Potential Law-"Green Light Thinking"

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Red light thinking is to passively respond to different opinions and prepare for defense: "You don't understand the situation." "You listen to me first!" This is the state of our brain under red light thinking. For example, a boss who is used to rough communication should listen to the advice given by the consultant first, understand the opinions of the employees, and then express your opinions. Don't judge if you don't hear it ... At this time, the boss's first reaction is mostly: "What do you know? You know nothing about our company! " "I'm pressed for time. How can I have so much time to listen? You don't know. If you are not tough, these people will not move and can't push their work at all! " "Go and go, don't preach with things in the book, it's not grounded."

Have you ever seen a similar scene? This is a typical red light thinking: the first reaction is to find reasons to refute when you encounter an opinion that is inconsistent with yourself.

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"Chen Gong, you here's technical transformation scheme, there are still some small problems, I'm here to make a suggestion. . . . . . ","what's the problem, do you know the technology? Stop it, you listen to me. " . . . . .

"Have you considered this situation? What should I do when this happens? " "No, we've all thought about it, definitely not", "I just remind you to think about it. . . . . . "You don't understand, it's not like we haven't done it, we all know it, and there will be no problem. . . . . .

Have you ever been in such a situation? You must have encountered such a situation and offered you different opinions or suggestions! So how did you handle it?

Close your eyes? Cover your ears? Don't listen or watch? Or are you eager to explain and refute to each other? We call this situation "red light thinking", that is, when we hear different views and opinions, we take a negative attitude, defend ourselves and reject the other side's views or opinions.

This seemingly firm belief often backfires, which not only closes the door to one's own growth, but also often leads to quarrels and contradictions. Why is this happening? Just because "red light thinking" is essentially a negative thinking. What corresponds to "red light thinking"? It is open, positive and inclusive, which we call "green light thinking" here.

In order to facilitate your understanding, I will give you a few examples to give you a comparative understanding.

◆? "Lao Wu, you can choose people from the old employees of this project, and then. . . . . . No, Mr. Chen, you don't know our operation. You don't know. . . . . . "Is this" green light thinking "?

No, this is a typical closed mind. When opinions and suggestions are different from your own ideas, the first reaction is to refuse and close. "Green light thinking" is to listen with accepting and tolerant thinking. In the above example, Lao Wu should use the "green light thinking" to listen to Lao Chen's complete ideas or suggestions before making a judgment.

◆? "The child only scored 70 points in this exam and had to report to the class to make up." "Wife, I think it is necessary to listen to the wishes of the children and analyze what the problem is. . . . . . ","is your son? Do you care about his study? I don't want to talk to you. " Is this "green light thinking"?

No, because she doesn't consider the opinions or suggestions put forward by the other party at all, whether they are helpful to herself or not, and what are the valuable places; The "green light thinking" is to fully consider the different opinions and suggestions put forward by the other party and think about whether it can help you, what are the benefits and uses. In the above example, the wife should seriously think about her husband's opinions and suggestions, which are reasonable, which are applicable to the present situation and which can help herself.

◆? "You need to do some exercise. Look at your stomach. " "What happened to my stomach? Eat yours? " "No, I mean, you can do some aerobic exercise to lose weight." "Who said I don't exercise? Do I have time not to go to the gym? " "Hum, tell me about me, what do you think of your figure"; Is this "green light thinking"?

No, because he didn't understand each other's suggestions well and thought about the pros and cons of the suggestions; "Green light thinking" is based on the understanding of different opinions and suggestions, analyzing their shortcomings and optimizing them;

So, on this basis, we summarized the three steps of "green light thinking":

◆ Listening: The so-called "red light stops and green light goes", the first thing of green light thinking is to listen and ensure the unimpeded information;

When encountering different opinions or opinions, don't close your ears and don't let yourself receive different information, but listen with an open and inclusive attitude;

◆ Thinking: Think about this opinion or suggestion of the other party, how you can help yourself, what are the advantages and uses;

◆ Optimization: On the basis of understanding different opinions and suggestions, analyze their shortcomings and optimize them;

So, does "green light thinking" apply in all cases? Of course not. The application premise of "green light thinking" is that the other party has a certain knowledge and understanding of the proposal or the theme of the proposal, which is applicable when he puts forward relevant suggestions and opinions to you realistically.

Finally, to sum up, the concept of "green light thinking" is not complicated, but it is a basic and important concept in the underlying law, which is of great significance to you who are eager to grow up; Because only an open and inclusive attitude can make us accept different views and ideas, stimulate our thinking and promote our growth. Therefore, for growth, openness is the first.