Ying Da and Ying Ruyong went on a hot search at the same time. What people talk about most is not the ability to be mediocre, but Ying Da's aversion to his younger son's strong fatherly love! Among them, a well-known reporter bluntly said on his Weibo: "I really don't like Ying Da at all ..."
Why? A father cannot love his son too much. Why can he arouse others' antipathy?
If a father has two sons, and he only devotes all his father's love to one son, but he doesn't care about the other son, or even gives him a penny for living expenses, do you still think it's normal?
If you were an unpopular son, Batu, how would you treat such a father?
Let's start with the story of Ying Ruyong and Batu Ying.
0 1 Parents' grudges, the bane buried.
Batu is the son of Ying Da and his ex-wife Song Dandan. When his parents divorced, he was only seven years old and not sensible. Speaking of the divorce between Ying Da and Song Dandan, it's a bloody story. This may have laid the groundwork for Ying Da's cold-blooded treatment of Batu, or at least found an excuse.
Before the divorce, the two had said that they would make up and break up. But on the day of the divorce certificate, the information of the BB machine that Ying Da left in Song Dandan's car came. I saw the other person ask, "Where are you? How is the procedure going? "
Song Dandan, a look, I knew he was in two routines. Coupled with years of grievances and Ying Da's indifference to her, her bad temper suddenly came up, and after the divorce, their grievances continued. The person who sent a text message to Ying Da is his current wife, Liang Huan, which is Ying Ruyong's mother.
Ying Da and Song Dandan hit it off when they got married, and both parents were very satisfied. After Yingda was a rich family in Beijing, Song Dandan was also the youngest daughter of a famous scholarly family.
After marriage, they naturally had a very sweet life. It's just that Song Dandan is famous for the TV series "The World Is Back". Who's Ying Da? Few people know yet.
What brings them together is their common work: I love my family, directed by Ying Da, written by Liang Huan and starring Song Dandan. This TV series is the first indoor sitcom in China. At that time, when it was broadcast every night, it was no exaggeration to use empty lanes to describe it.
When shooting, Ying Da was the director and Liang Huan was the screenwriter, so it was natural for them to exchange scripts and plots together. Besides acting, Song Dandan has to take care of the children and the elderly at home. Although there were various media reports about Ying Da and Liang Huan at that time, Song Dandan also felt that there was something wrong with Ying Da, but there was no real evidence. In addition, Ying Da refused to admit it, and Song Dandan didn't delve into it.
As Ying Da became more and more famous, he later refused to go home under various excuses. Song Dandan herself is a woman with great personality. One day, she called Ying Da and said, "I'm having an affair. Let's divorce! "
Who knows, Ying Da immediately agreed, and said quite gracefully: "Let's break up peacefully." . It shows that he is a tolerant person and will not make a fuss about it.
On the day of their divorce, on the way to the Civil Affairs Bureau, Ying Da showed a good impression on Song Dandan, as if she had unfinished feelings, and gave her a song "Make me happy, make me sad".
I think at the beginning, Song Dandan was just immersed in the sad melody of the song, and in the helpless parting scene of "long love and long hate" and "can't stay", thinking about how reluctant the other party was to her. In fact, what the other party wants to express may only be the title itself: "Let me rejoice and let me worry", and it may be more joy.
But when they went to get the divorce certificate, Ying Da left the marriage certificate and the BB machine in the car. When Song Dandan went to get her marriage license, she saw the text message that made her crazy. They didn't break up peacefully in the end, which laid a curse.
Later, in Song Dandan's autobiography "Deep Happiness", she talked about her married life with Ying Da, and of course talked about the scene on the day of divorce. Unexpectedly, Ying Da directly called her a "nudist". This deepened Ying Da's hatred of Song Dandan.
People say that love is a matter for two people, marriage is a matter for two families, and divorce is of course a matter for two families.
This means that if two people divorce, it will hurt not only the parties themselves, but also their relatives, especially after two people have children, the most direct victim is the children. Batu is no exception.
Two brothers and the same father have different lives.
After Ying Da and Song Dandan divorced, Ying Da and Liang Huan had a "flash marriage" just over a month, which further confirmed that their previous relationship was not simple. Song Dandan went to the United States alone with sadness and loss.
But just a few months ago, Batu had just celebrated his sixth birthday. Father, mother and grandfather all wrote him a letter on his birthday. Ying Da wrote in his letter to his son: "Dad is very sad. He can't play with you as often as other children's fathers do. Dad wants to say sorry here. " .
In Ying Da's letter, there is a kind of guilt that the father can't accompany his son, but more love for his son. So when the adults read this letter to Batu, he was very happy, and at the same time waved his little hand to his father and said it didn't matter.
The warm picture has not faded in memory, and the world in front of Little Batu has become another look. My mother went to America, and there was a woman beside my father. And that letter is the warmest memory left by his father Ying Da.
A child is the meat that falls from his mother, and he takes her heart with him wherever he goes. Batu was brought up in Song Dandan. When she arrived in America, she soon regretted not bringing Batu to her side. So, she returned to China in desperation and wanted custody of Batu.
Batu has since left Ying Da. What he didn't expect was that he also lost his father's love. Batu never saw his father again, let alone a gift, not even a greeting. Even the father's obligation to raise minor children is unwilling to be borne by Ying Da. He never gave Batu a penny.
There is a saying: without comparison, there is no harm.
Even if Ying Da didn't give Batu a penny, he didn't say hello, and everyone lived a quiet life.
However, since Ying Da had a young son, his fatherly love has been posted on his social platform or displayed on TV. People witnessed his full fatherly love and filled every growth stage of Ying Ruyong. Through this Winter Olympics, it is obvious.
When Ying Da was young, he didn't know English as Yong's interest. They bought a piano for their son, hoping to train him into an artistic genius. When discovering that children have great ice hockey potential, Ying Da spared no expense to build a private ice hockey rink for his son to practice.
Later, he sent his son to the United States to study so that he could practice and play in top ice hockey clubs. Ying Da himself said that he would spend a lot of money, and he was talking about "continuing glory".
My son is not afraid of being tired when he participates in various ice hockey games. From his conversation with reporters, he said that you can judge by the material of skates, and we can easily see that he is a complete expert. This shows how much he cares about this son.
In social life, people talk about fairness. In love life, the common people have a mantra that a bowl of water is flat.
Ordinary people know that even if the husband and wife don't grow old together, they should do their duty, give their love and try their best to level the bowl of water for their children before their children come of age.
What's more, Ying Da graduated from Peking University majoring in psychology. He should know that he is partial to his younger son and shows off all kinds of attention and companionship to his younger son in various media, which will hurt Batu anyway. So Song Dandan often called him "not a man".
Therefore, this time he paid attention to his younger son, and people did not praise his great fatherly love, but rather weighed the weight of his fatherly love between the two sons.
Unfortunately, what should you do when you meet an eccentric parent?
Have you noticed that although Song Dandan once watched Ying Da's kindness to his youngest son on TV or other platforms, we didn't see Batu make any comments on Ying Da when he was crying for Batu.
He stopped talking when he was young and now he is the father of two children. Even if Ying Da chased his youngest son again this time, we still haven't seen Batu send a word.
Some people may say that Batu is not convinced by this. So, if you are Batu and unfortunately meet an eccentric father, what should you do?
There is an interesting answer on Zhihu, because many people like it, and netizens have specially improved it.
The original question is: how to retaliate against eccentric parents? The netizen gave four plans, namely:
The "plan A" of "buddy loyalty" calls your classmates or friends, fights and robs at your father's house, and accuses them of being unfair to you in person.
Needless to say, this method is illegal. If the emotional control of both sides was not good at that time, something bigger would probably happen, and it is hard to say that it would get out of hand in the end.
For example, the Social and Legal Channel reported a case in Zhejiang: 20 16, 16 On February 4th, 20-year-old Xiaofeng was dissatisfied with his eccentric father and killed his stepmother and half-brother in a rather cruel way at home. The reason is that his brother had a little argument with him.
When the reporter interviewed him, he asked him why he wanted to kill his stepmother and younger brother, especially his younger brother who was only a few years old. He said it was to get back at his father and make him "shocked" when he saw this scene.
But the scene of his father's "shock" is different from what he imagined. When the reporter told Xiaofeng that his father would get married again and have another son, he suddenly felt that it was meaningless to do so and immediately regretted it. However, can the law give him a chance to regret?
Therefore, Plan A is a test of the law, and the worst result is mutual loss. Don't do this!
The next step is plan B of "reporting complaints directly". Kind of like Batu's handling. Don't talk to each other, ignore, try to let go, but it's unforgivable.
But there is something worthy of attention, or a legal issue. The eccentric parents are old, and whether they have fulfilled their obligation to support you or not, their children still have the obligation to support the elderly.
Plan C provided by netizens is to find a suitable opportunity and place to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with the eccentric father (mother). Talk about each other's worries and tell each other how they feel.
The last one is Plan X, which pays good for evil. Even if nothing had happened before, I would be doubly kind to him.
Which scheme is good, everyone stands from different angles and the choice may be different. In short, don't make plan A, it's illegal! That's the stupidest behavior! So, dear friend, which method do you prefer?
Write it at the end
As the saying goes, "every family has its own problems."
Celebrity families are like this, and ordinary families have similar situations. If we are unfortunate enough to meet eccentric parents, it is our fate that we can't choose.
But when we are adults, we can choose our own way of life. Mentality determines how to live. When something can't be changed, don't struggle, change your mind, change yourself and make yourself stronger. For example, make more intimate friends, learn more skills and read more books.
Stand higher and you will see more scenery in your eyes.
There is a saying that "forgive others and you will let yourself go". Life without psychological burden is a wonderful thing, don't you think?
Friend, if you were Batu, how would you treat your eccentric parents?
Author: Chunlan
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Editor: Fenghe
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