Marrying a successful man is almost the ideal of all unmarried women. Some young women worship the charm and success of mature men and act as a third party at the expense of destroying other people's families. But will a successful man marry you? This is a realistic problem. Before deciphering this question, we should clarify three concepts:

What is a successful man? We define a successful man as "a businessman who has a certain cultural accomplishment, a certain social status and economic foundation, is willing to lead a normal family life, is serious about marriage, and has made a fortune in legal business". As for those uneducated nouveau riche who "succeed" by illegal means, this article will not discuss them, because their views on marriage and life taste are difficult to define and grasp.

The success of men's career does not mean that their marriage is successful, nor does it mean that their marriage concept is correct and they can treat their lovers equally. There are many successful men, whose family life is not successful, or "the red flag at home does not fall, and the colorful flags are fluttering outside"; Still love the new and hate the old, and the marriage changes repeatedly. For such a man, it must not be the object that women want to marry, so it is not included in this article.

When I say what successful men want from women, I don't mean that women are in a second-class position and anyone can choose. This paper only discusses a social phenomenon, which has nothing to do with women's rights.

We interviewed three different types of men who have successful careers and happy families, from which we can learn more or less what kind of wives successful men want.

The "comprehensive index" of a strong man

Mr. A, the owner of a newspaper, is tall 1.8 meters, handsome, 45 years old and promoted to the bureau level at the age of 38.

Q: As a successful person, do you need your wife to be beautiful?

A: Not necessarily. As long as you can look over and be polite, you can.

Q: What is her most important quality?

A: Smart, educated and sensible (I think sensible means reasonable).

Q: Do you need her to succeed in her career?

A: It doesn't matter.

Q: Do you need her to take care of you in life?

A: I need cooperation. This man used the word "cooperation" cunningly, but in fact the essence is to take care of him. )

Q: What is your greatest feminine weakness?

A: I depend on others for big and small matters, and I am moody and have no thoughts.

Q: Are you satisfied with your present wife?

A: Very satisfied.

Mr. A's wife and he are college classmates, and they are not particularly satisfied with falling in love. After marriage, the wife retired to the second line and took on all the housework. She got a hall, a kitchen and good food. The house is in good order, the lights are broken and the toilet is broken. Basically, the wife is worried. The children are well educated and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is well adjusted. Mr. A has no worries about food and clothing, and there are many in-depth exchanges about work, society, culture and ideas between them. Although the wife is not responsible for her work, she is still a woman with great brains and taste in the eyes of her husband. Mr. A said: In my eyes, she is a sensible little girl, a friend and a lover. I have compared with the women around me, and no one can surpass her in comprehensive indicators.

Mr. A is a typical career-oriented northern man who basically ignores his family. Being his wife will obviously lose part of his career. According to Mrs. A, when Mr. A failed, she did the same. At that time, many people said she was a big head. So, young girls, are you ready for such a sacrifice and the hard work of taking care of children's laundry and cooking for more than ten years?

Beauty depreciates in the face of "taste"

Mr. B, the chairman of an ethnic group in Chinese mainland Port, is 50 years old,1.79m, and he is a cream boy.

Q: Do you want your wife to be beautiful?

A: Of course!

Q: Is your wife beautiful?

A: Not beautiful!

Q: Then why did you choose her?

A: Because I was not a successful person at that time, if I choose again now, I will choose the beautiful one.

Q: So do you think beauty comes first?

A: Of course not! He must first be considerate, have taste, be able to talk to me and understand me. Without these, no matter how beautiful I am, I definitely don't want them.

Q: Do you want her to have a career?

I don't want to go. A successful woman must be stronger, and a strong woman's personality will be stronger, so it will be more tiring to associate.

Q: Do you want her to work and stay at home?

A: Not necessarily. It doesn't matter if she has a little charm.

Q: Do you want her to handle her family and her own affairs?

A: Of course, but if not, it can be tolerated.

Q: So what should you do if you encounter adversity and need her to tide over the difficulties together?

A: Silence!

Q: What kind of woman do you hate most?

A: A woman who is always dissatisfied, always complaining and dissatisfied with everything around her.

When interviewing Mr. B, he closed the office door first, probably because he didn't want the young people in the room to hear his real thoughts. Because it's not the first time we met, the conversation is more casual.

Mr. B is also a northerner, but he has the characteristics of a southern man. He takes care of his family, takes his children to class and takes care of the elderly on both sides. Mr. B's wife is a childhood friend and grew up together. Later, I taught English at school and went home to be a full-time wife in recent years.

Mr. B didn't directly answer whether he was satisfied with his present wife, but their marriage was very stable, and I think his wife must basically meet his requirements. What he said about "taste" actually has a deep meaning. What is taste? Taste is not born, nor can it be learned overnight. It is the brilliance of human nature that flashes at any time after years of knowledge accumulation and education. Ready, young ladies?

She loves me, not money.

Mr. C, self-employed, owns 4 restaurants,1.78m, 40 years old.

Mr. c is also a handsome man. He studied industrial economy and worked as a civil servant before going to sea. He got married after he went to sea. My wife is very beautiful, and she is a girl. After Mr. C got married, he found that his wife didn't do any housework and spent money like water. When he came back late, his wife kept nagging. He asked his brother-in-law to settle accounts with Mr. C at home and always said that he was having an affair. In a rage, Mr. C gave her 400,000 yuan for divorce.

After the divorce, the girls who came to see him lined up, all excellent girls. Mr. C said, I can't tell which one is not after my money. Who really loves my self-made entrepreneurial spirit? Who can understand my frugal habit when I have money? I want to find a good woman.

In fact, I don't want to have my own home, my own children, and a wife who knows how to be warm and cold for life. I've been thinking, if I go bankrupt one day, can she still follow me? On second thought, I think it's better to find an honest man in my hometown. I get nervous at the sight of those girls in short skirts.

Mr. C really married a woman from his hometown. This girl is 10 years younger than him. She has a high school education and looks ordinary, but she is extremely virtuous. She takes care of Mr. C's in-laws in the countryside, takes care of the housework and gets the living expenses every month. She doesn't even ask Mr. C how much he earns. Those girls who tried their best to dress up probably never dreamed that they would be defeated in front of a local girl. Successful men dare not trust them too much. Carving hibiscus with clear water is more competitive.

Marry "Futures" and succeed together.

Although the above interview is very simple, we have seen a regular problem. A beautiful face is not the highest weight to win a successful man. They need you to show off your wisdom, but they don't need you to have too strong personality and too many careers. This is why many successful women fail in marriage or are single. Then, a woman who wants to marry a successful man must be educated, tasteful and not too enterprising. Can you do it?

In fact, only a few men have succeeded at marriageable age, and most people need your eyes to understand real gold at an early stage. Some people say that men are futures at the age of 30, handsome at the age of 40 and spicy at the age of 50. Don't be afraid to marry a "futures". You must know that hot goods must be expensive, which is the most basic field rule.

However, if you go through the process from "futures" to "hot goods" with him, all the incompatibility and running-in will be solved before he succeeds, and you have established unbreakable feelings, friendship and family ties. At this time, a successful husband will not leave you and this family easily. The experience of Mr. A and Mr. B is the best proof of this view.