I went shopping with my sister in the morning and heard her tell a story:

There was a young couple who, after getting married, bought a sea-view house and a luxury car with a mortgage loan in Hainan. , has a dog. The family hired a nanny and a security guard.

Because they have to repay the loan, the young couple works hard outside all day long and rarely goes home. There are only a nanny and a security guard left at home. When they have nothing to do, the two of them walk the dog together and go to the beach. They live a comfortable life. The security guard also serves as a driver. Sometimes he takes the nanny to the car to do maintenance on the car and go for a ride.

The little security guard and the little nanny fell in love for a long time and got married. They had nothing to do and raised a child. On the other hand, the host couple, because of the pressure of life and running around all the time, has not dared to have children.

The little nanny and the little security guard receive the owner’s salary, live in the owner’s house, drive the owner’s car, and walk the owner’s dog. Raise your own children and live a prosperous life.

Listening to this story feels quite ironic. But in real life, this kind of thing happens. Many times our efforts are just a wedding dress for others.

When Mahatma Gandhi died, he was in a dilapidated hut with only a bottle of whiskey and a Bible. But everyone knew that the man who had just died was the richest man in the world.

Sometimes our distress is mainly because we pursue the wrong things, thereby consuming our time, money, energy, etc., and in the end we lose more than we gain.

So what kind of life is the happiness we should pursue?

Among the people I know, there is always such a phenomenon. Families with good economic conditions often have high pressure in life. They are always complaining about some chores in life, and the wealth they get is not enough. wait. And those families who are impoverished are often unspeakably happy because of a small amount of bread.

Is it because the poor are more tolerant, or is it because the rich are insatiable?

Often it’s what we have that gets in the way. I remember when I had nothing, as long as I had a place to sleep every day, I would feel happy and sleep soundly. Later, when I opened my own shop, I would wonder if there would be thieves at night. I rented a house and lived in a place where I could see my store. Whenever I woke up at night, I would look at my store.

When I bought a car, I was afraid of thieves, so I had to worry about putting it in a safe place at night every day. Even when I travel sometimes, I think of not driving, but taking the bus instead, so that I won’t lose my car.

It is precisely because of possession that I have gained a lot of heart. If these things are all here to add pressure to you, then it would be better to be comfortable with nothing at all. While they provide you with convenience, they also add a lot of trouble to you. After all, the gains outweigh the losses.

In fact, we should pay more attention to some "rigid needs". If we have no place to live now, we will buy a house. If we need to drive every day, we will buy a car. The premise of the old theory of "drought brings money to boats" was that because boats generally don't break down, someone will need them in the future and can sell them at a good price. Nowadays, people think that they should buy things first and prepare them for later use when needed. But he paid his financial income in the next few years in advance, which made his life miserable.

Many installment advertisements say that you can own a xx mobile phone for an average of only 10 yuan a day. xx car can be driven home as long as you pay 300 yuan per month. There are also many things that only cost one yuan a day. If you can't resist the temptation and buy them all, you will have to pay a lot more money every month, which will seriously shrink your life.

I suggest today’s young people not to touch credit cards. It will make you unable to resist the temptation and consume in advance, leading to eventual bankruptcy.

I remember last year, I heard that many people were using multiple credit cards to cheat each other. Because one bank would not allow them to withdraw money after repayment, other credit cards became overdue one after another. As a result, a large number of people gathered together and shouted on the Internet that they would not pay back their credit cards, no matter what the bank did, I spent the money anyway. In the group, many friends complained that their heads were getting bigger. These are the consequences of over-consumption.

Finally, to summarize, there are several big pitfalls in this society that you need to pay attention to:

1. Credit cards, try not to touch them, or only apply for one.

2. When buying things, consider your immediate needs. If it is not necessary, try to be as simple as possible and do not buy luxury goods.

3. Don’t fall into the online earning trap of getting rich overnight.

4. Don’t neglect your family because of work. The money can be less, but relatives should be together often.

5. Health is the most important. Do as little late-night work as possible. Pay appropriate attention to the physical condition of yourself and your family.

Precisely because we care about less and less things, we feel that life is becoming easier and easier. It is precisely because we can cherish everything we have now that we feel richer and richer.

Success is success in the eyes of others, and happiness is the happiness in one's own heart. I just want to not be driven by other people's eyes in my limited life, follow my inner feelings, and become a free person.