marry him.
But the girl did not agree. She broke up with her parents because of the noise, threatened to commit suicide many times, and even stayed in her boyfriend's shop without returning.
After becoming pregnant, her parents had no choice but to spend money to organize a wedding for the two of them. At the wedding, no one from the groom’s family came.
After getting married, the man kept delaying getting a marriage certificate. He often had an affair with the girl who got a haircut in the shop, and would hit the girl whenever something went wrong.
The person whom I had to marry back then must now live on no matter how hard it is.
With this mentality, the girl felt greatly wronged and did not tell her parents. It wasn't until she was aborted four months into her pregnancy that her parents learned the truth and decisively called the police.
After calling the police, they discovered that this cheating and domestically violent scumbag was a thief who was being chased online. Even his ID card was fake.
It turns out that the one you love despite breaking up with your family may be a criminal.
It seems that what your parents object to is not who you marry, but they are afraid that you will accidentally marry a thief.
Why do many love and marriage tragedies encounter initial opposition from their parents?
The issue of children’s marriage and love is essentially a matter of parents’ tutoring.
"This person can't do it!"
"I must marry him!"
This line of dialogue, in all the relationships with parents, must also be with someone. This has happened to my own children.
This just exposes a parent-child problem that has been latent in a family for a long time and has not been cured:
Either the parents are used to controlling, and the children resist rebellion; or the parents take over everything, and the children Foolishness and blindness; either the parents insist on the truth and the children take risks; or the parents hate each other and kill each other, and the children have a rough marriage...
How many parents suddenly realize after their children are hurt and killed by love: < /p>
The child who devoted all his life to love was just fighting against his family of origin, hoping that a new family would heal the wounds that had been pent up for many years.
As a result, after the unfortunate encounter with a scumbag, the old wounds were not healed, but new ones were added. Until the end, hurting yourself or others.
How many times you encounter someone who is not kind, you will cut off your own path.
"If you marry this person, don't come back to acknowledge me!"
"If you don't come back, you won't come back!"
This dialogue is Many parents who cannot stop their children from jumping into the fire pit give their final advice at the moment they decide to go through with it.
Children who have broken up with their families, marry (or marry) someone, and if they live an unhappy life and suffer betrayal and beatings, they are rarely willing to tell their families about their misfortune and seek help.
The victimizing spouse sees exactly this and continues to inflict further harm until tragedy occurs and is irreversible.
Why did the murdered child forget:
There are indeed vicious parents in this world, but more parents still care about their children no matter how angry they say. .
Therefore, no matter when and where you suffer harm or injustice, you must first seek help from your parents.
The so-called "right match" means that the three views match.
"It's not right that he and our family are not from the same family!"
"You are the only one with feudal ideas!"
This dialogue represents the relationship between marriage and love issues and the relationship between children. The positions of many parents differ.
People have different origins, different experiences, different personalities, different understandings, different cognitions, different cores, and different souls.
We are not afraid of being born in poverty or hardship, but we are afraid of not knowing how to grow up and being insidious. I am not afraid of being pampered or pampered since I was a child, but I am afraid of not knowing how to stop losses and being stubborn.
Tragedies one after another prove that:
What caused murders and murders was not the opposition of parents, but two people with different views. After living together in real life, Contradictions arise due to clashes of opinions.
Therefore, young people, what is more fatal than sleeping with someone you don’t understand is that you don’t know whether the person you want to love even though you have severed ties with your parents is a long-term lover or a murderer.
What is quicker than meeting a jackal is staying away from scum.
"Who would marry a scum like him but you?"
"Maybe after getting married, he will become better."
This sentence The dialogue is the biggest joke in the world I have ever heard.
It is not difficult to distinguish between scumbags:
Gambling, drug abuse, domestic violence, and any other person you associate with, no matter how good-looking you are, no matter how good your family background, or no matter how much you talk about love, you must stop it. , abandonment, separation.
Don’t take chances.
There are indeed prodigal sons in this world who can never change their fortunes, but what confidence do you have to bet your only life and happiness on a one-in-10,000 possibility?
Careful, petty, vindictive, addicted to old age, and accustomed to eating soft food... Such people, no matter how harmless they seem to be, can never be deeply loved.
This is the person who puts arsenic in the wife’s milk and poisonous rat poison in the husband’s food.
One of the reasons why there are so many tragedies in this world is that good people always try to influence bad people. As a result, bad people do not become good and good people lose their lives.