Many people are still a kind of student thinking, and look at people according to some naive moral standards, such as this person is a bad person and that person is a good person.
before you look at a person, with this preconceived preset position, you can't look at him anymore.
I have a way of looking at people, that is, whether the development trend of this person is good or bad for me, not the moral quality of this person.
why is moral quality not important? Because no matter men or women, most people's morality in this society is 37, 3 is selfish and 7 is good.
For example, there is 1, yuan on the ground, and there is no one around and no camera. Most people, including myself, must have swallowed it secretly. For example, if you drive and there is a puppy on the road, we will definitely stop the car, pick up the puppy and put it on the side of the road, and we will definitely not run over it.
We are greedy for money and we protect small animals. This is the moral level of most of the society we meet. We will not meet extreme bad people, nor will we meet unprincipled people who pour out their hearts and lungs for the good.
that's the question. how do you see if a person's development trend is good or bad for me?
For example, someone around you is not self-disciplined, negative, enterprising and uneducated, or just wants to get rich overnight, and then plays games endlessly, counting on his family to help him with everything. The development trend of this kind of people's congress probability will not be good, and this is a primary look at people.
A senior judge depends on the fields and tracks he is concerned about and engaged in. For example, he is a man who is engaged in artificial intelligence and wants to be ambitious and keep moving in his career. These tracks are the potential directions in the future, so we can pay more attention to and invest in him.
We should learn to take a long view of people, and don't always want to pick up ready-made people to hug their thighs. People who have achieved fame and success in that line are not short of money or friends, and this kind of thigh is difficult to hug.
Like investing, people should have a vision, long-term investment and long-term holding, and they should not chase after the ups and downs. When others are bad, they should stay away from others. When others are in power, they should not forget what to say, which is a typical villain.
to sum up: don't look at people with subjective feelings, but look at trends.
2. Learn to summarize the characteristics of some peers
Learn to summarize the characteristics of some peers who think about problems when judging people.
For example, officials have their own slang and terminology. For example, officials' cars don't like the license plate number with 8, but they all like to bring 7. Why? Because 7 is the top and 8 is the bottom.
Businessmen groups are more diverse and complex.
For example, bosses in real estate and manufacturing industries think differently. Real estate bosses have to deal with the government and the banks. In addition to dealing with banks, manufacturing bosses have to deal with more channels and distributors; To be a financial boss, such as stock trading and futures trading, money is a number in the eyes, and spending money is the most generous; The boss of the manufacturing industry earns too much money and spends the most cheaply. The boss of the manufacturing industry is estimated to be better to his family and himself, and is very stingy to others because it is not easy to make money.
As for judging people, you can't just scratch your eyebrows and beard, and you must judge a person by their identity, social status, occupation and wealth.
If you want to know someone, you must be familiar with this kind of people. When you collect more samples, you have a lot of similarities. Then get to know a specific person, and spending more time will definitely not be wrong.
for example, do you want to know what the leaders think? Then you should have more contact with the leaders and all those who have become leaders.
The more contacts you have with leaders, the more you can master the ideas of leaders, and you will demand yourself according to the requirements of leaders, and you will be more self-disciplined, and you will not be far from being a leader.
You can't be afraid of many circles. You should take the initiative to contact. If you can't reach the advanced ones, you will contact the lower ones. After a long time, you will definitely touch the doorway, and then these outside circles will have an impact on your way of thinking.
3. Learn to look at people according to their social position.
Learn to look at people according to their social position. People are not allowed to look at people according to their personality, color, constellation and blood type of the zodiac.
A person's temperament will change with the resources he has. For example, a leader holds a lot of power, decides the fate of others, and even has the power of life and death. His thinking, personality and temper are different from those of an ordinary person who has nothing.
Similarly, how much business a businessman does, how much wealth he has behind him and how much resources he can mobilize, their behavior pattern is definitely not inferred by any personality color or constellation.
Money is a coward. If a person has more money, even if you used to be a coward, you will have great courage. There are too many things that change.
It's quite foolish to assume a diaosi ordinary person with a constellation and personality color, so that everyone can have fun after dinner. It's quite foolish to use this to judge who to cooperate with and who to get rid of.
Conclusion: Constellation and personality color are inaccurate in judging people. According to a person's resources and social position, one can judge a person's thoughts and behavior characteristics.
To sum up:
1. Don't look at people with subjective feelings, but look at trends;
2. Learn to summarize the behavior characteristics of some groups;
3. Look at people according to their social position. Ass determines their heads. If you understand the situation of more people, you will understand the true meaning of looking at people.