In the TV series "The Way of Heaven", Ding Yuanying said: "There are so many children who have no money. Whatever you do is the standard. Trying your best is the standard, but the level of achievement is not the standard."

So what is dedication?

The younger sister asked Ding Yuanying: "Brother, I want to ask you a question. If we have already bought a pot and smashed the iron, we can no longer borrow money, but we still have 10,000 yuan left to save dad, then What do you think we should do?"

Ding Yuanying: "Then he will die."

Little sister: "Brother, you should live alone."

Ding's answer sounds cold and inhumane, but it is real in the world. If you have already sold the money and cannot borrow money, the only way left is to obtain it illegally and illegally, such as stealing or robbing. Although this situation sounds extreme, doesn't it happen often in the lives of ordinary people?

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The aunt in bed No. 2 had a cerebral hemorrhage of 65ml in 2018. The disease waits for no one, so the family chose surgical treatment. The ICU ward is RMB 10,000 per night. For ordinary people in fifth-tier small cities, It is very difficult for families to bear. They can only choose to take care of themselves in the general ward, and at the same time bear the risks of taking care of themselves in the general ward. Rich families naturally choose ICU because the risk to the patient is small, the family members do not have to take care of themselves day and night, and there is zero moral hazard. But when financial conditions do not allow it, isn’t it best to choose a general ward to take care of yourself?

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Myself, my father suffered a cerebral hemorrhage in 2018. My father is quite stubborn and has not stopped smoking and drinking, and his temper is also quite bad. On weekdays, my grandmother, who is nearly 80 years old, takes care of my father when he goes to the toilet and eats. My aunt goes there two or three times a week, firstly to deliver some vegetables and daily necessities to grandma, secondly to check on the father, grandma, and disabled people at home

How are the uncles doing, and thirdly to see if there is anything at home? Need to run some errands. I go home every November and Spring Festival. I come back to help my grandma cook, see that there is no shortage of big things in the house, and take care of the household hygiene and the personal hygiene of the elderly... Going home twice a year is definitely not enough to take care of me. , but if it weren’t for livelihood, who would be willing to leave their families and go to a distant place?

What exactly is dedication? It is to do your best to take care of your family and patients on the premise that you can meet your own life needs, but you should not completely sacrifice yourself, and you can only take care of others when you are capable.

If you do your best to take care of your family, you should not overextend yourself, because the future you overextend is also the future of you and your family. When we overspend on credit cards to repay our families, we also affect ourselves and our families when we pay back the credit cards.

2018 was an unusual year for me. In addition to my father being hospitalized for cerebral hemorrhage, my father also had to pay for pension insurance and the old house at home was demolished (demolition and replacement in the Northeast requires additional money per square meter). I overdrafted all the money on my credit card, and then I was in debt for two years and still haven't paid it off. In the past two years, it has been really difficult to cope with other things at home. I was anxious and unwilling to call home every day. So what exactly is dedication?

It is within one’s ability, not excessive overdraft.