However, such extreme people are always rare in real life. We are just ordinary people, living an ordinary life that has nothing to do with others.
When I first joined the work, I heard from my colleagues that the typesetting editor who left her job left because of divorce. I am more or less curious about the feelings of my former colleagues.
He is usually easygoing. He has a three-year-old daughter, and his wife runs a snack bar, which mainly sells wonton, noodles and jiaozi. In the first few years, the small life of a family of three was also very warm.
The work in the snack bar is very hard. My wife has no education, but she is very diligent and always tries every means to make food more delicious.
After a long time, my wife's snack bar has more repeat customers, business is getting better and better, and more and more money is earned.
After slowly saving some money, my wife wants to change to a big house. The family is in this small house of more than 30 square meters. When the daughter grows up, she always sleeps separately from them. On the contrary, the husband thinks that this house is a down payment borrowed by parents from relatives and friends at home. Now it's finally relieved, and I don't want to put so much pressure on myself.
Over time, two people often quarrel about the house.
My wife is busy in the snack bar every day and has to take care of her daughter. It's especially hard to get up early and get greedy. Husband still goes to and from work every day. Two people became strangers under the same roof.
One day, my husband suddenly said, "Let's get a divorce. The house and savings are yours and your daughter's. "
My wife can't accept it. Two people from remote rural areas have been working hard for so many years to live a better life for their family. Although they may not agree, they can discuss it!
In those days, they ignored each other and went about their business. Until the husband came home from work one day, the wife finished the day's work early and waited for him at home. "If you really want a divorce, then I will help you."
The next day, they went back to their hometown for formalities.
In modern life, the pressure from work and life makes many people in a state of high mental tension, just like a string will break if it is stretched too tightly. People are the same. If you stay in such an environment for a long time, relaxing immediately will make you worry that there are more terrible things waiting for you.
They need mental relaxation and physical relaxation too much.
To put it mildly, I don't love it, and to put it bluntly, I want to save face.
Some people say that sex is the most important and wonderful content in marriage and the best mediator between husband and wife. Whether you are happy or depressed, even if you quarrel and get angry, sex can immediately make people excited and relieve all troubles and misunderstandings.
But what if there is no sexual life between husband and wife? That's a real problem.
But why not have sex?
Perhaps it is because one of them has suffered a major trauma or congenital asexuality, frigidity, or even sex. This reason is far-fetched. The more likely reason is that the husband and wife leave early and return late, and the pace of life is not consistent. When there is a lack of communication between the two, their "sexual interest" is greatly reduced, and for a long time, there is no sex life.
Without sex, the relationship between husband and wife becomes cold and strange, and finally goes to the point of no return.
Is Cai Qin's asexual marriage really the other person's yearning for Platonic love? The betrayal of a man tells us that it is not that he doesn't need sex, but that there is something wrong with the object of sexual love.
Such a marriage in name only is not a painful torment for anyone!
This reason is always unwilling to be admitted, but for the "little three", upper success is also a skill.
To be honest, when my colleagues told me about my former colleagues, my first reaction was that the man must have someone outside. However, after listening to my colleagues, I realized that I was wrong.
After leaving his job, he went to a big city. At that time, the internet had become popular. From his QQ space, I learned about his life after divorce: although the pace of life in big cities is fast, his whole mental state is different. He became confident and sunny, and seemed to enjoy his present life.
However, extramarital affairs are still one of the undeniable reasons for men's divorce.
Some people say that love has a right and wrong time, and the second marriage is not necessarily inferior to the original match, but this is not a sufficient reason for men to cheat!
What kind of woman is she that makes men have to divorce?
As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. Only when the three views are consistent can people come together, let alone couples who will live together in partnership in the future.
People with different views have different views, no matter where they are interested, the direction of life or the level of knowledge cognition. There is a word on the internet called "awkward conversation", which doesn't matter much. With such a person, he will never understand your thoughts and walk into your heart.
If a male star betrays his wife and cheats on a beautiful young girl. From the standpoint of a man, he has been making progress and struggling, while his wife has been standing still, and the distance between them is getting farther and farther.
We can't deny that in marriage, women have to bear more responsibilities than men do to their children, husbands and families.
Remember that movie "My Family is Happy"? When the boss Kim divorced, her husband said, "You don't have to work, you don't have to go to work, and you take care of your children at home every day. What's so boring? "
When they divorced, the man soon regretted it, and he also understood the hardships and difficulties of women at home.
Many men don't know that long-term trivial matters will make a woman exhausted, especially when going to work. Of course, this is not a reason for a woman to complain, but if she keeps complaining and spreading negative energy, especially in front of friends, the moment when a man loses his dignity is the beginning of boredom with women.
There is a song called "You look good when you smile". Instead of complaining, change your mind. A smile is a sharp weapon to cure all troubles.
When David was a special guest in Jiangsu Satellite TV's "Do Not Disturb", he once said to a chubby female guest: Men are all related to appearance.
It is also said that physical beauty is the premise for men to understand women.
Imagine how a unkempt woman, or a unkempt and plain woman, can attract men's attention and goodwill. In this world, there are no ugly women, only lazy women.
For a woman, physical beauty is an advantage, but when she really gets along with others, she relies on heart-to-heart. At this point, connotation has become a woman's greatest capital.
2 1 century today, only "inner beauty" is out of date and is no longer a popular product of this era. Only a woman with beautiful appearance and beautiful heart is the darling of this era.
After divorce, will men regret it?
Yes! Because I found the goodness of my original wife, which is what most men think. However, there is never regret medicine to buy in this world.
Don't! It is better to be a wife now. In particular, I want to ask: Is the original wife so heinous?
After so many years, what happened to my former colleagues?
I dare not ask him "Do you regret it", but I feel from his words that he failed his ex-wife and eldest daughter, but he will not fail his present wife and youngest daughter.
Men say that men should take responsibility, and since they have done it, they will not regret it. Besides, a good horse never looks back. However, a word of advice: even if you want to eat, grass is not the original taste.
The woman said that he would rather leave home clean than divorce, and now he regrets it. It's too late! As a woman, I also want to say that such a man cannot be ruled out for the first time.
Speaking of which, my heart suddenly became heavy.
I think that a colleague's ex-wife left her job and still runs her own snack bar, but the store has grown bigger, hired people and spent more time with her daughter. Emotionally, she is still single.
This is probably a woman!
However, perhaps we don't fully understand what men call "clean going out"-intangible assets such as houses, cars and deposits are given to women, but what about children? He ignored the existence of a living person with his own blood in his body. At this moment, the child became a woman's "private goods". How ridiculous it is that women are born without children.
Finally, I would rather such a man had no regrets. Besides, no woman will wait for him in the same place.
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