How to talk to strangers? Have a drink and chat.
The key to strike up a conversation is sincerity, relaxation and confidence.
The most important thing is that two people should make friends.
Only two people chatted together, which was very interesting and relaxed, and both wanted to be friends with each other, so they chatted well.
If you like each other, talk more and date more, you may become lovers.
If it were me: I would take the initiative to say hello to others. . Hi, I often meet you passing by here. I live near here. What's my name? Can I be your friend? Well, I don't have many friends here. I really want to make more friends. . Or simpler. . I am not familiar with this place. Excuse me. . Thank you. . I live around here, too. Do you know that?/You know what? Can I come and play with you next time? How about we be friends? . Actually, it's not the point anyway. . But you did it. . Really. . Sometimes it is. . Maybe he ignored you, but it doesn't matter. . You can talk to her next time you meet, just talk. . Smile. . That's enough. . . It doesn't matter if you say no once. . A few more times, and once you succeed.
How to chat up strangers? Tip 1: Match each other's emotions.
Before you speak, sample the voice of the dialogue object and test his emotional state. First, analyze the voice samples you get in your mind to see if the other person is very happy, bored or grumpy. If you want others to listen to your ideas, you must first match their mood and tone, which may be enough at once.
You must have had such an experience. When attending a party or banquet, someone introduces you to new friends. As usual, you shake hands and make eye contact ... next, your stomach suddenly becomes empty, and your brain makes a harsh emergency stop. You are desperately trying to squeeze out an interesting theme to fill this awkward silence. But no matter how hard I tried, it was futile, so my new friend ran away.
We all hope that the first sentence that Zhangkou said can make people feel witty, wise and meaningful. We also hope that those who listen will appreciate our wisdom immediately. However, the focus of chatting is not on specific facts or wording, but on its musicality and melody. The purpose of chatting is to relax people, and the sounds made in our mouths must have soothing effects, such as the meowing of cats, the humming of children, or hymns. So the first task of chatting is to match each other's emotions.
A good communicator will grasp the personality of the object and cooperate with it when communicating with others, just like singing on the piano of a music teacher. If you want to start a conversation successfully, the first step is to match each other's emotions, at least in the first sentence or two. Remember when chatting that music is music, not words. Is the opponent's rhythm allegro or adagio? Follow his beat. That's what I'm talking about, matching each other's emotions
Tip # 2: Passionate flat exercise.
Are you worried that you don't know what to say at first? Don't be afraid, 80% of people's impressions of you have nothing to do with what you said, and almost nothing to do with what you said in the opening remarks. No matter how plain the content is, as long as it is said with a normal heart and a positive attitude, it is easy to attract people.
Tip 3: Taboo: Bare City
Every time someone asks me this archaeological question, "Where are you from?" Never answer in a few short sentences, it is unfair to challenge the other person's imagination. Do your homework first, see if there are any interesting things or features in your hometown, and provide clues to each other, so that the conversation between the two will not be broken. By the time you throw the bait and get a witty response from the other party, you have left a good impression on the other party.
You shouldn't be stupid enough to talk to strangers naked, should you? By the same token, I hope that when you are talking to a stranger, you will encounter two questions that must be completed. The answers you say should not be naked, so that the other person cannot extend. These two questions are "Where are you from?" And "Where do you work?"
Most people will be asked these two questions. When they answer them, it's like throwing a cold steak on someone else's plate, saying a geographical name or title, and then keeping your mouth shut.
You're talking now. People who meet you will of course ask, "Where are you from?" If you throw him an unadorned short city name, "Oh, I'm Cangzhou City, Hebei Province" (or some place they haven't heard of), I'm afraid the other party can't squeeze out any response except stare blankly. Unless the other person is a geography professor in China, you can only find a topic in a hurry. If I just say that I am from Changsha every time, what reaction can I expect from others? "Well, it's a nice place."
So, remember to conform to human nature and do yourself a favor. Remember, don't answer this question in one sentence at the end. Answer "Where are you from?" To solve this problem, we should add some gasoline to the other side's fuel tank and some grain and grass to the feed trough. At least provide some materials for the other person to chew before the conversation can continue. All you have to do is add one or two more sentences, saying yes or about the city where you live-talk about what you have seen and heard, talk about your observation-so that the other person can enter the dialogue between the two.
Tip 4: Taboo: Naked headlines
"Where do you work?" When this necessary question comes up, you may think that answers such as "I am a doctor", "teacher" and "engineer" are enough to trigger a dialogue between the two sexes. But to a person who is not a doctor, a teacher or an engineer, what you say is meaningless, just like a pen without ink. You must enrich your content and let the listener have something to chew. Otherwise, the other person will leave soon, and it will be more interesting to have a cup of coffee.
New friends usually ask, "Where did you find a job?" Is it appropriate to ask this question? We'll discuss it later. Now, let's take a look at some ways to let go, which can help you keep your excellent image as a big shot when answering this question.
First of all, just like a naked city, when a stranger asks this suffocating question, don't throw an answer casually. If you just say a title: "I'm an actuary, I'm a lawyer, I'm a writer, I'm a physicist …", the other person will feel helpless like a turtle struggling on the floor. Please be merciful, so that they won't ask "Hungry … What do you do in actuarial science/writing/physics?"
If you are a lawyer, don't let ordinary people try to understand what you are doing. Add some seasoning and tell a short story at work so that the other person can understand it as soon as he listens. For example, if you are talking to a young mother, you can say, "I am a lawyer, and our firm specializes in labor law." Recently, I had a case where a female employee had to take extra maternity leave because of medical needs, but she was dismissed by the company. "Mothers are sure to get the news.
What if the other party is an entrepreneur? "I am a lawyer, and our firm is good at labor law. Recently, I had a case where the business owner was taken to court by an employee and accused her of asking personal questions face to face. " Of course, the boss can react quickly.
Tip 5: Taboo: Naked Introduction
If two people introduce strangers, don't throw away the fishing rod, but forget to put the bait, and then stand aside and laugh like a big fool. Let the strange parties worry around, I don't know where to start. You can arrange some topics so that two people can speak freely. After the task is completed, it's up to you whether you want to stay and join or find another place to improve your interpersonal relationship.
Starting from the second part, we have introduced five technologies so far. The first two skills can enhance your personality charm, and the last three skills can open the door to dialogue, resolve the embarrassment and let the dialogue continue. Now, we want to upgrade small talk to meaningful communication by going up a flight of stairs. The next trick is to make sure that your partner is completely immersed in your conversation.
Tip 6: Language Detective
Agents who learn to handle cases listen carefully to each other, and every sentence may be a topic of interest to each other. The clue will definitely jump out. Seize the opportunity and be sure to cut to the point neatly. In this way, you can find a topic that makes the other person feel high, just like Sherlock Holmes.
You know, when you talk to people, you shouldn't ask, "Do you still like this conversation?" It's just that you may ask this question in your heart. To tell the truth, each of us has this question. In fact, as long as you use the following skills, you can sit back and relax. Sherlock Holmes examines every link carefully with his magnifying glass, so he can find the clue quickly even if it is small and difficult to find. Natural winners in life are like infallible detectives who can catch the slightest clue and find the right topic. How did they do it? It's all this skill.
Many communication experts know that every idea has its reasons. As long as the other party says it, you should know how to follow up. When talking to anyone, remember to prick up your ears and look for clues like a detective. Pay close attention to the unusual words mentioned by the other party: all the places, times and names that deviate from the theme. Just ask questions in this direction, because these are all things that the other person likes to talk about.
Now that you have aroused the desire for dialogue, let's further study how to make the dialogue wonderful without mercy.
Tip 7: Turn the spotlight.
When you meet someone for the first time, imagine that there is a huge rotating spotlight between you. When you simplify, the spotlight will shine on you as soon as a new friend opens his mouth. If the spotlight is strong enough, the other party will not see that you have hardly talked about your own facts. The shorter the spotlight shines on you, the more interesting you are.
I have a friend who is good at this trick. He told me, "Every time I meet someone and ask them about their life, I always learn something. So I always point the spotlight at others. " This is the style of a truly confident person. They know that listening is more rewarding than speaking. Obviously, they are also very capable of winning the hearts of speakers.
Once I was chatting with my friend Deng Ting. She is a sales director who specializes in training excellent business people. She told the shop assistant that it was better to focus the spotlight on the goods, not the customers. When the salesperson successfully focuses on the customer, the business may be closed. Remember, don't shine a rotating spotlight on yourself. You can occasionally take a look at the goods, but most of the light should be aimed at your buyer. This is more useful than trying to sell yourself or your product.
Tip 8: Parrots learn to talk.
From now on, you won't be speechless. You can repeat the last sentence of the dialogue object like a parrot. This is like playing tennis. The ball representing the right to speak bounces back to him, and you just need to listen easily.
Of course, sometimes the smartest communication experts will encounter difficulties. Some people don't speak in cadence at all, and they don't know what they are mumbling. Even a master of language skills can't find the topic.
If you think that the conversation between two people is like a charcoal fire with only ashes left, you can't fan it (and you want to continue this conversation for political reasons or sympathy), here is a trick to rekindle the charcoal fire of the conversation, even a fool can do it. This is called parroting. Because Wu Ying, a beautiful tropical bird, is charming as long as it repeats what others say.
During the conversation, a ball kept bouncing back and forth. First you say it, then others say it, and then you say ... it goes on alternately. Every time you nod and smile, or answer, the other person knows that the ball has fallen to your side again. These are your signals. Tell him, "I'll play this ball." This is the rhythm of the conversation.
Let's go back to that familiar and fearful moment. Every time it's your turn to speak, your brain goes blank. Don't worry, this time, you don't have to tell each other "I'll hit the ball" by words or actions. Repeat the last two or three words like a parrot, but say them with emotion, as if asking a question, so that the ball will return to the opponent's area.
Tip 9: Wonderful!
The most beautiful voice in the performer's ear is "wonderful, wonderful, let's listen again!" " Warm applause from the audience. For the person you are talking to, the most beautiful sound coming from your mouth is to say "Tell them about your time …" in front of a group of people.
Every time you go to a party or party, stay with an important person and think about what story he/she told you. Choose a suitable story that you think the audience will appreciate. Then point the spotlight at him and ask him to give a wonderful performance.
I invited Zhou Wei to introduce me to you at a friend's party. "Zhou Wei, tell us how you beat your competitors and won the index. I guess everyone must want to hear your heroic deeds. " Wow ~ ~ I feel like a magician. Zhou Wei's tongue seems to be suddenly flexible several times. He told everyone about his experience ... and then I did the same thing, and the party was a success.
But pay attention to one thing: make sure that the story you ask can impress the speaker and shine at the moment. No one wants to repeat how they lost their business, crashed their cars, caused trouble and were detained. The wonderful performance you ask them to do must make the speaker a big winner, not a mess.
The next trick is about how to share positive stories in your life.
Secret 10: Promote the good and suppress the evil.
When you meet someone for the first time, lock your secret closet for the time being, and talk about your defects later. You and your new friends can wait until the relationship is deeper, and then move out of your scandal together. It's funny. However, at this moment, it is necessary to promote good and suppress evil.
Many people think that if you know someone, you will like them, so you should share some secrets with him, talk about your private affairs, or confess your past shortcomings. After all, people are not saints, exposing your scandals-such as wetting the bed when you were a child, grinding your teeth, or some minor problems now-should bring you closer to others.
That depends. Sometimes it does. A study shows that if someone is above you, he will reveal some small shortcomings, which will make you feel closer to him. American presidential candidate Stevenson has a hole in the bottom of his pants, but honey has spread all over the country. President Bush admitted that he was afraid of eating broccoli, which also made the whole country talk about it.
If you are in a solid position, for example, a superstar wants to make friends with fans, you might as well talk about how poor you were. If you are not a superstar, you'd better adopt a conservative strategy and slowly show your shortcomings. People who don't know you may have a wrong impression of you. Your new friend has no time to understand that you are sincerely and generously sharing your thoughts with him.
In this part, you have learned how to meet people and talk about things. Are you ready for the next level? Let's go!
How to chat up strangers on QQ? Hello, buddy, I'm Yi Xuan, and I'm glad to answer your question.
If you chat up strangers on QQ, it can be said that the first few minutes of interaction is a battlefield, and it is very important that you can establish interesting and comfortable interaction in these few minutes.
Many buddies like to send "hello" or "I want to know you, can we talk" in the first message, but it doesn't work well.
First of all, from a psychological point of view, "Hello" is a way for strangers to chat. If we try our best to instill a feeling that we are friends in the girl's subconscious at the beginning of the chat, it will definitely promote the development of you and this girl, so try not to send the initial message with the short message skill of "Hello", which can make the girl feel that you are a stranger.
Why not send "I want to know you, can we talk?"
First of all, let's put ourselves in others' shoes. When a girl receives a text message like yours, should she consider whether to talk to you or not? The initiative is left to the girl.
Secondly, if she is a girl with high scores and high quality, she will receive countless similar words every day. If you say "I want to know you, can I talk?" Girls will automatically classify you as an unattractive man because really attractive men don't talk like that. Wouldn't it be better if we just started talking? Don't we all have to talk?
-So what should we do at first? ————
You can say:
"You also play WeChat. I just added your mobile phone number a few days ago."
"Is that you? I seem to have seen you. " 80% girls will reply to you: "Ah, where have you seen me?"
Oh, old classmate, long time no see, how have you been recently (she may read your information, so don't put all your household registration books on your information)
If you don't understand anything, you can keep asking me. I have been engaged in gender attraction research for many years, and I believe I can help you.
How to chat up strangers on QQ ~00~ ... Tell him online ... hello ... hello! How have you been recently? Just say that you accidentally added it to her QQ. Just ask her something. Are you still studying? Where do you study? Anything will do. Why not? Just say you want to make friends with her. What's so embarrassing? Be bold ~ ~
How to strike up a conversation with strangers, and make bold moves, brazenly go up, but the key depends on the face value.
How to chat up strangers? First of all, give him a feeling of being approachable and be enthusiastic.
You can start the conversation by noticing his bag, clothes, etc.
Where did you buy this dress? It seems to be the same as one of my colleagues. I also said it was ugly.
Why does it feel so beautiful on you, hehe
If you want to use it to develop
Next, you can be straightforward, add some humor and say that I went to Baidu to talk to you!
How about drawing a ladle?
good luck
How to strike up a conversation with strangers In fact, there is not much difference between strangers and familiar people in conversation.
But I think there are two differences.
1. Strangers are mysterious. In order to show your strength, you always try your best to speak the language perfectly, but you are always contradictory and don't know what to say or how to say it. This is a common psychology for a person to meet a stranger, but if you want to know this stranger, you can talk to him like someone you know, about your play and work.
As long as the topic is not rigid, it can be said. Of course, you don't have to say it every time. You can also use the method of asking questions to pull up some topics, which will resonate more. This will not kill two birds with one stone.
2. Familiar people will have nothing to say if they talk too much. For example, couples can't talk like flies every time. This is because you know everything about each other too well, and there is nothing you can't talk about together, including your health, diet and daily life. But why do you have nothing to say? Just because you speak naturally, the other person has fully understood your every move, so you can. Hmm. How interesting
Strangers and familiar people are just your psychological differences. As long as the other person is friendly, why do you treat the other person as an outsider? Let the other person know that you know you.
What's so hard about that? How long have you worked here? Where is your hometown? What year were you born? Married, boyfriend and girlfriend, etc. , you can talk, the most important thing is to talk.