Gu Tingye finally married Minglan.

He lost his mother when he was young and was not favored by his father. Moreover, because his stepmother, Xiao Qin, wanted to flatter him, and the members of the Four-Fang and Five-Fang clan deliberately discredited him, Gu Tingye had a bad reputation among the aristocratic families in the capital.

Even though he established military exploits and became an important minister of the court, he was still filled with fear when facing the girl he liked, for fear that the Sheng family would not agree.

He spent all his efforts and careful planning, and showed 120,000 sincerity and determination in asking to marry Minglan.

He tried his best to disrupt the marriage between Minglan and the He family; he begged the new emperor to marry him to the legitimate daughter of the Sheng family; he begged the queen to give him a pearl hairpin as a betrothal gift; the betrothal gift to Minglan was even more The entire Mu Cangzhai was filled with items.

Even Ru Lan, the legitimate daughter of the Sheng family who had seen gold and silver treasures since she was a child, felt a little disappointed in her heart.

Minglan, who had been bullied since she was a child, loved by her grandmother, and received a generous dowry from her grandmother, looked at the mountains of betrothal gifts and felt as sweet as honey.

This bride price is not to show off wealth, but to show off love. Gu Tingye put his admiration for Minglan in front of everyone.

Be firm and sincere.

Which girl can withstand such a naked confession of love?

1.

There has always been controversy about whether a bride price should be required when getting married.

Some people say: You can’t have it, it’s a bad habit.

Some people say: It is necessary, this is a test.

Should I want it? Let’s first take a look at those girls who didn’t ask for a bride price when they got married. How are they doing now?

Yang Min and her college classmate Zhang Jiawei have been in love for four years. But Yang Min's parents have always disagreed with their marriage.

First, the family conditions of both parties are too disparate.

Zhang Jiawei’s family is in a rural area. He has two younger siblings who are in school. Their family background is not good. Most of Zhang Jiawei's monthly salary goes to his family.

Yang Min is an only child in the city. She comes from a very good family and is pampered.

The second is that my mother-in-law is too mean and hard to get along with.

Zhang Jiawei’s salary was sent home, and Yang Min’s salary supplemented their expenses.

This move was considered by the mother-in-law to be a backhanded move. Her son had an advantage and could take advantage of her, so she never mentioned the matter of coming to propose marriage.

One family objected and the other did not mention it. The two passionately in love began to live together, and soon Yang Min became pregnant.

Yang Min’s parents were very angry and could do nothing.

When I asked my husband’s family to buy a house for my children, my mother-in-law said: My family has no money. Yang Min's parents had no choice but to pay the down payment for the house.

When I asked my mother-in-law for a betrothal gift, my mother-in-law looked like a dead pig and said: My family has no money.

Seeing that Yang Min was about to show her pregnancy, Yang Min's parents had no choice but to swallow their breath. Who told my daughter to be so confused?

The two got married without a bride price.

Life after marriage is not as beautiful as the bubble when you were in love, and the gorgeous aura will disappear soon. Real life is a mess.

The two began to quarrel because of money issues.

Since becoming pregnant, Yang Min has resigned. As soon as my daughter was born, the financial pressure suddenly increased.

And Zhang Jiawei’s money is still being sent home in a steady stream. As long as Yang Min complained, her mother-in-law would scold Yang Min as a cheapie who would lose money if she gave birth to a daughter and would be a drag on her son.

There are constant quarrels between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Zhang Jiawei began not to go home, and gradually mixed with other women, which eventually ended in divorce.

2.

Every girl who doesn’t ask for a bride price when she gets married will end up like Yang Min?

Of course not.

Netizen Happy Baby is also a girl who gets married without any gift.

There is also a gap in economic conditions between their two families, and my mother-in-law’s family is more financially strapped.

When discussing the marriage, my mother-in-law asked my mother how much dowry she wanted.

My mother knew the situation at her mother-in-law’s house, so she said no. He also said that the two children should slowly save money to buy a house in the future.

Happy Baby’s family gave 150,000 yuan in cash and a car as a dowry, but made one request, that is, be good to their daughter.

When my mother-in-law came to propose marriage, she brought a bunch of gifts and a bank card worth 100,000 yuan, which she said was a bride price.

Happy Baby knew that it was not easy for her mother-in-law to borrow the money from relatives.

So, her mother refused to accept it, saying that her mother-in-law was getting older and she should keep some money around her.

My daughter and son-in-law are both capable. If they work hard, their lives will definitely get better and better.

Later, the two families arranged the marriage after consultation, and the whole process was very pleasant.

My mother-in-law did not keep the 100,000 yuan for herself, but gave it to their family.

After marriage, her mother-in-law loved her very much and would rather let her son do housework than let her do it.

As long as I recall the scene when my mother-in-law held her lovingly in her arms and fed her water and food when she gave birth to a child, Happy Baby will be particularly moved.

So, Happy Baby believes that the house, car, and betrothal gifts are not important. What is important is the person you choose, his character, character, ability and love.

As long as he has good character and personality, his family will not go wrong.

3.

Whether you want a bride price or not is the woman’s business, but whether or not you give a bride price can reveal your husband’s attitude towards you.

Like Yang Min, her mother-in-law just didn't want to give her a bride price and acted like a fool. The reason was that her mother-in-law looked down on Yang Min and didn't respect her parents.

And what about Happy Baby? Her family made it clear that they did not want any betrothal gifts, but her mother-in-law insisted on giving them, which showed her sincerity towards the marriage.

From this aspect, the bride price is also a mirror that can reflect the sincerity and gratitude of the husband's family.

Whose child is not the darling of the family?

Whose child doesn’t grow up from poop and pee?

Only those who have been parents know the hard work involved.

Once a daughter reaches adulthood, she marries into her husband's family and becomes a member of her husband's family, giving birth to children and managing life for her husband's family.

The parents who gave birth to her would shed tears when she got married, and they would have to bear the loneliness of their daughter no longer having the pleasure of being their daughter.

As parents, how can we not feel the same way?

If the in-laws have good intentions, they will understand that the bride price is not compensation, but a kind of comfort, an understanding, a sincerity, and a respect for the in-laws.

This is from a sentimental point of view, and the bride price must be given.

Putting aside the warm veneer of marriage, I more agree with economist Xue Zhaofeng’s calm analysis of marriage.

He believes: "Getting married means running a business and signing a contract. When running a family business, you sign a lifetime wholesale futures contract."

Marriage is when both men and women use their own resources. In a partnership company, the resources provided by both parties are different, including body, fertility, appearance, family relationships, and their own future growth potential.

Everyone provides different resources, and the time at which they come into play is also different.

Traditionally, it is usually women who contribute early, giving birth and taking care of the family. In men, the effect is relatively late, and it is a late bloomer. His effect does not start until he is 30-40 years old.

In this case, the man who pays later will easily take advantage of the woman who paid first.

Have you ever seen too many men cheating on their wives as soon as they reach middle age, and women being beaten to pieces?

So, before marriage, the bride price that the woman asks for is just a mortgage from the man, to provide some protection for the marriage in case of problems in the future.

In this sense, betrothal gifts are more appropriate. Only by asking for a bride price will the man cherish the marriage more.

So, girl, don’t be stupid, never give up everything because of love.

Please remember that when you ask for a betrothal gift, you need not only wealth, but also the sincerity of your husband’s family and a guarantee for your future life.