1. Make yourself cheerful and optimistic.
Positive and optimistic people usually don't have a strong purpose, they will only do their best, and there will be no necessary obsession.
Enjoy the process of hard work, not the result of value. Once the result is not ideal, there will be no overwhelming sense of loss.
Secondly, no matter what kind of setbacks and problems they encounter, cheerful and optimistic people usually don't blame others, but generally attribute the problems to external factors, without excessively blaming themselves and reducing their sense of self-worth.
Cheerful and optimistic, the most important thing is to have strong emotional adjustment ability.
2. Ability to manage emotions
If you want to manage your emotions well, you must first recognize your emotions and have a full understanding of them.
Knowing the cause and effect, you can clearly express your needs and why they broke out.
Secondly, we should express our emotions reasonably. We can't get angry with people easily, nor can we solve problems with cold violence. On the way of analyzing and solving problems, we should learn to improve our cognitive level and dimension.
Solving problems can not only improve our ability to deal with people, but also make our minds and souls grow and our minds mature.
3. Make yourself stronger inside
Many times, only half of our troubles in life come from the outside world, and the other half comes from our inner weakness.
Generally speaking, as long as you don't impose the other person's problems on yourself, you can reduce the probability of injury.
If we don't spend our energy on catering to others, we can accept reasonable criticism from others, reject improper malicious slander and cultivate our ability to protect ourselves.
People who are not strong enough inside often punish themselves with other people's problems.
4. Don't care too much about others
Most people care about other people's opinions, but caring about other people's opinions is a laborious task, and such care will make people breathless.
Sometimes paying too much attention to other people's opinions will form a kind of pressure and load, which will lead you to lose your subjective consciousness, even feel sad because of an unintentional mistake of others, or start thinking because of an expression of others, so don't react.
In addition, you should learn to let go of things that you can't confirm.
5. Have independent self-awareness.
Have independent thinking ability, way of thinking, independent criteria, independent lifestyle, pursue what you want, constantly improve yourself, keep thinking, and never blindly pursue other people's answers.
Having independent consciousness can be said to be having a certain degree of mental ability, being able to gain an objective insight into one's own advantages and disadvantages and constantly improve oneself.
Repair past trauma, switch to different subjective consciousness learning, have their own ability to think and deal with problems and things independently, and don't go with the flow.