When you grow up, you learn to understand that there will always be countless small disappointments in life, which is for others and for yourself.
Anyway, don't let these tiny disappointments ruin my hopes, and don't be too hard on yourself. Don't be too hard on people who love you so much. He is just a mortal like you.
Come on, let's talk about the case.
Case: My husband owed a gambling debt, but told me it was to give me the life I wanted. Not long ago, Han Xiao came to me and said, Teacher, I am so disappointed in my husband. I feel that he has no sense of responsibility and responsibility as a man. Later, I learned that Han Xiao and her husband, A Chao, met on a blind date. They have been in love for two years, married for five years, and their child is four years old this year. Last year, A Chao was temporarily transferred and the two separated. After staying in a different place for half a year, A Chao went home, but Han Xiao found that A Chao often hid and didn't play with his mobile phone. He often sighed and was listless. Han Xiao thought her husband was cheating on her and forced her to make demands many times. Finally, her husband told her the truth. It turned out that during the six months in different places, A Chao and his colleagues learned to speculate in futures. He not only lost all the money for buying a car, but also owed more than 300 thousand foreign debts. This is the total income of this family for two years without eating or drinking. In the face of possessed Chao, Han Xiao and Chao had a quarrel. Han Xiao scolded A Chao bitterly: "Have you ever thought about our young son, your elderly parents and me when you do this?" Unexpectedly, Chao did not apologize when he heard Han Xiao's words, but turned and ran to the sky.
On the rooftop, A Chao said to Han Xiao, "If you hadn't always said that brothers and sisters would buy a house today and a car the day after tomorrow, would I gamble?" I'm not doing this to give you the life you want! "Han Xiao said, in fact, this is not the first time Chao has been confused. When the child just turned one year old, A Chao and his colleagues gambled online and lost 60,000 to 70,000 yuan. Finally, Han Xiao used his dowry money to help him fill the hole. On that occasion, Chao's reasons were exactly the same as this one. "I thought he would learn from his mistakes. I thought this was the first time and the last time. I didn't expect forgiveness to end like this. "
Analysis: The leaves are not yellow for a day, and people's hearts are not cold overnight. Han provided forgave Chao for the first time because he believed Chao's sweet words and foolishly took the responsibility on himself. I think it was because I put too much pressure on him that he chose to take risks. However, the reality once again gave Han Xiao a blow and made Han Xiao awake. Now, she dare not expect anything from her husband, Chao.
When are girls most likely to be super disappointed in their husbands? First of all: I can't see the future and lose hope.
I happily married the man I love, and I found this man: lazy and enterprising; Never keep your promise; No responsibility, no sense of responsibility, only thinking about their own enjoyment, but regardless of family integrity or family management. In life, you can often see all kinds of last words from men, such as "I will never ignore your feelings again", "I will never go out fooling around again" and "I will definitely keep my word in the future". Men habitually paint grand blueprints for women, but they forget when they turn around. In the end, the promise turned into deceptive rhetoric, which gradually disintegrated the trust between them. Women choose to forgive again and again, but men pour out their hopes countless times. In the end, men are still the same as before, and there is no change at all. Even more terrible gains and losses, can not give her money, can not give her love, but also think that girls want love is melodramatic, and a better life is material.
Secondly: the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is right or wrong. It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law actually depends on how the husband reconciles inside.
But many husbands are always afraid of getting burned and choose to watch the fire directly from the other side; There is also a man who always stands in the camp of his parents, no matter right or wrong, thinking that there is only one parent and that there is no one in the world.
Men do not play a lubricating role in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. On the contrary, they make things worse and worse.