A sense of security belongs to an individual's inner spiritual needs, a premonition of possible physical or psychological dangers or risks, and a sense of strength/powerlessness when dealing with things, which is mainly manifested in a sense of certainty and controllability. It is a psychological need for stability and security. A sense of security belongs to an individual's inner spiritual needs, a premonition of possible physical or psychological dangers or risks, and a sense of strength/powerlessness when dealing with things, which is mainly manifested in a sense of certainty and controllability. It is a psychological need for stability and security. First of all, a sense of security is a feeling, a kind of psychology; It is the feeling brought by the performance from one side to the other; It is a reassuring, comfortable, reliable and trustworthy behavior. Second, whether you can have a sense of security comes from many factors, both subjective and objective. Here we mainly talk about subjective aspects. To make the other person feel safe, you must first make the other person believe in yourself. It's not easy to make the other person believe in himself. You must be able to show it in words and manners, such as: keep your word, do what you say, and don't promise if you can't do it; Always tell TA what you think, and always greet and care about TA's life. Don't ignore TA no matter how busy you are, and often give TA some surprises; Don't be too good to its TAs, talk and do things the same; Willing to get rid of their bad habits for TA. Third, the sense of material security. In order to really reassure TA, it is also necessary to have a specific sense of material security, that is to say, it is necessary to make TA feel that there is no need to worry about the days when there is no money, which is actually a very important factor. Home can be said to be the most secure place. Women need security, and so do men. The sense of security is mainly reflected in two aspects: 1, and the spiritual level: when a person cannot get enough sense of security from the other person emotionally, Ta will pursue material sense of security to resist the lack of spiritual/emotional sense of security. 2. Material level: When a person pursues material enjoyment, then when the material requirements of Ta are not fully met, the sense of security is relatively reduced, so Ta will satisfy the lack of material security by pursuing new spiritual substitutes. It is difficult for a person to get emotional and material security at the same time. It is the happiest way for most people to enhance their security through marriage. People have eight important feelings of security: First, emotional security: (1) Being with the person you love. Parents' divorce or lovers' breakup will reduce emotional security. (2) fall in love with the person you love. Husband cheating or wife cheating will reduce emotional security. Second, the sense of physical security: (1) Don't get sick. (2) Don't be disabled. Third, the sense of security in social relations: (1) Do not offend people. (2) Don't get hurt. Fourth, the sense of legal security: (1) does not break the law. (2) Know how to protect yourself by law. V. Sense of security of income: (1) Income meets ordinary life. (2) stable income. Sixth, the sense of security of welfare: pension insurance, medical insurance, unemployment insurance, work injury insurance, etc. Seven, the sense of security of the house: in the city where I work, I have my own house and a sense of belonging in my heart. Eight, the sense of security in the living environment: (1) In the living environment, there are supermarkets, markets, shops, hospitals, public security bureaus, bus stops and other supporting institutions. (2) The living environment is clean and tidy, and the air quality is good. With these eight senses of security, we can live a stable and practical life. What is a real sense of security? What is the real sense of security you want? 1, dream or house, which do you choose? Recently, I was reading the classic teacher's "Tearing Down the Wall in Thinking", which tells such a case. Buffett graduated from Columbia University 195 1. Unable to find a job in new york, he returned to his hometown and worked as a stockbroker in Omaha, equivalent to an ordinary employee of a securities company today. 1952, Buffett met Susan, a girl he liked. It is said that when he got married, he told his wife, honey, I'll give you two choices now. After working for a year, I saved more than 10000 dollars, and now I can spend 10000 dollars to buy a small house. Second, let me invest this 10 yuan and buy a house in a few years. Susan said yes, I believe you. 1952, Buffett got married naked, and Susan rented two rooms. 1 hall. In the evening, you can hear mice having a party on the ceiling. 1953, their 1 daughter was born in 1956 and lived in the rental house for 4 years. 26-year-old Buffett founded Buffett United Limited to start a business. 1958, his investment began to make a steady profit. He spent 3 1 1500 dollars to buy a small gray building in Omaha, where he still lives. After 65,438+0962,65,438+00 years, Buffett earned $65,438+0 in his life. In 2008, he became the richest man in the world with a wealth of $62 billion. If you choose to get married naked, do you think you can accept this life? Seriously, I may not have chosen naked marriage before, but now I will. Who is the real stock god, Buffett's daughter-in-law Susan? The most important decision she made in her life was to invest in herself rather than the house. If Susan had chosen to buy a house, it is estimated that Buffett's life would have been ruined. Even a genius like Warren needs to give 10 years of development time. From the perspective of career development, a house will destroy a Buffett. Destroying a dream house may make people feel a sense of belonging, but it is actually a deep sense of security. I really don't believe in my ability, so I think having a house will make my heart safer. After all, having a place to live in major cities will make people feel at ease. But does security really come from the house? In this stumbling and accelerating information society, can houses really be exchanged for a sense of security? Because of the house, we fixed our life prematurely and lived and worked step by step every day. We have no extra time, energy and money to broaden our knowledge. We live in fear of losing our jobs and being unable to pay a series of expenses such as mortgage and car loan. There is no extra money to charge my studies, so my career is progressing slowly and there is not much growth. On the contrary, people who are not controlled by material things can go wherever they want, find a place closest to the company to live, learn to charge, make all kinds of friends, meet good investments, start decisively, and realize more development of their careers as soon as possible. In the classic teacher's book, we cited a case in which an employee who was restricted for life because of buying a house and a person who didn't buy a house tried their best to learn to start a business boldly and finally moved towards financial freedom. Let's think about what we really need. Is it really worth selling your dreams for security? For the security of consumption, we have paid so much cowardice and pawned our dreams. Should we really consider what we really need? 2, 6 strokes to quickly improve the sense of security The classical teacher said that slaves of professional security, people who are imprisoned for their own security, are often imprisoned for a lifetime by several beliefs and eventually become slaves of professional security. And give six ways to quickly improve the sense of security, hoping to break the inherent thinking and find another life. (1) Small-scale adventure. Mother Teresa said that God doesn't want you to succeed, he just wants you to try on a small scale. Adventure can open the wall of thinking. Trial and error in a small range that you can accept can not only master experience, but also pay a huge price. For example, a crude oil futures fell negatively, not only losing the principal, but also posting money to the bank. Futures itself is a high-risk financial investment, and crude oil is more risky. However, this time, a large number of investors bought wealth management, and so did people around them. Lured by high returns, they plunged into the futures market and lost all their money. Investment itself is a highly professional job. Not everyone can profit from it. If you don't understand, you will plunge into the capital market. You are tender leek! (2) stay away from the sense of security that is too easy to obtain. In a comfortable environment, people will lose their fighting spirit. Have the consciousness of being born in sorrow and dying in happiness. If a person doesn't think about distant things, he will find sadness close at hand. Make long-term plans, or life will force you to deal with them one by one. (3) Cherish life and stay away from fear. Stay away from some sad movies and TV series and find some positive works. (4) Make fear safe. Write down your fears on a piece of paper, find a safe place and put them in the fear safe. Tell myself that my fear may happen, but I have to do my own thing, so I will put my fear in my fear safe. When I'm finished, I'll come back and take away my fears. At this time, your heart will be much more comfortable. Then do it boldly, go back to the safe and see how much happened and how much didn't happen. The classical teacher came to the conclusion in the experiment that what he was worried about hardly happened. Fear can make people fidget and lose confidence. Really, when you turn to face your fear, it's gone. (5) Write a success diary. In Qian Qian the Dog, Gia was asked to keep a success diary to record her daily success. She lacks courage when she needs to make a speech. After opening the diary of success, she immediately increased her confidence and bravely accepted the speech. (6) in the face of fear, bottoming out. Deep confidence and fear. Fear is like a coward. When you touch his bottom line, accept the worst result and then prepare to fight, he doesn't know where to hide. When your back is turned to fear, it is the most terrible. When you really turn your face away, you will find that there is really nothing to be afraid of. But we always compromise before turning around. 3, the sense of security is not brought back, but given back. If we don't have an inner sense of security, but we need it urgently, we have to change to the outside world slowly and seek external sustenance, which completely destroys our self-confidence and breeds fear, because we subconsciously know. External things are uncontrollable, and we are extremely dependent on them. We don't believe in ourselves and are always afraid of losing them. We will eventually be judged and become slaves to our sense of security. The sense of security is not brought back, but given back. Emotion is not what you want from others, but a feeling of being needed inside. If you are really insecure, the best thing you can do is to support one person unconditionally, trust a group of people and support others where you are most afraid. The safest thing in this world is that he will never fail Your subconscious always makes rational decisions for you. Xiaomei, a real estate agent, can remember where she is in the building when she goes to work and has a strong sense of direction when she walks. Life is a person who can't remember the way, and her sense of direction towards life gradually disappears. In fact, this is a kind of belief. At work, she thinks she is the best. When the subconscious trusts her from the beginning, she will work harder and harder. In life, she thinks that she has a weak sense of direction and always relies on her boyfriend or navigation. Slowly, her sense of direction in life is getting worse and worse. When we don't trust ourselves and rely on other things, your ability to distrust will gradually get away from you and never come back when you need it. This is a fixed thinking. If you think you can't do something, then you must be incompetent; What do you think I can do? Although the result may not be satisfactory, you will make progress in the process. When I first started driving, my belief told me that I didn't know the way and I couldn't use GPS without a chance to find my way. As expected, I don't know the way. My job is to sell the house and change direction. I'm an expert. I made it myself. I often practice, and then I have a strong sense of direction. This is the horror of this subconscious fixed thinking. A sense of security exists in all aspects of our lives, and it also accompanies us from birth to death. Only by recognizing the sense of security you need can you live a better life and feel happier. Isn't the ultimate goal of serious work happiness? What is a real sense of security? 3 Girls need a sense of security. How can a boyfriend give people a sense of security? 1. Now I know how to respect women. They have their own dreams and pursuits. No matter how unreliable their ideas are, boys should respect girls' choices. They should not use the concept of male chauvinism to reject what girls want to do. 2, know how to care, no matter how strong the heart is, there will always be fragile times, so caring and considerate is beneficial to every girl. If a boy can listen to a girl's story when she needs someone to talk to and give you the best advice you can think of when she is in trouble, then the girl will definitely feel the love of the boy. 3, please her family and friends If a boy can win the appreciation of a girl's family and friends, then congratulations to this boy, you have passed the biggest obstacle. Because girls usually care about the thoughts of people around them, if girls often have people who admire boys, then girls will think that boys are reliable people. 4. Have a strong sense of responsibility. If boys are not only responsible for their own affairs, but also for the people around them, then girls will feel that boys are just and upright people, and then they will be more responsible for girls themselves and will not casually play with girls' feelings. 5. Self-motivated girls think that maybe boys can not give them a superior life now, but they definitely hope that boys can let her see a promising future! If a boy can give a woman a stable nest of her own and won't live without the last meal, then it will definitely give a girl a strong sense of security.