1.

After 9, we will soon reach the 3th anniversary.

I saw a terrier on the Internet earlier, saying that in less than seven months, she will be born in 2 months. They look at the post-9s, just like the post-9s look at the post-6s.

I suddenly feel that time has passed too fast.

With a pinch of the fingers, it will be more than 16 days before the first batch of post-9s officially enter the third generation, which means that the arrogant generation who dominated the society and was given various definitions is no longer young.

what is the concept of thirty?

Take a sentence from The Analects of Confucius for Politics as an explanation:

"Stand at thirty. Forty without confusion. You know your destiny at fifty. Sixty is pleasant to hear. "

That is to say, when you reach the age of 3, you should at least have the capital for the world, whether spiritually or materially, and you must be more confident and confident than in the past.

Otherwise, in the later days, with the growth of age, you will have nothing in your hand, and you will feel more panic, because you never know what kind of blow reality will give.

In mid-February this year, JD.COM launched a "last-place elimination" system for senior executives. Those senior executives who earned hundreds of thousands of dollars in those years all faced a cruel system of survival of the fittest, and the elimination ratio was as high as 1%.

At this time, no matter whether you just turned 3 in nominal age or entered middle age 4, when people are eliminated from society, you never say hello.

think about it, society is still so cruel to executives, not to mention that there are no ordinary employees with skills. If you don't stand up at the age of 3, how can you support the rest of your life?

The reason why the node of 3 is important is that it is the age when a person begins to turn from one generation to another, and it is the summary of the first half of youth and the new beginning of the following chapters.

whether you admit it or not, after 3 years old, everything you experience is no longer a memory of youth, but a life experience.

in the past 8 years, there have been old and small roads, and it is also the turn of the post-9 s to leave.

2.

Being a social animal is not a problem, but having no money.

There is a line in the Japanese TV series Uncle's Love:

"Don't scold young people loudly, they will resign immediately, but you can scold those middle-aged people to death, especially those who have cars, houses and babies."

At that time, this remark caused a general buzz, and the bitterness of middle-aged people jumped to the paper, and the image of young people's willfulness and absurdity was deeply rooted in people's hearts.

Indeed, according to the big data,

The average working time of the first job is the longest after 7, with an average of 4 years and 3 months, followed by 3.5 years after 8, only after 9, it dropped sharply here, and after 95, it was as short as the average working time of the first job was 7 months, so say goodbye.

In this regard, People's Daily judged that young people are "naked resignation if they don't agree with each other", and it is difficult to achieve great things without practicing internal skills.

To be honest, most people start to live independently when they go out to work and make a living in the society. Everyone knows that naked resignation has never been a good thing. After all, the monthly expenses of rent, water, electricity and meals, without income, a clever woman can't cook without rice.

So who wants to live in a precarious situation after naked resignation's death and be labeled as "rotten wood" unless forced to do so?

For most young people, naked resignation is not for comfort, but for money. In order to live a better life, finding a job suitable for their long-term struggle while young is the more secure for the future.

As the netizen said, you can scold me, but you can't deduct my money. You talk to me about dreams, then I tell you, my dream is to have money.

It's nonsense to talk about dreams without money. No one wants to lose their jobs casually. The problem is that money is not in place, there is no growth, and they are forced to do nothing.

I remember that my cousin spoke to me that day and advised me to decide on a worthy job that I can endure as soon as possible, otherwise, after 3 years or a year, people will have no young capital to squander, and even if they live as a social animal and have a rubbish position, they will not dare to change jobs easily.

because once we fall into the work window, the living expenses of the whole family alone will kill us.

Zhang Ailing said, "When people reach middle age, they often feel lonely. Because as soon as you open your eyes, you are surrounded by people who depend on you, but there is no one you can rely on. "

nowadays, this kind of experience doesn't need to be in middle age, and you can feel the pressure as soon as you enter 3.

3.

Anyone who drinks this glass of life will get drunk.

Some netizens in Zhihu asked: Why do some people sit alone in the car after driving home?

The answer of the highest praise @ Love Sauce is:

Because it is a dividing point, you are daily necessities, a father, a son and a husband, but not yourself.

and in the car, quietly smoke a cigarette, this body belongs to yourself.

This is not only a man's feeling, but also a woman's heartfelt words. Light the cigarette of life, put down the burden on your shoulders and enjoy loneliness in your own space.

men have men's sufferings, and women have women's tiredness, and no one is easier than others.

You see, many post-9s people have already completed their major marriages and given birth to children before they reach the age of 3, and their life ideal is over half, with few bank deposits.

This means that two people have to bear the support of four old people, and there are children to support. Those middle-aged people have long felt the pain of their families.

In Weibo, there is a hot word called "suicide singles", which refers to the post-9s generation.

in the final analysis, it's not because raising oneself is a problem, and raising dreams is a luxury. How can we raise a family?

I'm used to the sufferings of those people who run for their families, so I'd rather wait until I have the ability to support a family.

Standing at 3 is a small goal set by the post-9s generation. These days, not middle-aged people are qualified to complain.

I remember the personal experience written by a netizen.

His company was in financial crisis, so he decided to lay off a project department. The netizen with a nominal age of 3 just happened to be one of them.

Men who are almost 3 years old, old and young, and their abilities are not excellent at this age, why should they compete with younger people for food? It is difficult to find a job, and it is even more difficult to change careers. Thinking about it, a big man felt a midlife crisis for the first time in his life when he took a shower and cried.

Most of the breakdowns of adults are caused by money. The pressure on the post-9s generation is not lower than that of the post-78s generation.

I think of Wang Nima's remarks about the post-9s generation:

"If we want to give the vast majority of post-9s generation an overall impression, we can say that they are the generation who have been delayed in retirement as soon as they get a job, and they are the generation who can't afford to buy a house and get married for 2 years, but they work hard every day.

They are a generation who live in the rented house in Beishangguang despite the harsh employment environment and natural environment and high housing prices, but they don't complain. They are still trying to pursue their ideals and the life they want every day. "

If the post-9s generation is a beat generation, is it all crushed by reality? But even if they get down to their knees, they will go on the road ahead step by step.

4.

It's not easy for the post-9s generation to be unconventional.

Think back to that year, who was not a fearless and carefree person, and stayed or stayed at will.

But now my friends around me, even if they work hard, don't dare to resign casually. After all, they are over 25, and they are further away from 3. They don't have much money in hand, but they owe a lot of money. When their parents retire at home, the pressure is even greater than the mountain.

to sum up, I just want to resign and have no capital.

I have to say that when a person feels the pressure of life, no matter how headstrong and naive he is, he will be forced to grow up. Those who find it easy to make money are just tired of not having received money, and those who talk about their ideals and ambitions have no way out at all.

You know, everyone grows up, and no one can always be an infant.

when the post-9s generation gradually withdrew from the lively stage of society and became a generation of "old people", they who had been questioned had been well immersed in their own way and did not need to worry at all.

Han Han once wrote a Weibo, the content of which was too heartfelt:

"It is unfair to accuse the post-8s and post-9s of not being able to resist pressure, because the pressure of economy and survival is much greater than before, and social development and historical reasons have put too much pressure on this generation."

The post-9s generation around me have quietly raised their families, and those who are nearly 3 years old are even more desperate to run forward. After all, after 31, they will soon be 4, and then it will be too late to talk about savings and life.

In fact, not only the post-9s generation, each generation is very tired, and each generation has its own responsibilities and obligations, but the life of adults is not easy.

As adults, their desires are satisfied, but at the same time, they gradually lose the happiness that was easy to get as children. Undeniably, this is an irreversible trend. What we can do is to Do not forget your initiative mind and look forward to so as to achieve your final goal in the future.

3 years old is a hurdle, and every step in the next year is stressful, so we have to be cautious, but whose life is not like this?

so come on, except for gritting your teeth and letting off steam when you are tired, the sun will still rise tomorrow, otherwise what else can you do? Life is not like this, and it's hard to pass it.