After breaking up, many people want to save their ex-boyfriends. They think that it is easy to make some mistakes because they are eager for success, which leads to the failure to save their ex-boyfriends. So what are the actions that make it easy to fail after breaking up? Let me tell you something in detail.

Failed to save her ex-boyfriend 1 First, three ways to save her boyfriend.

1. Stop all the behaviors that make him feel unhappy and let him calm down first.

When your boyfriend wants to break up with you, he is tired of you. Don't make him angry again. If he doesn't like your entanglement, then don't be ashamed to beg him not to break up, or you will be like a concubine who will be put in the cold, just like him and the emperor. You think you can get his forgiveness and forgiveness by begging at the top of your lungs, but it's not. Contact our real life. When you are bored and angry about something, the more it appears, the angrier you are.

The same is true of love. If you do this, it will only make him look down on you, look down on you, resent everything you say and do, and dislike you.

So don't condescend to ask him not to abandon you. It's no use saying anything more. It's better to leave quietly first, let him calm down first, and then make plans.

Step 2 rebuild attraction

Young, energetic and beautiful girls represent strong reproductive ability and excellent genes. In ancient times, the survival rate of mankind was very low. For the sake of racial gene reproduction and growth, young and beautiful girls have become the objects favored by men, and this choice tendency has not changed so far. Therefore, it is very important to improve your attractiveness in order to save your boyfriend.

First impressions are very important for women to please themselves. To enhance her attractiveness, she must "start from scratch". Careful makeup, eyes with eyes, men are often irresistible. There are no ugly women, only lazy women. Seriously learn the skills of dressing and the method of matching clothes. Some people will say: those people don't know the goods, only look at the appearance and don't know how to appreciate the beauty of the soul, but the reality is that the appearance is no longer beautiful. Who wants to spend more time understanding your heart?

However, the relationship will not last long when it is attractive only by appearance and has no substantive connotation. The beauty of a woman lies not only in her appearance, but also in her inner cultivation. Tenderness and consideration are irresistible to every man in the world. In a relationship, if the woman tries to dominate a relationship strongly, then the breakdown of this relationship is also foreseeable.

3. Adjust your mentality and change yourself.

Everyone thinks that their love can last. But this is not what I hope, and then what will happen. Sometimes there are some reasons that lead to the saying that TA told you to break up. When you can't face this sudden blow, it is easy for you to fall into negative and low emotions, and the whole person is full of negative energy. Who wants to live with a person full of negative energy? How to adjust the mentality to save love after breaking up?

Second, save her boyfriend's communication skills.

1, seize each other's interests.

When everyone talks about topics of interest to them, they can't help talking more. Therefore, in the process of chatting, we should pay attention to these behaviors of the other party, and combine our previous understanding and understanding of him to judge whether it is the other party's interest point.

If it is the other person's interest, we should grasp this point, extend the topic infinitely, and try our best to mobilize the other person's emotions with humorous dialogue. When you really do this step, you have actually broken the ice in the chat session, and the other party's resistance to you will gradually disappear.

Next, we can enter the links of how to build more contacts, how to guide the meeting and dating and later promotion. Bite more than one can chew, pay attention to Haige, and we will continue to share this link in the next issue!

2. Keep an optimistic attitude

A warm and happy person will always have a group of people around him, watching this unfortunate person all day, and there is no one around him. After all, no one likes to be with people full of negative emotions. So, how should we make ourselves full of passion and happiness?

You can do anything by exercising or keeping a relaxed attitude with enthusiastic people and look at everything positively. In the retreat, get along with each other with a positive attitude, let the other side be infected by your optimism and positivity, and then the relationship will continue to improve.

3. Emotional cards are a necessity in compound discourse.

The reason why every relationship is unforgettable is because there was a time when people felt happy and sweet. This happy time is your emotional foundation and the greatest capital for your reunion. Therefore, when we talk about getting back together, we must remind each other of your wonderful years and remind him that you have worked hard, worked hard and paid love for him.

Then, when he is reunited with you, he will be moved by emotional interference.

Third, save the mistakes to be avoided.

1, extreme cognition of redemption

Some girls, according to the methods we provided, successfully reunited with each other. So I made a good claim and put forward a proposal to get back together with the other party. As you expected, the other party refused. So the girl immediately angrily to theory:

"You've already talked to me, why can't you make up?"

This is a typical cognitive error. She divided the original two steps into one step. However, the process of reconciliation between two people is not as black and white as she thought. It is precisely because of the "grey zone" that the previous cold relationship has been buffered. With this buffer, we can talk about the next reconciliation.

2, grievances for perfection

Maybe your intuition will tell you that if you agree with everything he wants now, then he may come back. So at the moment of breaking up, your needs, your values, your desires and your goals are not important. Everything is to save him. As long as he can come back, everything can be compromised, which is why some people can agree with the unreasonable demands and needs of their predecessors.

But what is the result of this?

As a result, he will not only get back together with you, but also disrespect you even more. After all, the resources obtained without spending money are "worthless resources". Entering a long-term relationship with you means making a commitment to you and investing in you. So since he can get you without spending money, why not just keep a spare tire relationship with you?

3. Grasp your own "degree"

There are also many girls who fly into a rage when they are jealous, turn over their mobile phones and computers, and swear at every clue. This kind of thinking will aggravate the situation and pull you further and further. In fact, jealousy is a right of men and women, but the key is to see how you use it. Don't be too unreasonable and make trouble out of nothing, and don't hold back.

Emotional expert | Lin Mu analysis:

Many people will feel very sad and painful when facing the situation of breaking up. Losing love really hits people hard, but just being immersed in sad emotions can't change anything. I suggest you calm down first, analyze the emotional situation of two people, and then decide whether to save each other. If you want to save each other, you can show your retention attitude to each other and let them know your mind.

If the other person refuses you, you don't have to be impatient. As long as the other party doesn't give up completely, there is still a chance to save it. In this relationship, you need to be clear about why the other person broke up with you. Only by knowing where the emotional problems of two people are, can we make more targeted recovery methods. Everyone's emotional situation is different. When saving each other, we should not blindly refer to the online recovery methods. Some methods don't work for you to save each other.

If there is a problem in your relationship, you can consult an expert, who will work out an effective solution for your situation.

The failure to save the ex-boyfriend 2 the will to save is not firm. I want to save it for a while and then I want to give up, so I use the ruthlessness of the other party to find reasons to give up. Many people can't accept the fact of breaking up. They kept calling and sending messages, killing people in series, sending long articles, pouring out their hearts, expressing their love, and vowing to change themselves and start over. Call these taboos to be saved: stalking and beating.

In fact, a man will feel a little guilty when he breaks up, but your persistent behavior will completely eliminate his guilt, make him feel that breaking up is the right decision, and at the same time make your own image unbearable in his heart. Therefore, if you want to recover, you must first know how strong your willingness to recover is, and at the same time use some skills and methods in a targeted manner, so that you can recover without detours.

Many people think that breaking up is sudden, but it was not built in a day. The present situation is not formed in a day or two, but the bane buried in the process of getting along in the past few months or even years.

At this time, it is necessary to make rational judgments. Why did he give up on me after weighing the pros and cons? Whether it is love or marriage, in fact, we are all betting on a bright future. A good love or marriage is more like a futures product. We trade in the process, braving the wind and waves, but often contradictions do not come from the outside, and the strongest fortress often collapses from the inside.

The so-called love is actually the experience of * * *. The more * * *, the stronger the connection between two people, and the higher the emotional concentration. Let's climb mountains, learn to swim and run together. In short, they must go together.

You can find a symbol that belongs only to you and give it meaning. In fact, many people are not ignorant of some theoretical knowledge, but the biggest difficulty and challenge many people face is that they can't face the fact that they have lost each other, so they can't control their emotions.

There is no bad feeling, only bad feeling. More marriage management skills and emotional recovery methods welcome to pay attention to psychological feelings.