I've been a marriage counselor for 16 years, and I've had the most contact with couples, while thousands of couples I've consulted are divorced by betrayal, and they can't leave their families.

By summing up the marital problems in these years, I found that men are easy to betray, which can be seen from their family background.

I said that only by studying psychology can we really see the essence through phenomena.

Why is marriage so easy to go wrong now? It is because love is too shallow that one can only judge one's feelings through one's external performance. We don't know how to see the essence of a problem and a person at a glance with a "critical eye"

Psychology believes that to solve anything, we must have a "historical view", that is, we must look at the "past, present and future" of this matter.

According to my years of experience in marriage counseling, I found that there are three kinds of men in "Descendants". No matter how good they are to you, they are the most likely to betray in the future.

The first kind of "wild horse" man comes from a "doting family":

For example, a student told me that the marriage is 13, and her husband and she are asexual and loveless. I usually do two things, one is playing games, and the other is playing futures.

He is crazy about investing and spending when he has money, and playing games when he has no money.

where is the money to come from?

From his parents.

How crazy is he?

Because his parents had no money, he went to borrow usury and his house was mortgaged!

Now he has found a rich woman outside marriage and is determined to divorce her, because that rich woman can support him to work so hard.

Can such a man have it?

If you don't have strong willpower and high pattern, you can't cure such a wild horse.

You have to be hard on this kind of man, so that he must hit a wall, first knock out the women outside, and then he will come back to you. You have to give him a way with a real sense of self-worth.

If you don't have a strong heart, I advise you to back down.

The second kind of "ostrich-type" man comes from "intervention family background"

This kind of man is extremely "deceptive", he will be obedient to you, especially understand your mind, especially delicate and warm. But it is not until you get married or have children and his parents appear in your world that you understand why he knows how to "serve others".

That is the result of his parents' years of training.

To your shock, as long as his parents appeared, he immediately lost his "self-will". From his parents' point of view, whether he is cold-blooded and violent to you or stands up for his parents, you will see all kinds of words and deeds that are cold-blooded and heartless to you.

Because "mother" is more influential than "bride", after all, you have only known each other for a long time, and he has been "tamed" since he was a child.

For this kind of man, you need to learn the "sow discord" I learned in the series of husband-wife communication courses. You need to arouse the dissatisfaction with your parents that the man has been suppressing. When his anger overcomes his fear and you successfully brainwash his three views, you two can create a sense of boundary for your home together.

The third kind of "kangaroo" man comes from a "family of hardship"

They often come from Phoenix men or single-parent families, or their parents have a bad relationship. In short, he committed crimes when he was a child, so this kind of man often has a "mask personality", for example, he looks optimistic, but this is just his personality when he is young and enterprising. It is impossible for such a person to succeed. Once he succeeds, he will be arrogant and don't know his last name.

You can do all kinds of things.

Because they feel inferior and lack love, you think they are generous, but because they feel inferior, they have to put up with you. When he succeeds, he thinks you are not good enough for him, and he will do whatever he wants.

For this kind of man, you must improve your own value, and you can't let him be suppressed into a garbage-type "three noes" woman: no self-esteem, no value, no self.

You will see the darkest and ugliest side of this person. For such a man, you must learn my "carrot and stick" in the series of husband-wife communication courses to really get rid of him.

In short, for different men, you should make different strategies, some need to be soft before hard, and some need to be hard before soft. These measures and the mastery of the temperature will test your emotional intelligence level.