What is a good man? In my opinion, an excellent man should have at least four elements: personality charm, career, family and money.
Personality charm refers to personality and a person's essence. It probably includes the following: love the motherland, love society, love life, be honest, have a strong sense of social responsibility and family responsibility, be broad-minded, caring, law-abiding, respect others, have good social morality, family morality and good quality cultivation, and have original opinions on things, and so on. Personality is very important in this world. If you don't have this, even if you have a successful career and earn more money, you can't be considered excellent. At best, you are just a rich man or a successful person in a certain field.
The specific embodiment of personality charm includes heroes who died for their country and honest people named Ping. A man with excellent personality has his own code of conduct in everything, which is not only reflected in right and wrong, but also in the trivial details of daily life. Lu Xun, Ba Jin and other great literary masters, whose outstanding personality charm shines on the world, is an example.
A few days ago, a news broke out in the entertainment circle that the director of a movie temporarily changed the heroine, which made the original heroine very angry. In a rage, she said in front of the The Paper reporter, "Why don't you ask him (the director of the play) what he said in bed?" It turned out that the director of the play had already reached an agreement with this woman on the condition that "you sleep with me and I will let you be the heroine". Now that the heroine has changed temporarily, it is no wonder that the woman lost her temper and shouted what he said in bed. It is reported that this is an open secret in the circle, on the condition that "you sleep with me and I will make you famous". Although this condition is harsh, it seems fair. I heard that there are still many people waiting in line to sleep with the director. A director like this has a very bad personality. Even if he is successful in acting, he can't be regarded as an excellent man here. Tell him to step aside.
Followed by career. It doesn't matter if a woman has no career, but it is terrible for a man to have no career. I don't discriminate, but China's traditional concept of following customs for 5,000 years has formed the basic thinking of our understanding of the problem today. Just like a girl who is 6 meters tall wants to find a boyfriend who is 6 meters tall instead of a boyfriend who is 5 meters tall or 4 meters tall, the girl wants to be protected by a man instead of protecting him. The success of a career can be divided into two stages: struggle and success. Nowadays, there are many people struggling in the society, and few people succeed. Those who have tried may not be successful, but successful people must have tried. A successful career is not necessarily a good man, but a good man must be successful in his career.
In men's life, career is one of their important life themes. Working hard to start a business can not only get economic benefits to solve many problems in real life, but more importantly, through starting a business, we can constantly improve our social status and social value, and make our future better and our loved ones better. This is what they pursue, and this is the meaning of their life. Good men don't want to be ordinary. They are creating one peak after another with their own sweat, which embodies their infinitely beautiful life value. Although there is pain, it is happy, fulfilling and happy.
Once again, family. The family I'm talking about here refers to the family established after a man marries his wife, not the family given by his parents. Finding a suitable girl as a wife, establishing a happy marriage and creating a warm and harmonious family depend not only on fate, but also on men's ability to control marriage and family. A good man can give his wife, children and family a sense of security, both emotionally and financially. Whenever he comes home from hard work, his lover will give him a happy and sweet smile first, and then pour him a cup of warm and delicious coffee. After reviewing his homework, the child lay in his warm arms and fell asleep happily. My parents are talking happily about today's cabbage, which is three hairs more expensive than yesterday. If the weather is bad tomorrow, I won't go to Baiyun Mountain to play Tai Chi ... warmth, warmth, harmony and happiness reflect the Excellence of this man and his dedication and control of this family.
A happy marriage environment and family environment are indispensable rear forces for a man to create an outstanding career. In order to make his loved ones live better, and to make himself live better, he runs around in the wind and rain, gallops in the shopping mall or handles all kinds of complicated personnel relations tactfully. I don't think a man who has failed in marriage and family is an excellent man, although he has an excellent personality and a very successful career.
Finally, money. When I say money here, I mean the money earned by men through their own labor, which is in addition to the necessary expenses such as family food, clothing, housing and transportation. For example, the money for buying a private car is within my range. A good man also needs to have relatively ample money, for example, in addition to the normal daily expenses of the family, there are hundreds of thousands of yuan in deposits, and so on.
In a way, successful people also have money. However, having a career means not only money, but also social status and social value. Having money doesn't mean having a career. Making money is one of the purposes of starting a business, and starting a business is the process of making money.