However, with you, it will become better;

You can live without me,

However, having me will make you better.

So, we decided to be together.

In the variety show "China Blind Date" hosted by Venus, China's most wonderful blind date culture was vividly displayed.

The process of the program is neither men choosing women nor women choosing men, but parents choosing objects for male and female guests.

The program embodies China's parents' concept of choosing a spouse by actively participating in and discussing state affairs, and various funny situations emerge one after another:

Some parents look for a daughter-in-law, just as people in the old society look for an old lady. The only requirement for the woman is that she can work.

Some parents are naturally disgusted with beautiful women, thinking that they are "sluts" and will lead their sons astray, urging them to find a down-to-earth look for their sons.

Some parents are obsessed with Chinese medicine and ask girls not to have cold hands, because in their view, cold hands represent palace cold, which may have a negative impact on future fertility.

Some parents confidently insisted that a 20-year-old man is a futures, a 30-year-old man is a spot, and a 40-year-old man is a hot commodity. They asked female guests how to grasp their husbands after 20 years.

In the program, as long as there are female guests over 30 years old on the stage, what is waiting for her is madness, inhumanity and tragedy, basically without exception.

Can a woman really depreciate over 20? Nobody cares after 30? A woman over 30, really can't find the other half?

Obviously, this is not the truth at all. Blaming the age for not finding the object completely ignores the problem of finding the object itself.

Now is not the time for girls to get married and have children at the age of 20. They can devote more time and energy to themselves and change the industry and the world.

In today's society, marriage is more like forming a "family unlimited company", which means we can only choose one partner. From then on, the profits will be divided into * * * points, and the risks will be assumed indefinitely, so there is no possibility of limited commitment.

At the same time, once the sole partner asks to leave, the company will be dissolved immediately, but the debts and responsibilities that accompany the company will always be borne, and there is no possibility of exemption because of divorce.

No matter men or women, the standard of competitiveness is the same, and the "appearance association" we often say is only a part of it. After all, core competence is the development curve of a person's professional competence.

This professional ability development curve has nothing to do with your gender, nationality, race, face value and age.

A normal person, whether male or female, will choose a life partner who is beneficial to his "economic alliance" and helpful to his life course development, which has nothing to do with age.

My life can be without you, but it will be better with you; You can live without me, but having me will make you better.

So, free choice, we decided to be together.

If a person's life has been improving and growing, then her fear of marriage and age devaluation will be greatly reduced.

A 17-year-old rural girl, like many girls in the same village, will get married and have children before the age of 20 and stay in the rural living environment forever if she has no access to the mobile internet and no education.

If she can get married in a few years, get into a good university, or get development opportunities through the mobile Internet, then her suitable marriage partner will become her college classmate or someone who also works on the mobile Internet.

At this time, if she continues to improve herself, study, go abroad, study for an MBA or even start her own business, then she will come into contact with better people in other industries in the world. At this time, her choices will be wider and her vision will be broader.

Whether men or women, if you can constantly improve yourself in 10 years, then you can find people who tolerate, accept and appreciate you, which will be far beyond your reach when you are 20 years old.

Marriage can make you happier, in the final analysis, because you have improved yourself in all directions, in the final analysis, because you can bring more exchange value to others, and in the final analysis, because you can make yourself better.

The better you become, the better you should become.

In the face of a complex, difficult and risky unknown world, you constantly improve yourself, broaden yourself and challenge yourself just to wait for the person who belongs to you. Think about it, this is still a pretty cool thing.

When I met that person, I proudly said: I have been trying to be better in order to wait for you.

Part of the text comes from The World is Cruel and Gentle.

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