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If a man wants a happy marriage, he must start a career.

——Venus is not me

Building a career can take as short as 10 years, or as long as 20 or 30 years. But once your career is successful, you will be very careful in choosing to marry you. object.

At this time, it is not a question of who you like, but people you don’t know, and people you know will like you for no reason. Even if they don't marry you, they are willing to have children for you -

Especially if you have some social status and influence. The more people you can choose from.

And when you have no money, no career, and a monthly salary of 8,000, you have fewer people to choose from. It’s more about you being a sweet dog and providing emotional value to women, and in return, women sleep with you.

The blind ones will give birth to children with you, and the blind ones will trick you into asking for some money, and then leave after asking you for something.

Finally, I told you that the two of you are not suitable. You asked him what was wrong with him, and she said personality. You said that this kind of thing is actually impossible to say. Since you have a bad personality, why did you want to be with you at that time?

It’s not because you can’t give this woman what she wants, but because you have a bad personality. Having a bad personality is just an excuse, and hating you for not having money is the real status quo. If you really think your personality is bad and you try to change it, then your relationship will be in vain. Just think of it as a P.

But you have to know the facts of this situation, otherwise if you fall in love one after another, what are you doing? Many men have rich emotional experiences but no career experience at all. Then this man will continue to be abandoned by women. Because men without careers will not have stable relationships.

If this man is still obsessed with talking about relationships, then the rest of his life will be very miserable. Even if he gets married, he will get divorced later. Even if there is no divorce, his future children will have to blame him for not pursuing a good career.

Of course, this is something to talk about later, and ordinary poor men will not think so much. What they want is to sleep with more women in a shorter period of time to show that they are attractive too. I used to think that if a man changes partners on the battlefield, then this man has something to learn -

But that was once. If a man changes partners frequently, it’s not that he is awesome, on the contrary, he is very anxious. Sexual anxiety. They will be anxious because there is no one to live with them, they will be anxious because there is no one to go to the movies and eat with them, and they will be anxious because no one will sleep with them.

To put it bluntly, these people are not good at being alone. You must know that a person who is good at being alone must be a career person. Because I can endure loneliness and loneliness.

All successful people actually don’t care about others - they think they are not interested in the opposite sex. Because they don't want to explain.

When Ding Yuanying was talking to the proprietress of a noodle shop - when Ding Yuanying finished eating and left, the proprietress said, you haven't paid yet. Ding Yuanying gave the money without explaining. Then a man told her that Ding Yuanying had already given it to her while eating. The landlady said - don't take his money next time.

If it were an ordinary person, he would have been anxious a long time ago.

And Ding didn’t even bother to worry about this. It is clear who is higher and who is lower.

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Someone said - why do you tell everyone the reality of this society?

Because there are more understanding people in society, we will avoid years of detours.

——Venus is not me

The person who asked this question is actually selfish because he does not want everyone to understand the reality of this society. To put it bluntly, he just wants to make money from those who do not understand the reality of this society. Just like when Jack Ma founded Alibaba - at that time, everything he said was true and he spoke the truth.

But now people don’t tell the truth, they only say good things. They say what consumers want to hear.

Why say good things that consumers like to hear?

Of course, it encourages you to consume and encourages consumers to take advantage of merchants. A business is a business and will not let you take advantage.

Even if you take advantage, you still suffer. Just like many people were preparing for Double 11, he spent a lot of time studying the preferential policies of merchants. In fact, no matter how much research consumers do, it is useless.

Consumers cannot defeat merchants and platforms.

Consumers are just fools living in their own world. They think that saving money means making money. In fact, it is better to just buy something when you need it. Because maybe you need something at this moment, but maybe after 2 months, you will feel that you don’t need it anymore.

Then what you buy is a waste.

Why are there only 7 days for returns without any reason? ——Just to give these ghosts a hint-even if you buy it and don’t use it, you can still return it. So at this time, consumers actually opened their hearts and bought directly. There won't be too many worries.

In fact, this is a consumer trap - it encourages you to consume and place an order. Because most people don’t even know they bought something when they bought it. Maybe it takes 3 or 4 days after the express arrives to open it.

By the time they took it apart, seven days had passed for no reason. You cannot retreat at this time. Then you will be assured of your consumption. Maybe you bought something you felt you needed at the time. But when you actually open the package, you don’t want it anymore.

If you can’t return it, you will buy something useless. This results in a waste of money. As time goes by, you will waste more and more money.

Many people are proud to post their annual bills - the more they consume, the happier they feel. In fact, people who consume more are generally poor. Only the poor spend a lot of time consuming. Although rich people also spend money, they buy what they need instead of hoarding a bunch of things they don’t need.

Just like what Teacher Wang said - stock up a bunch of laundry detergent and pile it up in a house in Shenzhen. A house in Shenzhen costs 100,000 yuan per square meter, which is how much 10 yuan you spent on laundry detergent, and you put it in a house worth 100,000 yuan per square meter. This is a huge waste of resources.

So - no matter what people do, they must hope that more people will not step on the pitfalls of consumption and the pitfalls of reality. Money is a survival resource, consumer goods are not. The more things I buy, the more anxious I become. I buy it because I don’t have money, and I buy it when I have time.

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If you can't survive the current situation, why should you have a better life in 10 years?

——Dawei is not me

I remember a saying called - life is not only about the present, but also about poetry and the distance. In fact, to put it bluntly, it is to let D fans travel. To put it bluntly, it is to let all D fans quit their jobs and travel on a budget, and to let all those who have no money make room for newly graduated college students who cannot find jobs.

But think about it the other way around - if you can't get by and feel aggrieved, then you must be working part-time. You must have never had a side job. You must be a lazy person. You must be someone who watches TV shows at home after get off work, and you must be someone who has no idea of ??making money.

Because once you have the idea of ????making money, you will not care whether you are living a miserable life. You no longer think there is anything embarrassing about living in an urban village. If you don’t have money, you have to live in an urban village. Do you want to go to a community where the monthly salary is 5,000 yuan?

How can you live without money? Can you get a credit card? You also have to pay back the credit card. If you don’t have a job, how can you pay it back? Even if you have a job, if you work for a month, you are working for the landlord and you are working for the city. No matter which city you are in, the fact is the same -

If anyone can't live in a village in the city, then how can you make money? To make money, you must first save money. It would be nice to have a place to live. Then it’s good to have a job, and you have to do a side job after get off work. This is real life.

People who move directly to a luxurious house right after graduation generally do not plan to save money to buy a house.

Although it is unrealistic to save money to buy a house, it is better than spending it. Moreover, if a person really saves money, he will not spend it while working on the side job. If a person does not consume and only makes money, his money will only become more and more.

So do you think this is still a compromise? This is very positive. It is difficult for ordinary people to do this. I have to work on the side and do a side job when I get home. Just like you are in self-media. Then you basically have no time to do anything else.

You don’t even have time to fall in love. In fact, this is the way young people should behave, instead of crazy consumption. Then I have to pay off the credit card every month.

So - people should imagine life 10 years from now, rather than thinking about life now. If you live a decent life now, you will not live a decent life in the future. You are 22 years old now, and in 10 years you will be 32 years old. ? You don’t need to dress too well when you are 22 years old - no matter you are a man or a woman. All the same.

Because you are young - all things can be answered by saying you are still young. But if you live in a village in the city 10 years from now, then you cannot answer by saying you are still young. Although it doesn’t matter where you live, the 22 to 32 years are the golden 10 years of your life. If you seize the opportunity, you seize it; if you don't seize it, you don't seize it.

Men must make money early, and women must find a husband early. Because a man has no money and no respect from others. And if women don’t marry when they are young, then your range of choices will become smaller and smaller.

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Don’t just make one or two friends, make more friends.

——Venus is not me

Many people think that having one or two friends is enough, but sometimes people really need multiple friends, which does not mean that you need these friends. I want to help you, but I mean you have to distinguish which of these friends you make is in line with your values ??and which is not in line with your values.

As for those who like to spend money, make fewer friends. Especially friends who ask you to go shopping no matter what, and don't create any value - every time they ask you to go out, they either buy something or eat something - these people often only see immediate happiness in their lives. They think eating well, drinking well and having fun are the meaning of life.

But if a person only wants to eat, drink and have fun, then this person will be scrapped directly. Especially if you are in a big city, a person goes to a big city to make money, not to be a consumerist. If your friend is a consumerist, you may also be affected.

The best way is not to make such friends and stay away as much as possible.

There is also a friend who is more literary and artistic. In fact, this kind of friend is to find a piece of his own tranquility in a noisy secular society. But this society is essentially a secular society, and it is essentially a society that cares about money. If you have money, others will look up to you.

You have no money and you still pretend to be artistic, then you are a poor person who cannot make money. If you are with these poor people who can't make any money, you won't receive any commercial information. In fact, they don't care much about the money-making model. They just care about whether their stay is comfortable—they just care about whether the photos they take look good or not.

These kind of people live in their own world, and their aesthetics are actually not important to this world. Because they are not important to this world. No one cares what they think. No matter how beautiful the photos are, if they don’t sell, it’s just self-pleasure.

Only when a person develops his hobby into his own income and turns it into a side job, then his interest will be valuable. If you go shooting street photos with them, you won't create any value. They can take pictures, but they can't teach others to take pictures. If you can't be a teacher, you can't make money.

So - if you are in the workplace, you have to make all kinds of friends, especially friends who are interested in starting a business or a side job. Otherwise, you will not make friends at all. Don't make friends who are bad friends, friends who eat, drink, and mess around, it's useless. These people have no value other than to eat and drink during your weekend.

Some people say - if you say that, no one will make friends with you. Yes, because this filters out most of the ordinary poor people who have no money - these poor people are of little help to you. You are in a big city, and they have to leave after less than 5 years. You hang out with these ghosts, and you treat them to so many meals for nothing. No sense.

You have to understand that most people’s friends are not actually friends, they are just a waste of each other’s time. To put it bluntly, it means finding someone to spend time with you until you get married, and then marrying someone randomly. This is the life of ordinary poor people. If you want to live this kind of life, then whatever.

But people live with positive energy, and making money is positive energy. So they left and left, nothing to regret. You will find friends who will make money with you.

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If a person imitates the strong, he will get better and better.

If you imitate the weak, he will only become weaker and weaker.

——Venus is not me

People around you are consumerists, then you will also become a super consumerist. And when you are surrounded by a group of people who are all bad friends, then even if you say you don’t like them, but you still hang out with them, then you are also one of them.

Don’t feel that you are out of place among them. If you really feel that you are not one of them, then you should stay away from them instead of going out to play when they ask you to.

In fact, the human body is very honest most of the time. It's like a boy forcefully kissing a girl. The girl says no, but the girl still kisses and responds. That proves that this man kissed at the right time. If you don’t kiss at this time, there will be no chance in the future, and this relationship may not exist anymore.

If you miss this village, you won’t have this store. That’s what it means

Whether it’s a relationship or a career, you see only those who dare to do it will have a chance. If you don't dare to do it, you don't even dare to force a kiss. Then you are destined to be single in this life.

If you like someone, you will be close to that person involuntarily. When you don't like this person, you can't help but tilt your body outward. This is what your body is telling you. Many people who fall in love actually start by reading the body's body language.

If you can’t read other people’s body language, then you have no chance. If you understand it, you will have more opportunities than others. This is at least several times more likely to succeed than others.

In career, successful people know this very well. They know how to move closer to the strong, even if it means spending money. They will not choose to get close to the weak. Just like when you go to a car wash, if you drive a BBA, then you go to a place dedicated to BBA car washes. You will not go to a Nissan car wash place.

The store that specializes in BBA car washes will not provide car wash services for Nissan cars. Because this will make BBA car owners feel uncomfortable. This is a matter of face. And the people who buy cars are all different. People who can afford BBA actually focus on brand value, while people who buy Japanese cars focus on saving money and fuel.

One is a rich car owner, and the other is a poor car owner. Of course, it doesn’t mean that people who drive Japanese cars don’t have money, nor does it mean that people who drive BBAs have money. But it means that most people have money, even if they don’t have money, they still have to buy a BBA and pretend to be better.

So - if you are with a weak person, then you will also become a weak person; if you are with a strong person, then you will also become a strong person. Only by imitating the strong will you become a strong person. But the first step is to stay away from the weak and cut off all ties.

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If you don’t solve a problem, it will definitely bother you for a long time.

——Venus is not me

If a person really wants to make progress, he must constantly solve problems.

Only when you are constantly solving problems - you will gradually become less hypocritical and less blaming.

You will slowly realize that if you don’t solve many problems, then this problem will exist permanently in your life. It's like a person who has been thinking about changing jobs since last year, but has never thought of submitting a resume until now. Then he will not change jobs in the next five years - unless the company lays him off.

This kind of people can only be ostriches all their lives. When they encounter difficulties, they often work hard. Use tactical busyness to cover up your inner anxiety. So they will sign up for various financial management classes, various financial classes, take various certification exams, and take various classes to study.

You will find that the wages of these ghosts are extremely low. Every day I talk about which rich second generation I’m going to play golf with today, and who I’m going to camp with so and so tomorrow. A person with a monthly salary of 8,000 has the nerve to sign up for a dance class or play golf.

Do they think rich people spend their time like this? Do they think rich people really care whether their sports are so high-end? All of these are learned from TV dramas.

A super-rich second generation, capable, young and promising, became the president of a group, and then fell madly in love with a young woman who had no money and no background, and whose parents were country bumpkins. .

Then he chased the woman crazily, but the woman refused to agree. Then this super rich second generation provides all kinds of emotional value.

Treat him like a sweet dog in various ways, but finally the woman finally agreed to be with the man. But the woman wouldn't let him touch her, and said that if the man really loved him, he would give up his current group and elope with him to the sea of ????love.

I guess this woman is really not a human species. She thinks that there is such a rare thing as love in this world. In fact, they are all fantasies of the poor. It is so shameless for a person with no money, strength and background to fantasize about something as advanced as love.

If you haven’t solved the problem of a person’s source of income, he is not worthy of doing anything. Even going shopping with my best friends is not allowed.

If a person doesn’t even know which city he will develop in and still falls in love with someone, isn’t that a waste of youth?

If a person doesn’t even know what industry can make money, then he doesn’t deserve to make money.

If a person doesn’t even know which industry has more money, how can he choose a better track?

If a person doesn’t even know whether his or her boyfriend or girlfriend is a romantic partner, then what’s the point of being in a relationship? I can answer all these questions for you, whether they are about love, career, development direction, marriage, or human nature. Of course it's not free.