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It's cool at home at first, but after a long time, it's easy to be lazy and kill morale. People who live in the comfort zone for a long time refuse to contact with the outside world.

I saw a writer say, "Go to bed at 9 o'clock every night and get up at 5 o'clock in the morning to write." It is disciplined and unwavering. " This sentence touched me a lot. People with self-control are really terrible.

So I also set some small requirements for myself. I have to get up before 8 o'clock, 12 o'clock. After getting up, wash your face and get dressed quickly. Even if you want to play computer, you should take it to KFC outside. If you want to read, you must go to the library and never stay at home. Even if you go shopping in the supermarket, it's not bad. You need to walk 1w every day.

In fact, these are small goals that are easy to achieve. When you start to adapt to these goals, add new requirements to yourself, such as reading a book, writing an article, doing more exercise every day, changing slowly according to your actual situation, never setting too many goals for yourself, it is easy to give up.

Self-discipline pre-stimulation, mid-pain, and late enjoyment. But if you really persist, you will find that self-discipline can bring you inner peace and enjoyment.

I asked myself, why don't we start early today?

-@ anonymous user

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Before I became a lawyer, I worked in a private company for several years. When the company began to default on wages, I felt something was wrong sensitively. Although the business I was in charge of was ok, I resolutely resigned as vice president. Sure enough, the company closed down after half a year.

After I resigned, I lost my job for half a year and then went to study law.

I can't remember the specific life situation when I was unemployed, only the vague impression of my feelings at that time.

First, although I am not short of money and have some savings, I am still anxious and insecure.

Second, there was too little communication with outsiders, and later there were slight symptoms of social phobia.

Third, realize that doing nothing is the most tormenting thing in life. When you receive a friend's dinner or a phone call from the hemp bureau, you will tremble with excitement and finally have something to do.

Fourth, I know how fragile I am.

For an introvert like me, going to work is the best choice, not to make money, but to adjust my mentality and communicate with others. This is the best way.

Sixth, the family status has declined. Everyone is talking about you, but you can't talk back. You will find that you take the initiative to do housework that never sticks to your hands before, and enjoy it.

Looking back nearly twenty years later:

Because of the profession of lawyers, I am still in a state of not going to work for a long time, but my mentality is different from that of my youth.

1. Money is still neither too much nor too little, but I am no longer anxious about money and life. It is enough to eat, drink and wear in life. Other requirements are icing on the cake. It doesn't matter if you have no money.

Second, it doesn't matter if I don't talk to people for several days. I am mentally healthy. And now I have a tendency to talk, and I often chat with strange fellow travelers when I walk on the road.

Third, doing nothing is no longer a problem. Without the extravagant hope of climbing the peak of life, there will be no regret of wasting time. Why bother yourself.

Fourth, know how strong you are.

5. I will still go to work every three to five, go to the toilet and leave at a glance.

Sixth, I really love doing housework and enjoy it.

-@ Break the curse.

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I haven't been to work for a year and three months. I live alone in an 88-square-meter suite I bought three years ago, and I have a dog.

The experience of not going to work is really cool, and the unpleasant place is probably that people often ask you what your plans are and don't go out to work!

The people who ask you these questions are not familiar with you. Asking too many questions really annoys me.

I left my job last August. First, I go sightseeing, walk my dog and run. In July this year, I began to step into the exam rhythm and began to read books. One certificate per year, last year was an intermediate statistical certificate, and this year is an intermediate accountant. I plan to find a job and go back to work after next year.

A person who has been unemployed for more than a year has spent hundreds of thousands, squandered all kinds of fun and done many things that he always wanted to do before.

For example, I took my mother and aunt to Beijing to make up for the regret that I didn't take my grandmother to the Forbidden City before. I took my mother to a big city to see a doctor, have a physical examination and lose weight. From being overweight to reaching the standard, I run by skipping rope. Walking the dog every day, having little Teddy at home, I feel happier than ever.

If I still have money, I really want to stay away from work. I want to learn stock trading and earn some money to be a soho family at home. I think speculation is really not my character, and I may not be able to make money.

I am very grateful to myself for giving myself a long vacation and giving up a well-paid and stable bank job, which almost became the laughing stock of the small town. Many former leading colleagues said behind my back that I was too impulsive and must regret it.

However, they don't know that I have gained more than I have lost, and they don't understand the joy of my small eyes.

Lived alone for more than a year. When I was alone, I thought a lot that I didn't have before and learned a lot. This is growth.

I am too lazy to pay attention to the people around me, and use this free time to continue doing what I want to do. Life is short, what's wrong with willfulness?

I'm just an old aunt in her thirties who doesn't want to get married. I'm not afraid of gossip when I'm not married, let alone going to work.

In addition, I am anonymous because I think my choice is not good, not suitable for most people, and my personal choice is only suitable for myself.

-@ anonymous user

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I have very little hair.

She has a good family and her father is good at business. There are countless businessmen in Wenzhou, large and small. Her father is not top-notch, but no matter how big the storm is, he has never lost money.

She is free to fall in love, her husband's family is poor, and she still lives in her family after marriage. My parents are in business and gave one of the companies to my husband. In the whole family, except for her going out early and returning late, only she and her daughter are at home during the day.

In the morning, her husband will buy food and breakfast, and her mother will leave after cooking.

She probably woke up naturally, and her daughter is fine. She didn't cry or make trouble until 10. Sometimes she has lunch at home, and sometimes she orders takeout.

Then she plays with her mobile phone and the baby watches iPad. Sometimes she will play all kinds of reference books and toys with her baby. In the afternoon, the baby took another nap. When the child slept, he watched a new drama and a circle of friends, and then ordered afternoon tea to rest.

In the evening, when her husband is busy, he will bring her dinner. That's how she spent the day when I went to see her on holiday. I like her daughter very much. She's fine.

What impressed me most was that when I went to her house, her daughter brought me a lot of food. I am deeply impressed that the child is so atmospheric at a young age. She smiled and opened a drawer full of food for her daughter. She said: because children are never lacking, they will not be stingy.

At home, hourly workers are regularly invited to do cleaning, and the housework she needs to do is drying clothes and quilts. She is a very neat girl. She always goes to the top floor to bask in the sun by herself. When taking out the garbage, she took her daughter to the supermarket. One of the pleasures is to taste all kinds of new drinks.

She also has a club and a group of wives who have money to take care of their children. She will have parties every once in a while, play with her children, make all kinds of things and travel with tea.

Now my daughter is in kindergarten, and my father bought a school district house in the best local school district. The young couple don't live with their parents-in-law, so they live by themselves after the renovation of their new house.

But this year, she also went to work, in the shop downstairs in their community. Her father opened a winery for her, and she was the proprietress in the winery, selling high-grade red wine.

I don't know how she feels. My brother always said that people can only see thieves eating meat, not thieves being beaten. She also has hardships I don't know.

However, when I work alone in the field, my injuries depend on it. At first, I only had 4000 yuan. After paying the rent and meals, there is not much left. My parents never ask me if I have spent enough every time I call. I need the support of my family. They asked me: How much money have you saved? Why can't you save a dime? Don't spend money recklessly. You have to pay for buying a house at home

It is said that working girls are independent, independent and self-reliant.

But I really envy her. Really.

-@ adzuki bean

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It's been about three months since I resigned, which is really a long time for a person like me who has no capital and extra income.

At first, I felt very free. I can do whatever I want. I usually like playing games and watching Tik Tok. I can play games for a few hours, go out for dinner, sleep, and then wake up and continue to play mobile phones. I feel very comfortable.

Now I am afraid, self-blaming, lazy and decadent. Even a little depressed. At first, I quit my job as a freelancer, and like some big V's in Zhihu, I worked as an official WeChat account, wrote articles and made advertisements.

Another plan is to learn other languages, in case you can do free translation.

Then, these ideas were torn to pieces under the cruelty of reality.

There is a saying that plans can't keep up with changes. I am a person who is not self-disciplined, so I usually play without restraint, so I will throw away my previous ideas and remember them when I have played enough, huh? So I have such a plan.

The experience now is that despair is coming to an end, and I have thought about the meaning of my existence.

So I advise people with poor self-control not to try this kind of life, because it will make you worse and worse. Lonely people will become more and more withdrawn, out of touch with society and more and more afraid. They may not even have the courage to go out to work at the end of the day.

I remember there was a joke on the internet before, which was roughly like this: listen to my advice, brother, put down the game, go out for a walk, read a book, ride a bike, and finally you find the internet interesting. I think it is the same at work now.

It's too painful. It's recommended that people who have poor self-control and can't support themselves without working don't try this state.

I hope my experience will help you.

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