There is a topic that has quietly climbed into the hot search, causing heated discussion-the single adult population in China exceeds 200 million. According to the data of the Ministry of Civil Affairs, in 20 18, the single adult population in China has exceeded 200 million, and the adult population living alone has exceeded 77 million. Some economists believe that the lonely economy was born to adapt to the change of population.

"The social demographic structure has changed to some extent, and the demand level has changed. For example, if the birth rate is particularly high, then there will be a baby economy; If aging is serious, then there will be an aging economy; Now that there are more single people, a lonely economy will be formed. "

In recent years, not only has the single population skyrocketed, but the marriage rate has also decreased year by year. Big data shows that since 20 13 years, the marriage rate has been declining year by year. In 20 13, the national marriage rate was 9.9‰; in 20 14, it was 9.0‰; in 20 15, it was 8.3‰; and in 20 17, it was 7.7‰.

By 20 18, the marriage rate was only 7.2‰, setting a new low since 20 13. At the same time, the divorce rate in 15 years has been rising. For modern people, marriage is no longer a necessity. At present, there are no more people of marriageable age than those born in 1990s, with the oldest being 30 years old and the youngest being 18 years old.

It can be said that a large part of the 200 million single population is born after 90. The post-90s generation is the most complicated group of people. They experienced poverty and witnessed the rapid development of society. This generation is the first to break away from the concept of their parents. They are trying many new lifestyles and have a lot to think about their future.

They are different from the generation after 70 and 80. They no longer take getting married and having children as their goal in life. What they pursue more is independence and individuality, and marriage is just the opposite.

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There is a hot topic in Zhihu: Why do the post-90s generation want to get married less and less? The most frequently mentioned word is: no money.

There is no doubt that economic foundation plays a vital role in marriage. But for the post-90s generation, if they don't have enough money, marriage is not guaranteed for them.

How much does it cost to get married now? The RV is standard, and there are various fees such as bride price. My cousin spent a full 300 thousand on getting married last year. For an ordinary family, 300 thousand is undoubtedly all the money.

Is it really worth losing your parents' pension money and your family's quality of life when you get married? Many couples come to the crossroads of marriage and finally fall apart because of money.

In To Youth, Chen and Kevin·Z fell in love and broke up after graduation. Chen said: "My life is a building that can only be built once. I have to be extremely precise, there can be no difference of one centimeter. So, I'm too nervous and afraid of making mistakes. Young people are too poor to support themselves. What dreams and love can they talk about? "

Yes, dreams without money are just fantasies, and love without money is just a mess. In the first half of my life, Luo Ziqun married Bai Guang because of love, and as a result, his married life was restless.

The family is crowded in the rental house, and the children have to borrow money to buy diapers and milk powder. After this meal, there is no next meal. Lack of material resources will inevitably lead to all kinds of quarrels.

Luo Ziqun felt wronged. She can only buy cheap goods, use cheap skin care products, and even be laughed at by her husband. And Bai Guang became angry and anxious because he had no money. He goes crazy at the mere mention of the word money.

Some people say that they really don't want to get married without money. I agree. The daily necessities of marriage involve money. If even food and clothing is a problem, then even the best love will only become ugly in the end.

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Some people say that love should not be so utilitarian, and naked marriage can also be done. Of course, this statement sounds romantic, but when love is really implemented, you will find that in marriage, love can't be all water.

There is a clip in Dwelling House in which Pinghai and Su Chun can argue for a long time over a dollar.

After they got married, they have been renting in a dark and damp house, running for a living all day, but they can't see the future. The lack of material makes both of them feel anxious, so their temper is getting bigger and bigger, and a little thing is enough to ignite each other.

And those once beautiful romances have long been smoothed by life. One person can eat chaff and swallow vegetables when he is poor, but the poverty of two people is unbearable for most people.

There is a sentence in the Book of Changes that hits the nail on the head: "One person can be poor, but two people can't, because if they are poor, they can't help but blame him."

What really defeats love is not money itself, but anxiety and uneasiness caused by lack of money. When two people are together, they need romance and a sense of ceremony, all of which are inseparable from money. How can you talk about happiness when you can't even afford a lipstick?

When I was a child, Coulee said to Gu Yuan, "Love without substance is like a loose sand. There is no need for the wind to blow, and it will be scattered in two steps. Mother often said: "Love should be based on a certain economic foundation, and the economic foundation determines the superstructure. Love without bread won't last long, and love is dispensable for those who have no place to stand. "

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For the post-90s generation, it is the law of life to make a living first and then make love. This generation knows more about the importance of money and that only money can bring freedom of choice.

More and more single people, in fact, is not a bad thing, this is the inevitable development of society. It can only be said that this generation of young people began to break away from traditional ideas, and they began to pursue a broader life.

It is better to make money than to fall in love, which has become the slogan of more and more post-90 s. Of course, I am not advocating the pursuit of singles, but entering marriage without being ready may not be the best choice.

It is an unchangeable truth that the economic base determines the superstructure.

This is especially true in marriage. The combination of two people needs not only love, but also benefits. Nowadays, more and more couples are evenly matched and join hands. This kind of marriage is icing on the cake.

Professor Xue Zhaofeng said:

"Marriage is to run a business, that is, to sign a contract, run a family business and sign a lifelong wholesale futures contract. Both husband and wife use their own resources to run a business together. The two sides give different resource packages, including physical appearance, fertility, family relationship and future development potential. And the time to play a role is different. "

And money is undoubtedly the most important resource in this cooperation. No matter how much money you can control, how much power you can control. In fact, it is not only men but also women who have money to get married again.

If a woman has nothing, most of the partners she meets are people at her level. Only when you are financially independent and can even buy a house or a car can you have confidence in your marriage.

I remember someone once asked Yang Mi, "Will you discuss with Hawick Lau when you buy a house?" She replied, "No, because I can afford it myself." Now that they are divorced, it is said that the division of property involves hundreds of millions.

For the rich, marriage is not a burden, even if divorced, they can live well.

This is the greatest confidence that money brings to marriage.