A marriage certificate cannot guarantee the quality of a marriage, and hope and disappointment appear alternately.

Zhang Xiaoxian said: Where there is hope, there is disappointment.

Growing up means learning to understand that there will inevitably be countless small disappointments in life, both for others and for yourself.

No matter what, don’t let these small disappointments destroy the hope in my heart, and don’t be too harsh on yourself. Don't be too harsh on the person who loves you so much. He is just a human being, just like you.

Let’s talk about cases.

Case: My husband owed a lot of gambling debt, but he told me that he was doing it to give me the life I wanted.

Not long ago, Xiaohan came to me and said: Teacher, I am so disappointed in my husband. I feel that he has no sense of responsibility and responsibility as a man.

Later I learned: Xiaohan and her husband Achao met on a blind date. They have been in love for two years and been married for five years. Their child is four years old this year. Last year, Ah Chao had a temporary job transfer and the two were separated. After half a year away from home, Achao returned home, but Xiaohan found that Achao often avoided him and played with his mobile phone. He often sighed and was listless.

Xiaohan thought her husband had cheated on her, and after questioning her many times, her husband finally told her the truth. It turned out that during the six months in this remote place, Ah Chao learned to speculate in futures with his colleagues at work. Not only did he lose all the money to buy the car, but he also owed more than 300,000 yuan in foreign debt. This is the family’s entire income without food or water for two years.

Facing the obsessed Achao, Xiaohan and Achao had a big quarrel. Xiaohan accused Achao in pain: "When you did this, did you think about our young son, your elderly parents, and me?" Unexpectedly, when Achao heard Xiaohan's words, he did not apologize, but turned around Run towards the rooftop.

On the rooftop, Achao said to Xiaohan: "If you hadn't often said that among your brothers and sisters, who bought a house today and a car the day after tomorrow, would I go gambling? I'm not doing this. To give you the life you want!"

Xiaohan said that this was actually not the first time Achao had been confused. When the child was just one year old, Chao started gambling online with his colleagues and lost 60,000 to 70,000 yuan. In the end, Xiaohan used his own dowry money to help him fill the hole. Ah Chao's reasons that time were exactly the same as this time.

"I thought he would gain wisdom after suffering a hardship. I thought it was the first time and it would be the last time. I didn't expect that forgiveness would turn out like this in the end."

Analysis: Leaves do not turn yellow overnight, and people's hearts do not turn cold overnight.

The first time Xiao Han forgave A Chao was because he believed A Chao’s words and foolishly took the responsibility on himself. He thought it was because he put too much pressure on Ah Chao that he took the risk.

But reality once again gave Xiaohan a heads-up and made him wake up. Now she no longer dares to have any expectations for her husband Achao.

When are girls most likely to be super disappointed with their husbands?

First of all: unable to see the future and losing hope.

I was happily married to the man I loved, only to find that this man: He is lazy and has no ambition to make progress; he never fulfills his promise; he is irresponsible and has no sense of responsibility. He only cares about his own enjoyment and does not care about his family. of complete or family operations.