At first, little light light blue spoke hesitatingly, as if she had a lot of scruples, but with the deepening of communication, her thoughts gradually became clear and her speech became more and more fluent.

Little light light blue: (embarrassed) My boyfriend has disappeared again, and the phone can't get through. I called his home several times these two days, but they didn't know where he had gone. His father said it was near Wu Da, or it might be somewhere else. We have been together for two years, and he is always like this. He often disappears without saying a word, and he can't find anyone for ten days and a half. (Sadly) We have talked about getting married, and now I am hesitating whether to marry him or not.

Reporter: Where did he go every time he ran away? (Guess) Is he in contact with other women?

Little light light blue: (quickly refutes) No, no. I know him too well. Every time he runs away, it has nothing to do with women. For example, he went to Beijing to study for an MBA, and also went to some international expositions in Shanghai.

Reporter: Why go to those places? Is this his job?

Xiao Lanlan: You can say yes orno. After graduating from college, he went to work in a financial institution. He was arrogant and offended the leader. People found a reason to dismiss him. He can survive by doing temporary translation for others these years, but he has never been reconciled and always hopes to find some opportunities to make a blockbuster. We also met some bosses in Wuhan, and he talked with them about his ideas. As a result, people say that we dare not use talents like you. So in recent years, he always went out to Beijing, Shanghai and Shenzhen to get in touch with the latest information and look for various opportunities. But he hasn't waited for such an opportunity, and he hasn't found anyone who appreciates him.

Reporter: It is not a bad thing for a person to have a dream.

Little light light blue: I also know this truth. The problem is, you can't just dream. You see, I am twenty-eight, and he is thirty-four. They are both old. They have been in love for two years, and their relationship is not bad. I'm sure I want to settle down, but he always seems to be in no hurry. Once I was in a hurry, he said I was too abstract and asked me to write a detailed thing. I discussed it carefully with my friends a few days ago, and spent two or three days writing a "love plan" at home, which was very detailed, including what their family bought and what our family bought. He took a look at it, but said nothing. Now he just disappeared. He broke my heart too much this time.

Reporter: Doesn't he want to get married?

Little light light blue: Not really. I have a good relationship with him, and he will still get married. It's just that he hasn't made any achievements in his career, which has always been a knot in his heart. In other words, even if we get married, he will leave without saying a word and do what he wants. What if he doesn't succeed all his life and I live in fear all my life?

Reporter: It depends on whether you can accept this lifestyle.

Little light light blue: I don't know. What attracted me at the beginning was something extraordinary about him. If he was too content with mediocrity, I wouldn't be with him then. (with emotion) In fact, it is not easy for us to be together. From the beginning, my parents opposed our falling in love on the grounds that he didn't have a stable job and many ideas were unrealistic. It was at my insistence that my parents began to accept him slowly. But people are growing, and many of my classmates are married. If I liked his wandering spirit two years ago, I just want to have a stable home two years later. I also advised him to find a job nearby and live a stable life, but he just wouldn't listen.

Reporter: It seems that you two still have different ideas about the future.

Little light light blue: Yes, every time he left, he used to call me with a smile and tell me where he was, as if nothing had happened. Every time he calls, I forgive him because I feel uncomfortable. But this time, if he calls me again, I really have to think about whether to accept him or not.

Reporter's testimony: When he succeeded,

Listening to the short story, I remembered the song "I am a bird". Little blue boyfriend is like the song "I want to fly, but I can't fly high". On one occasion, he was expelled from the company and couldn't get the favor of his parents, which didn't make Xiao Light Light deny this relationship. But now she finally hesitates, because she doesn't know how long to wait, one year, ten years, or a lifetime. If success must be at the expense of destroying a quiet life, is it worth it?

I suddenly understand why many girls ask their boyfriends for spot futures. They don't want to pay too high a price.

I remember another song in Zhao Chuan, which tells that when a man succeeded and was surrounded by flowers, the woman who accompanied him through hardships left. A woman who waits for a man's success may not be able to enjoy the fruits of his success.

The question is, how much love does a woman have if a man succeeds? Is it so hard to have it both ways?