This will not happen to couples who have a good relationship. When this happens, one gets married with the purpose of having a baby, and under the guise of legality, has sexual intercourse and has a baby. Once the purpose is achieved, the relationship can no longer be pretended.

Are you deceiving yourself? The relationship between husband and wife was good but not so good after giving birth. Can I say that my relationship with my husband was sweeter after giving birth than during the relationship. I also asked my husband why he is like this. Most people are not so sweet after getting married. He said, "Who knows whether there will be a result before getting married. Of course, it will not be so good for you. After you have children, you She must be my wife. Even if you are not satisfied with me and leave, don’t I still have children?"

My husband is my first love. We have been dating for several years. He kept his promise not to touch me before marriage. He said: "I don't mind, but that doesn't mean others don't care. If we can't be together in the end, I won't let you...". Although we were in the same city when we were in love, we were still in different places. It would take more than 2 hours to drive to see each other, and we lived together on weekends. I usually don't drink. I only drink a little bit when I'm with him. He doesn't want me to drink and says it's not good for girls to drink. He always gives me an order for drinks. In winter, he even asks the waiter to order some drinks. I warm up my drink, and occasionally drink a beer with him, pretending to be drunk and trying to test whether he can really do what he says. Fortunately, everything happened as he promised. When I'm with him, I don't have that so-called feeling of not seeing him for a day, but I can see you as far as the eye can see. When I have you, you are like the sun, and I can't take my eyes off him. Without you, I lower my head and see no one.

The feeling of being together is that it is very quiet, and you can forget all the troubles and noises around you. It is really not the feeling of heart pounding, but very peaceful.

I heard many people say that when they fall in love, their hearts will pound, their heartbeat will speed up, and one day without seeing each other will feel like three autumns, etc. To be honest, I really didn’t feel this way when my husband and I were in love. On the contrary, as I said above, my heart was particularly calm and I couldn’t hear all the noise around me. The most common place for dating is in the suburbs or the beach. Find a quiet place where two people can sit there quietly, hugging each other, chatting and chatting. When the sun is nice, I can lie down in the car and take a rest, basking in the sun. I feel very relaxed and can even fall asleep. My husband was busy with his own business, and he usually had a lot of worries every day. He himself said that I could see the tiredness on my face even if I didn't often suffer from insomnia. But he fell asleep quickly when I was there, and slept very soundly. Similarly, I also asked my husband whether he had that pounding feeling from time to time, and his answer was basically the same as mine.

Later, his business failed and he returned to before liberation overnight. He just told me lonely: "I have no money, I am bankrupt, I can't give you a happy life" and disappeared from my life for a year. I hated him for a year, but I felt sorry for him and myself more. When I dream back at midnight, I often ask myself why I didn't agree to marry him earlier and let him face this alone. I feel bad why I lost such a person who really loved me. You didn't let me lose, how could I let you lose?

When we met for the first time a year later, the first thing I said to him with a smile and tears was: "I will take you home during the Mid-Autumn Festival, shall we get married?" He also smiled but He also answered "Okay" with tears in his eyes. There is no need to say anything to each other, everything is said without words.

I married from a distant place. When I got the marriage certificate, I didn’t ask for a house or a bride price. I got married with my husband without asking for anything. I didn’t even tell my parents when I got the marriage certificate. The parents who held the wedding did not come to attend the wedding. It seems that I have all the misfortunes, I am married far away, I have no house, no car, no betrothal gifts, thousands of miles apart, and my parents did not come to my wedding.

We had no money after giving birth, and my husband would rather spend half a year’s salary on his credit card than let me live in a confinement center

My child was born after the Dragon Boat Festival in 2016, and the summer weather had just begun. Get hotter. At that time, my husband earned 6,000 yuan a month, and with this 6,000 yuan every month he had to pay back the money he lost from stock trading in the past 15 years. I don’t need to say more about the 2015 stock market crash. Anyone who has experienced the 2015 stock market crash will naturally know it.

If you repay it in installments for 2 years, you need to repay 3,000 credit cards every month. After calculating this, I only have 3,000 yuan left every month. I really don’t deserve to go to a confinement center, not to mention a confinement center, or a confinement nanny.

When the child was born in the hospital, my parents-in-law gave my husband 8,000 yuan as the cost of giving birth to the child. After being reimbursed at the public hospital, I only spent 500 yuan. I stayed in the hospital for 3 days and then went home. After returning home, I gave the 8,000 yuan to my parents-in-law. After all, my parents-in-law were old and did not want to use their money.

When I got home, I didn’t even think about going to the confinement center. In the hospital, there was no milk after the baby was born, so my husband asked me to drink soup. After I got home, my milk was there, but the second day after I got home, I had no milk. The breasts are particularly serious, as hard as rocks, and they hurt so much that I can't touch them. I didn't say a word when the baby was born naturally, but I kept crying because of the pain of lactation. It cost 600 yuan to see a prolactinologist... An hour later, the lactation started again, and the cycle continued. The child cried when he was hungry, and I cried when he was in pain.

The prolactinologist was called three times a day, but it didn’t work at all. There was nothing I could do, so my husband discussed it with me and said, you see, my mother can’t take care of me even if I’m at home all day long. I’m older, over 70, It doesn't help at all when raising children. I just eat what they eat. There is no so-called maternity meal. Your breast congestion is serious, shall we go to the confinement center? My first reaction was to tell my husband that we had no money and it was too expensive to go to the confinement center. My husband said that if the money is gone, you can make money again, but how will you make money if your health is not good? I still say we have no money. My husband just asked me, do you want to go to a confinement center? You don't have to worry about money. I nodded and said I wanted to go, but the pain was unbearable. There were still intermittent labor pains, and the pain from the blocked breasts was constant.

So my husband swiped a credit card worth 36,800 and checked into the confinement center. My first request in the confinement center was to clear the blocked breasts first, so that I didn’t want any more pain.

Judging from the living conditions at that time, I really didn’t deserve to go to the confinement center, and I didn’t deserve to enjoy it. I had to pay off 3,000 yuan in credit cards for 6,000 yuan a month. I only had 3,000 yuan a month left. I still had the courage to continue to use 36,800 credit cards. The confinement center is really not worthy. But my husband and I thought it was very worthwhile and spent 36,800 to buy my health. I also admit that this is the most I have ever spent on enjoying life. I also firmly believe that without good health, no matter how much money you have, it is useless. With good health, I can continue to make money.

The world of a couple has been upgraded from a two-person world to a family of three. The newly born baby occupies most of the wife's energy, from physical changes to endocrinology to parenting. The original living habits and patterns will change a lot all of a sudden. Men have both the joy of becoming a father for the first time and the pressure of life. At this time, the two of you cannot be considerate and caring for each other. If the economic conditions are not very good, you are mentally exhausted and under great financial pressure, and you do not know how to understand each other, it is easy for you to have emotions and conflicts at this time. It is also a necessary running-in period in married life.

Every relationship has a running-in period. A couple will evolve from the initial love to the subsequent family relationship. Even family relationships are to avoid running-in.

Having a child is just another way for couples to get along. If there are problems, they need to communicate with each other and improve, so that the family has the motivation to move forward.

There may be some minor problems that need to be tolerated by the other party, but things that always touch the bottom line should be avoided by anyone with a bit of conscience.

How can couples always have smooth sailing? No matter how good it is now, the one who can reach the end will be happy...

This is the first time for parents. After the child is born, the relationship between the couple will definitely be anxious due to the sudden arrival of the child. . After giving birth to a child, the couple has less time to be alone. More importantly, they even get less sleep. This is the most unbearable thing for people who like to sleep.

Especially in the first to two years after a child is born, sleeping becomes a luxury. If two people would consciously share all the tasks of taking care of children, then they might be able to understand each other's difficulties and be grateful to each other.

But if after the child is born, only one of the couple will give unconditionally for the child, while the other party will always be impatient, will not take practical actions to treat the child, and will not If you care about your significant other and don't appreciate the hard work of the person taking care of the children, conflicts between the couple will easily occur.

As the number of conflicts increases and two people do not want to resolve them, there will definitely be more incomprehension, intolerance, and mutual blaming.

If the relationship between two people was very good before they had children, and then the relationship gradually deteriorated after having children, then you must take it seriously. After all, you got married because of love, and you were not forced by others. . That child is the fruit of your love, and both of you have the obligation to take good care of the child.

As a couple, we must care for each other, understand each other, and tolerate each other. After losing your temper, you still have to return to your family, care about each other, and understand each other.

If there is a relationship problem, it must be repaired in time.

When you have a child, your home will gradually become filled with joy and laughter as the child grows up, because every move of the child may make the parents happy for a long time. How could having a child affect the couple's originally beautiful relationship?

The most important thing in a family’s life is firewood, rice, oil and salt. All kinds of conflicts must not arise just because of financial problems. If there is pressure due to the economy in life, then. Both husband and wife should work actively and hard to earn money to support the family. If the woman cannot make money because she takes care of the children, then the man, as the backbone of the family, should shoulder the responsibilities of the family and not be idle. He doesn't care about his family, his wife and children.

If after getting married, you don’t go to work, don’t make money, and wait to die, then are you getting married to harm your wife and your children?

Those who know how to manage their marriage can survive several seven-year itch together. But some people, because they have not taken up their responsibilities to their families, are too selfish and do not consider their families. There are really too many cases of divorce after two or three years of marriage. Children become single-parent families as soon as they enter kindergarten. There will be several in each class.

No matter what problems arise in your marriage or in the relationship between the couple, as long as both parties are proactive and strive to live a good life for the sake of their family. If you will actively resolve conflicts between two people, then there will be nothing that cannot be resolved.

Some people can live a lifetime of being noisy, and some people are so happy and sweet in the eyes of others. But maybe because of a small thing, the couple can easily have conflicts and cause the marriage to fail.

Don’t use your own marriage to morally kidnap your children, and don’t say that you don’t divorce for the sake of your children.

In fact, marriage is your own. You must learn to value and repair the relationship between two people, and maintain your own family well, so that you can give your children a happy and complete home.

If every marriage is treated casually, and separation and reunion become commonplace, then you may never feel that your marriage is stable in this life.

I have not experienced the pain of my wife giving birth to a child. The bad behavior before marriage is revealed after marriage

A relationship that cannot stand the test.

That’s because before you have children, you live a life of two people. You don’t need to consider so many things in life. The only family members are you and him, which is not a complete family. It is said that when one person is well fed, the whole family will not be hungry, so no matter what the income level is, life will be relatively relaxed, and the relationship will naturally be better!

After giving birth to a child, the family is relatively complete. At this time, many factors such as daily necessities, household chores, etc. must be considered. After giving birth to a child, it means that one person has to make sacrifices in terms of work. At this time, the expenses will increase and the income will decrease. The so-called poor couples will gradually have conflicts if they are in decline.

After having a child, both parties will focus on the child, and will naturally neglect the other's concern. As time goes by, as trivial matters increase, they will think that the other does not understand the other.

Life is hard-won. From acquaintance to acquaintance to love to the crystallization of love, this is a rare fate in a lifetime. This fate will not fall on everyone casually, so we must cooperate with each other. Cherish and understand each other, and do not blame or blame each other for trivial matters, otherwise the misunderstanding will become deeper and deeper. There is no obstacle in life that cannot be overcome. Only with mutual understanding and tolerance can life become better and more beautiful!

A couple who have a good relationship don’t understand each other after having a child. I think it’s because you two haven’t communicated properly. How can you cooperate? After the mother has given birth to a child, the father should do a good job of assisting. The two of them have to cooperate with each other, just like before. The two of them need to communicate a lot, because it is the first time to be a parent, right? Some people think that it is just to let nature take its course, but to let nature take its course, you also need to learn. How to be a parent? How to raise children well? This all needs to be learned. Husband and wife should communicate more and cooperate more. They should communicate more! Some men don’t know what to do even after their wives give birth to a baby. Only when the woman gives him a reward will he know. It seems that everyone has nothing to do. That’s how it is, so two people still have to be calm with each other. With good communication, life can go on sweetly!

At any time, the first relationship is the relationship between husband and wife, and the second is the relationship between parents and children. Many people have reversed this relationship. Many people put children first, so there is There are so many families who divorced after the college entrance examination. In fact, they should understand each other more. The child has his own life and will grow up on his own. There is no need to be too demanding of each other. Understand each other's ordinaryness, and the relationship will naturally get better and they will understand each other