I was singing karaoke at my uncle's house two days ago. When I turned to Mao Buyi's "Xiaochou", the MV actually showed Jang Nara holding a child in her arms while she was going to the toilet. . (Isn’t it weird why Mao Buyi’s song is paired with such a MV?)

My impression of Zhang Nara still remains in the 2005 costume drama "The Pretty Princess" that she collaborated with Su Youpeng. Unexpectedly, she was so eccentric at that time, but more than ten years later, she would play the role of a stay-at-home mother.

I first searched for the complete TV series of Jang Nara and found that this one was not available. Then I searched for Zhang Nara and Xiaozier. Finally found this TV series.

So, after not watching Korean dramas for a long time, I downloaded Korean Drama TV and watched "The Confession Couple" starring Jang Nara and Son Hojun seriously.

The drama tells the story of Ma Zhenzhu and Cui Peninsula, a couple in their 40s whose marriage eventually ended in divorce. However, when I woke up, I found that both of them had returned to the days when they met in their early 20s. Although both of them carried the memories of being 40 years old and were determined to make a new choice, in the end, they still chose each other.

In this drama, we see many stories about marriage.

It also makes us discover that destroying a marriage is often not an earth-shattering event. It is often the trivial matters in daily life that lead to the eventual breakdown of a marriage. Failure to communicate about small things eventually turns into irreversible big things

At the beginning of the series, we saw that full-time mother Ma Zhenzhu was exhausted from taking care of her children.

With dark circles under her eyes, she finally waited for her child to fall asleep, then hurried to the dining table to grab a few mouthfuls of rice. Before the meal was in his mouth, the child woke up again. She had to pick up the child in a hurry, hold the child in one hand, and wolf down a few mouthfuls of food.

There is a protective gear on her wrist. This is a disease that only new mothers usually get: tenosynovitis. Holding a child in your arms for a long time can cause pain in your wrists, as if you have arthritis.

Every day when she opens her eyes, she sees the life of a child, which makes her full of exhaustion and helplessness.

But as a husband, Cui Peninsula was not aware of his wife's suffering.

When the wife went to the bathroom, the child kept knocking on the door. She had to go to the toilet while holding her baby. But when her husband got up and saw this scene, he complained about why she didn't close the door.

She felt aggrieved. But is she the only one who feels wronged and pressured?

Not really.

In fact, being a husband who sells medicine is not easy either.

In order to get business, you have to say endless nice things to your customers and keep them smiling.

And because the delivery was late, my colleagues were in trouble. He had to buy his colleagues drinks to apologize.

In addition, he has to cover up the extramarital affair of the hospital director.

When the dean’s wife and the mistress met, it was he who was beaten.

Such humiliation made him determined to have a showdown with the dean: I quit. But when I turned around, I still had to force a smile.

Making money is more important than self-esteem.

It can be said that the tiredness and helplessness of adults are shown in this plot.

When Ma Pearl took her son with acute enteritis to the hospital in the middle of the night, she called her husband Cui Peninsula countless times, but never got through.

She had to take the baby to the hospital alone.

Seeing this, many women feel the same way. Many mothers have experienced the pain of a man not being around when the family needs it.

But what is Cui Peninsula doing at this moment. He was doing a humble job of apologizing to his colleagues. In order to work better in the company in the future.

This makes us hate it again.

Every adult in the world has its own difficulties.

This became the last straw that broke this marriage. It was not the difficulty of life, but the misunderstanding.

After returning from the hospital, she saw the credit card statement that her husband lent to the dean’s mistress.

She called to question her husband.

At this moment, Cui Peninsula had just been beaten black and blue by the dean's wife.

He was afraid to go home and make his wife worried, so he had to hide in the car under the heavy rain.

When his wife called to question him, his emotions also exploded.

So the two people began to blame and complain about each other.

No one calmed down and listened to each other explain what problems they had encountered that day.

Under fierce words, it ended with filing for divorce.

At this time, in Cui Peninsula's car, there was a bouquet of flowers prepared for his wife. This bouquet was prepared for the wedding anniversary.

Is there no love in their hearts? No, it's just that the hardships of life have turned the initial relationship into dust. More importantly, there is a lack of communication with each other in married life.

It is an indisputable fact that adult life is full of hardships. Two people become husband and wife in order to face the ups and downs of life together.

Between husband and wife, there is either a division of labor between the male and the female, or both husband and wife have jobs. Sometimes, you only get a short amount of time together throughout the day.

Many couples fail to make good use of this time.

Either they are still busy with work, or watching TV and checking their mobile phones.

No communication.

In marriage, even if you only have a little time to stay together, you must ensure that there is sufficient communication between each other.

Many people say that if we meet every day, there is nothing to say.

There is so much that couples can talk about, and they can talk about the interesting things they encountered during the day. You can talk about the problems you encountered at work. You can also talk about the pressures you encounter in your life.

Only by telling it can we better understand: It turns out that I am not the only one working hard for this family. Marriage needs a sense of ritual

In the play, Ma Zhenzhu saw a pair of pearl earrings in Cui Peninsula's briefcase. Pearl, who was exhausted due to children and housework, immediately beamed.

However, the next moment, her dream was shattered.

It turns out that the pearl earrings were not bought for her. It was a gift that Cui Peninsula bought for the dean.

This is also the reason why Pearl threw Cui Peninsula's phone book into the water.

Having some sense of ritual in marriage will make the marriage more fresh.

There is this passage about the sense of ritual in "The Little Prince":

"What is the ritual?" asked the little prince. "This is something that is often forgotten."

The fox said, "It is what makes one day different from other days, and one moment from other moments."

When we When you work hard for life all day long, there is one day every year that is different from other times.

You can make time to spend time together.

It can be a bouquet of flowers;

It can be a greeting;

It can also be a greeting card;

This is like A time to recharge. Let us have the strength to cope with the difficulties and obstacles in the future. You still need to pay attention to the little details in marriage

As the saying goes, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." When you are in love, everything is good in each other's eyes.

In addition to the deep love, the bigger reason is that at this time, the two people have never lived close to each other.

Both of them are using all their skills to leave a good impression on each other.

But after marriage, as the two people live together longer and longer. All the faults that had not been exposed before were revealed.

"There are no great people around me, and there are no beauties on my pillow."

In "The Confession of the Couple", Ma Zhenzhu's slovenliness and Cui Peninsula's slovenliness are what many couples look like in their lives.

When many people see their partners like this, they will think in disgust: "Why did I fall in love with such a person in the first place?"

Look at these sloppy and careless people. Getting up is not a big deal. But it makes married life easier to get bored.

Accusing each other is a taboo in marriage

On the eve of their divorce, Ma Zhenzhu and Cui Peninsula couldn't help but collapse because of the pressure in their lives. On the phone, they blamed each other: "If it weren't for you, how could I be where I am now!"

Blaming each other is actually passing on their own anxieties and fears. When we face the pressure of life, we usually have two ways: escape or face it directly.

We know that when facing problems, actively solving them is the right way. But it would be easier to escape. Therefore, when given a choice, we usually choose to escape.

When we blame others, it is actually a kind of escape.

That’s why there are words like “It’s all because of you”: It’s because of you that I became terrible.

Since it is your problem, there is no need for me to solve it. I just need to throw all the problems to you.

Blaming will only make the relationship more antagonistic, and solving the problem is the key.

Marriage is a relationship that requires lasting management. We cannot go back to our twenties and start our lives again like the hero and heroine.

It is better to treat your marriage well and your partner well from now on.