Love in this world can either help each other and end up ordinary together; it can forget each other in the world and get married; or it can never forget the sea and wait for it all your life. How long will you wait for love? One year, two years, three years...waiting because of love, not caring about the passage of time, not mourning the destruction of beauty by the years, quietly watching the moon waxing and waning, flowers blooming and falling, just to wait for the one that is so close to the end of the world love. When one person quietly waits for another person's love, there is a deep bitterness and a different kind of romance.

She is the niece of Li Hongzhang, an important minister of the late Qing Dynasty, and Zhang Maoyuan, the aunt of the talented Zhang Ailing of the Republic of China. She is elegant, noble, independent and straightforward, persistently doing what she likes to do and loving the people she likes to love. By some twist of fate, she fell in love but missed it. During these long years, she lived her own life without being angry or sad. At the age of 78, she finally married her first love, whom she had cared about for 52 years. Even if her time was short, she would hold hands happily until the end of her life.

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She missed it before she could hold hands

The poet Xi Murong once wrote affectionately: "How can I meet You, in my most beautiful moment. I have been praying to the Buddha for five hundred years, begging him to let us have a mortal relationship. So the Buddha turned me into a tree and grew it by the road you must pass, under the sun. The flowers bloom carefully, and each one is my hope in the past life..."

The most beautiful encounter in the world is to meet the person you love in the most beautiful years. In 1925, a rumbling ship emitted black smoke and sailed in the endless ocean, with gulls flying in the blue sky and a gentle sea breeze. It was a beautiful seascape, but she couldn't appreciate it at all. She was so dizzy that she leaned against the boat and vomited in a miserable state. Unexpectedly, he came, carefully handed her a towel and hot water, and chatted with her. She was a little uncomfortable and embarrassed at first, but under his gentle care, she felt much more relaxed.

His name is Li Kaidi. He has just graduated from Shanghai Jiao Tong University majoring in electrical engineering. He has obtained a publicly funded place to study in the UK. It is a time of high spirits. He had seen her on the boat and was attracted by her elegant and calm temperament.

Traveling to a foreign country for the first time, the journey is long, and it is inevitable that people will feel a little lonely and lost. Having just adapted to life at sea, she misses her hometown, is confused about the unknown, and is a little depressed. He was quite chic. He put his coat on her shoulders, stood in the wind, and recited Byron's poems loudly in English. The sun was setting, the sea was sparkling, and he was tall and graceful. From then on, she remembered this figure firmly for the rest of her life.

If the development of the play is followed, they will know each other, fall in love, and have a beautiful marriage. However, feelings in reality are sometimes more complicated. A few years later, he held a grand wedding, and she was not the bride, but the bridesmaid.

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She is willing to witness his happiness without any regrets

It turns out that Li Kaidi already has a fiancée who is from a wealthy family in Minhang arranged by his family. The girl Xia Yuzhi will get married as soon as he comes back from studying abroad. It was a God-given marriage, but it had to be kept deep in my heart before it even started. Zhang Maoyuan fell in love with him, but he didn't say anything. He only suppressed it calmly and kept a distance from him, but never took his eyes away from him.

In fact, freedom of love and autonomy in marriage were popular at that time, and many young people were rushing to escape from the marriage contracts arranged by their parents. He could follow suit. However, what he really cares about is her origin. She is the granddaughter of Li Hongzhang, a traitor who signed the Treaty of Shimonoseki. He didn't want to have anything to do with the traitors. Because of her unchangeable origin, he sentenced her to death. While studying abroad, even though he often heard her name, he no longer took the initiative to interact with her. It was not until the end of 1927 that they returned to China after completing their studies, and then reconnected under the introduction of friends.

In 1932, Li Kaidi was about to get married to his fiancée. She was calm and indifferent, not resentful, not obsessed with herself, and resolutely guarded the love in her heart. She only said to him: "I will wait for you in this life." Without you, I will wait for the next life." She acted gracefully as the bride's bridesmaid and witnessed their happiness.

If you can’t be lovers, just be friends. Some things, if you miss them, you miss them. If you can't forget them, don't force them to forget them. Let everything take its course. She properly stood in the position of a friend, interacted with others indifferently, guarded the loneliness of lovesickness, but also enjoyed the unrestrained happiness of being alone.

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During the 52 years of waiting, she lived a lonely but exquisite life

If it were not for Zhang Ailing, maybe they would not enter each other's lives again. In 1939, 18-year-old Zhang Ailing was unable to study in the UK because of the war, so she had to go to Hong Kong. Zhang Maoyuan had no choice but to entrust Zhang Ailing to Li Kaidi, who was working in Hong Kong, and let him be her guardian. Perhaps out of emotional guilt for Zhang Maoyuan, he took care of Zhang Ailing like a father and personally picked her up and dropped her off, becoming the Uncle K.D that Zhang Ailing called her all her life. It was not until the Pacific War broke out and Hong Kong fell that he entrusted Zhang Ailing to a good friend to take care of her and took his family to take refuge in Chongqing.

As for her, she continues to live a quiet and free life, rarely interacting with outsiders.

Because her two brothers joined forces to seize the inheritance left by her parents, she suffered a heavy loss in the lawsuit. Therefore, she took the discounted inheritance and rarely interacted with her relatives. When she lived into her thirties or forties, she continued to maintain the appearance of "I am single and I am happy". She was not impatient, calm, and did whatever she had to do.

She invested her discounted inheritance and failed. She was not upset, she transformed from a young lady into a professional expert and went directly to work. First, she worked as an accountant in a British firm. She wore a crisp suit, high-heeled leather shoes, and a briefcase under her waist every day, and visited the bank lobby and the futures market, earning a high salary in a refined and dignified manner. Soon, she got tired of this job and turned to work as an announcer on a German radio station. She worked half an hour a day and earned tens of thousands a month. Zhang Ailing recalled that her aunt once said to her proudly: "My aunt can earn tens of thousands of dollars a month by saying boring things every day. You also say boring words every day, but you can't earn a penny." Later, She was tired of it again, and with her proficient English, she switched jobs to work as a translator at the Grand Guangming Theater in Shanghai, the most famous theater at that time. She was called "Miss Yiyiyin" at the time. When a foreign movie is shown in the cinema, she translates the words spoken by the characters in the movie into Chinese in real time and conveys them to the audience emotionally. The general manager of the Grand Guangming Theater valued her extraordinary talent and hired her as a confidential secretary, a job she held for ten years.

Born in a famous family, with noble temperament, slender figure and white skin, she has quite an oriental classical charm and stands out in the crowd. In addition, she has read poetry and books since she was a child, learned new things, and also went abroad. She studied abroad, is proficient in Chinese and English, and has extensive knowledge. She is not comparable to ordinary women. But ordinary men would not dare to marry a woman like her. There are also children from rich families who pursue her passionately, but she refuses them all indifferently, and wisely reminds Zhang Ailing: "These men only value your external things, they are just active sperm, and they will leave you in the end." Therefore, she usually does not She loves exaggerated external things, sold all her jewelry, and doesn’t even like decorative things, so she stays true to herself.

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She finally found happiness when she became a bride at the age of 78

It is said that when Zhang Maoyuan was a child, the fortune teller said that she was destined to marry late. But no one expected that she would get married as late as 78 years old.

In 1945, after the Anti-Japanese War ended, Li Kaidi’s family returned to Shanghai from Chongqing. The two met again and began to communicate frequently. Li Kaidi often took her and Zhang Ailing out to eat and drink coffee. Li Kaidi's wife Xia Yuzhi knew her feelings for Li Kaidi. Not only did she not complain, but she understood her very well. She became a good friend with her and tolerated their friendship of "more than friends but not enough lovers".

In 1965, Xia Yuzhi was seriously ill and hospitalized. Li Kaidi and she took turns taking care of her for several months without sleep. Before he died, Xia Yuzhi took her hand and revealed the secret deep in his heart: "I know that you and Kaidi are a close couple. At the beginning, he was prejudiced against your origin and didn't know much about your personality. , he was a rough man, so he categorically rejected your first love, fell in love with me and got married rashly. Really, I didn’t know anything about it at the beginning. You hid your love deep in your heart, and I didn’t notice it at all. . After he understood your personality and your perseverance in love, I was already pregnant and could no longer be separated from him. I had been distressed, regretful, and self-blame, but it was already too late. It's over..." Xia Yuzhi drew his last breath, hoping that Zhang Maoyuan and Li Kaidi would get married without any regrets.

However, not long after Xia Yuzhi's death, Li Kai's family encountered the most difficult moment in their lives. His home was confiscated, he was criticized, and he was stigmatized and had to clean up garbage every day. His daughter was sent to Guangzhou, and his son He commits suicide in despair, and everyone in his family and friends is in danger, fearing to avoid him. Her situation was not much better. Her home was ransacked several times and she was even assigned to clean the toilets. But she had already seen through the fickle world and quickly adapted to the sudden misfortune. She was worried about him and wanted to see him despite the rumors and rumors. She would give him comfort and help in a timely manner, help him with his work, and persuade him to look away. The two waning old men supported each other and helped each other, and they survived those ten years.

In 1979, Li Kaidi was finally rehabilitated. She wrote to him: "It's not that I don't want to wait any longer, I'm afraid that time won't wait for me anymore." He wrote back and said that although he had gone far away, his heart had never left. Two old men, nearly 80 years old, finally entered into marriage with each other's first love. When Zhang Ailing, who was far away in the United States, received the good news, she couldn't help but burst into tears, remembering that her aunt once told her: "Auntie will definitely get married, even if she is 80 years old."

Love is always something that women can't get through. Kaner. As smart as she is, she has devoted her whole life to one person. Even when she reaches the age of gray hair and chicken skin, she still wants to become husband and wife with the person she loves.

Is the 52-year wait worth it? Whether it is worth it or not, only the person involved knows. Zhang Ailing said it best: among thousands of people, you will meet the person you want to meet. In the endless wilderness of thousands of years, there is no step early or one step late. When we encounter someone, we can only say softly: "Are you here too?" In life, if it is true, What's more, with such an encounter, it was probably fate.

It is so difficult to meet the right person at the right time.

If you can have true love, what if you wait for him for 52 years? As long as you identify that person, it's fine if you don't regret it. What's more, she didn't just wait in vain, she lived a good life according to her own wishes. She was unscrupulous and unconventional in the glitz and chaos, showing herself, pleasing herself, loving herself, following the pull of fate, and using her best to achieve her goals. Enjoy life with a good look.

Such a woman, even if she does not marry her first love in the end, will still live up to her life! Move your fingers and share this article! ,