Psychologists have found that bad personality combination is an important reason for failure in life, but personality is not only a natural and genetic factor, but also can be carved by the acquired environment, so personality itself can grow. Just as a good temper can be cultivated slowly, a habit needs unremitting cultivation. People with personality defects will encounter all kinds of obstacles in their career, such as self-confidence, impatience, overconfidence, paranoia, like not being good at summarizing and always making the same mistakes, or easily denying that they can't find their own coordinates, and so on. As far as the author is concerned, I inadvertently developed a very casual, sometimes stubborn, sometimes indecisive character, which made me pay a lot of tuition fees in my ten-year futures investment career. Character can indeed be cultivated. Using discipline to regulate behavior can form habits and reshape personality. Over the years, the author has constantly standardized his trading behavior and occasionally made some mistakes caused by his personality. After a profound summary and reflection, I found myself one step closer to success after ten years.

When it comes to people's character, it seems to be a personal matter. In fact, it is a crucial event that determines the fate of life. "Character decides fate" is definitely thought-provoking wisdom.

People are divided into groups in this interdependent and interlocking modern society. Only sincere cooperation between people can settle down, and the decisive role of personality is increasingly obvious. Positive personality-such as earnest, diligent, optimistic, calm, resolute, bold, generous, frank, humble and enthusiastic-is undoubtedly a good adhesive and yeast, which can make people more caring and enterprising, more attractive and competitive; Negative personality-such as laziness, gloom, selfishness, arrogance, cunning, cowardice, suspicion, narrowness, meanness and ruthlessness-is a terrible isolated area and closed circle, which will make people have a difficult distance from a happy life. If people want to be happy, they must pursue and maintain beautiful love, strong affection, sincere friendship and successful career all their lives, and none of these four elements can be achieved without relying on positive personality.

In Shakespeare's tragedies, all kinds of mistakes and crimes, sadness and regret, despair and madness are all made by the characters' personalities. Othello was so stupid that he killed his beloved wife Desdemona without a doubt. If Timon in Athens is not profligate, how can guests eat such a big enterprise like locusts? If Scottish general Macbeth is not violent, why did the assassination of Duncan eventually lead to disaster? If Hamlet, the prince of Denmark, is not stubborn, why did he pretend to be crazy for many years and take revenge as his sole purpose in life? If Julius Caesar was not headstrong, how could he be assassinated in public by a traitor from the Roman Senate? If King Lear is not a coward, how could he be mercilessly abandoned by his two selfish daughters who have been doting for a long time in his later years? "Everything is inevitable and has a reason." The seeds of character are scattered in the vast heart, and flowers and thorns have been planted!

In the past, people always held a wrong view intentionally or unintentionally, thinking that successful people were successful because their IQ was much higher than that of ordinary people. However, scientific conclusions show that the real advantage of successful people lies in their outstanding emotional intelligence, and personality is the main framework of emotional intelligence. In modern society, if a person wants to fundamentally change his destiny, he must carefully shape his good character for decades, improve his openness and reduce the negative index. Numerous facts have proved that this is indeed an effective road to success. If cunning people still want to work hard on cunning, greedy people still want to play tricks on greed, lazy people still want to play games on laziness, and ruthless people still want to break records on cruelty, it will definitely backfire and walk into a dead end of fate.

"A leopard cannot change his spots, but a leopard cannot change his spots". This old saying fully illustrates how difficult it is to self-correct and surpass. But "hard to move" does not mean not to move. The key is to work hard to solve the "difficulties". After 60 years of life experience, the old lady's personality consciousness has also changed in many aspects, such as: introversion in the past, extroversion now; I used to be quiet, but now I am very talkative; I used to listen to "gossip", but now I respect it; Communication used to be very narrow, but now it is wider; There was no room for difference in the past, but now we must first talk about great harmony; I used to be suspicious, but now I am much more generous; It used to be cold, but it is still warm now; I used to be impetuous, but now I am more calm. These personality changes, of course, cleared the obstacles and paved the way for their own lives, thus changing the fate of life. This shows that the transformation of personality is the same as other things. "As long as you work hard, iron bars are ground into needles."

When I was a child, the old man taught people to cultivate themselves, just like pruning a sapling, which was called "I couldn't stand up straight when I was a child." This is because people's personality has a shaping period, and the plasticity of personality in adolescence is much greater, just like the branches of saplings have not yet formed, so it is easier to trim them, but it is much more difficult to straighten them when they grow up. Therefore, the weakness of a person's personality cannot be ignored from an early age.

"Don't be a little good, don't be a little evil." The cultivation of good character lies in the unremitting accumulation of daily life. If you don't want to be a marionette in the hands of fate, but want to be the master of fate, you should make up your mind as soon as possible, improve your character as soon as possible, overcome all kinds of negative characters with positive characters, and continuously improve the EQ index by a large margin. From this point of view, those who always feel good about themselves and don't pay attention to personality cultivation, those who think that negative personality is prominent, are all people with distinct personalities, and those who think that idleness is the foundation of happiness, fate will give them an amazing number of tickets sooner or later.