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Shede kua
I had a good memory when I was a child. Generally, short stories can be repeated after reading them once. In that modest era, when my father mentioned me, he didn't say it deliberately like other parents? My child, no! Not as good as yours? . He never hesitates to praise my strengths, and he will tell the truth that I have a good memory and can repeat the story once I read it. This practice was quite shocking at that time, but it greatly inspired my love for language.
Children don't know what modesty is and will take everything adults say seriously. As long as adults don't exaggerate praise in public, it is good for children's strengths. ? Praise in public, scold behind your back? That's the truth.
2
Shede flower
When I was a child, my family was in poor condition. As a primary school student, I especially like reading. After reading the textbook, I read my sister's Chinese book or the magazine I borrowed from my neighbor's house. Dad found out that I have this hobby and would give me a few dollars to buy books every month. Within a few months, something happened at home, and almost everyone had to borrow money to buy food. I really don't have the money to buy books. On Sunday, my father took me to the county cinema more than ten kilometers away by bike, where there was a stall where renters lost it every day. I read one for 30 cents. I have been sitting for a long time and can read more than a dozen books. In the evening, my father took me home by bike. Before I read it? Idle books? In this matter, my father is willing to spend money and work hard, which laid the foundation for my composition to a great extent. From small to large, composition is also the support of my confidence.
In the process of educating children, we find their strengths and focus on cultivating them, which coincides with the current educational concept.
three
Willing to accompany
Children nowadays lack companionship. I'm glad my father did it.
At that time, he had to attend classes during the day and go to the fields to do farm work after school, so he was too busy. But no matter how busy I am, as long as I ask him questions, he will answer patiently; There are activities in my school, and he will definitely attend.
In the third year of high school, my grades have improved a lot. As a progressive parent, my father asked the county to hold a parent-teacher conference. Dad changed his shift in advance and got up early to finish the work in the field. At the appointed time, I went to meet him at the school gate. He was already there, and I caught a glimpse of him washing clothes. He didn't say anything that embarrassed me, but he took care of my adolescent self-esteem so attentively.
For every child, it is very important to concentrate on companionship, be willing to spend time and care about the child's mind.
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give up
Dad dotes on me a little, but in the cultivation of character, cruelty is unambiguous. 12 years old, in junior high school, go by bike; I reported to high school and tidied up the bedding. My classmates were usually made by my parents, but he stopped my mother from helping me with these things.
After graduating from college, I signed a company, but I left home thousands of miles away. My father was not surprised when he answered my phone, nor did he try his best to dissuade me. He just talked about the inconvenience of being too far away from home, and then said: Go when you think about it; You can come back whenever you want. ?
Finally, I voluntarily gave up this job opportunity. But what about this? Make your own decisions, parents are just consultants, not decision makers? Cheerful personality, has now been used in the education of his son.
five
Shed said
Many people have problems communicating with their parents and even close their hearts to them.
My mother and I are basically closed, because she especially likes to scold me. I am willing to open my heart for my father. I said I failed in the exam, and he would analyze the reasons with me and say? Learning is a marathon. Being behind temporarily does not mean being behind forever. Just make progress next time, okay? . When my grades dropped by more than ten places and I doubted that I was not the material for this study at all, my father came over and said, even if you are really a stupid child, so what? You can also write novels and be a writer in the future! "
No matter how many years have passed, I will never forget this sentence.
It is this sentence that makes me understand how important it is for parents to be positive and optimistic and communicate well in the process of communicating with their children.
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Willing to accept
When I was a child, my relatives living in the city often sent me some rare retail goods. I eat by myself and share it with my parents. My mother always refuses. And dad will accept my sharing and talk over dinner? Does it taste good？ .
Dad doesn't know how to say thank you, but he knows how to praise my efforts, which not only guides me to continue to pay, but also meets my spiritual needs.
On the contrary, some parents refuse to enjoy it with their children because of the high value of goods. Children's efforts are not rewarded, and they gradually feel that good things should be enjoyed by themselves, and naturally they are unwilling to share them outside. When you grow up, it's easier not to consider other people's feelings. After all, giving satisfaction is also a spiritual need.