We often say: "Talk about money hurts feelings", but when we encounter difficulties, the first thing we think of is our relatives and friends with whom we have good relationships, thinking that they will definitely lend us money. I got through it because we were “good brothers” and “good sisters.”

Among these good brothers and good sisters, some will spare no effort to help us tide over difficulties, while others will have nothing to do with their own affairs, even if we have helped them. From this we can draw a conclusion: In fact, it is not money that hurts feelings, but people.

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It was only after an experience of borrowing money that Jiajia realized: it is not money that hurts feelings, but people!

Jiajia joined the company where she interned after graduating from university. The salary was not high at the beginning, with a monthly salary of only 2,800. However, the company included food and accommodation. Jiajia is usually economical, so 2,800 is enough. Save some money.

Jiajia has a high school female classmate Xiaoling. The relationship between the two is very good. After graduating from high school, the contact between the two has not been broken, so Jiajia has always regarded Xiaoling as her best friend.

Xiaoling has also just graduated, but she is different from Jiajia. She has not found a job two months after graduation. To make matters worse, she doesn’t have much money on hand. After paying next month’s rent, , there was no money to eat, so Xiaoling asked Jiajia for help.

After Jiajia heard about Xiaoling’s predicament, she gave her all the two thousand yuan she had saved without saying a word. Xiaoling was naturally grateful and said that she would pay it back as soon as she had the money. There will be interest attached, but Jiajia said there will be no interest and she asked Xiaoling to find a job first and pay back the money after her life is stable.

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A month later, Xiaoling finally found a job and settled down, but she never mentioned the two thousand yuan, and Jiajia didn't care either. Anyway, she felt that she was not short of money now.

Xiaoling is a lavish spender, and she wears all the best brands. Soon, her little salary is not enough, so she borrows money from Jiajia, of course. A few days ago, Xiaoling returned the two thousand yuan.

This time Jiajia happily lent Xiaoling another five thousand yuan. Xiaoling expressed her gratitude again and again and said she would return it as soon as possible.

More than a year later, Xiaoling still did not return the 5,000 yuan. Instead, she borrowed another 5,000 yuan from Jiajia during this period.

The 5,000 yuan that Jiajia borrowed later was borrowed from her colleagues. At that time, Jiajia did not have so much money. Xiaoling said to Jiajia: "Jiajia, you can help me, or you can borrow it from your colleague first, and I will pay you back when I have the money." Jiajia couldn't stand Xiaoling's pleading, so she asked The colleague spoke.

After that, Jiajia returned the 5,000 yuan to her colleagues first. Because she had nothing to use the money for the time being, she didn't worry about the 10,000 yuan she lent to Xiaoling. She thought that she would ask Xiaoling for help when she ran out of money.

All the colleagues around Jiajia thought that Jiajia had a good temper, but Jiajia smiled and said, "Why are we friends?"

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Jiajia got married. After the marriage, Jiajia wanted to buy a house, so she asked Xiaoling about the 10,000 yuan and wanted to borrow more money. Xiaoling returned the 10,000 yuan to Jiajia, but Regarding Jiajia's borrowing money, she expressed her inability to do anything.

"Jiajia, you also know that I am a lavish spender. I don't have any money left to lend you. Even the ten thousand yuan I paid back to you was borrowed from a friend. You can Try a bank loan or apply for a credit card, but if that doesn't work, you can borrow money from some online loan platforms," ??Xiaoling complained while "actively" giving Jiajia advice.

Jiajia sighed in her heart. Although her colleagues and friends around Jiajia said that Xiaoling was not worth dealing with, Jiajia still didn’t believe it. She felt that the relationship between her and Xiaoling for so many years Friendship, now that she is in trouble, Xiaoling will not "fail to save her".

Now she understood that Xiaoling not only refused to save her, but also wanted to push Jiajia into the fire pit. The interest rates on those online loan platforms were so high that they were not serious places to borrow money at all. At this time, Jiajia had ended this friendship in her heart.

Later, one of Jiajia’s colleagues happened to be engaged to her boyfriend, and she lent the gift money to Jiajia to help Jiajia tide over the difficulties. Jiajia and her husband also paid back the money within three months.

Talking about money hurts feelings, but talking about feelings hurts money? Money is a dead thing without thought, and the person who uses the money is the "culprit" who hurts feelings. Therefore, it is not money that hurts feelings, but people.

In real life, we cannot always have smooth sailing, and we will also encounter some difficulties. As the saying goes, "a penny can stump a hero." The feeling of lack of money is really uncomfortable. If at this time If there is someone who helps you tide over the difficulties, you will definitely be grateful at that time.

As the saying goes: ""A drop of kindness should be repaid by a spring." This is what normal people think. But there are also people like Xiaoling who, when borrowing money from others, promise to pay it back on time, but when the money is borrowed, they change their face and refuse to pay it back unless they have to.

This is not the worst. The worst thing is that when others encounter difficulties and ask her to borrow money, and she complains to you about how difficult her life is, she is actually hinting to you: I can't borrow money, no way!

A villain is like a profit. People like Xiaoling are typical egoists. Once we find such people, we must stay away from them.

A gentleman is a righteous man, and Jiajia is a friend worth making. People like Jiajia are exactly what we want, people who can help us when we are in trouble. It is precisely because of this that Jiajia's colleagues lent their betrothal gifts to Jiajia.

People like Xiaoling are selfish, and their path will only get narrower. But people like Jiajia, who are affectionate and righteous, will make their path wider, and so will true friends. More and more.