Many people say that you can't change your temper, but it's not. Temper has natural reasons, but it can also be exercised in daily life. Take a break, try to think from each other's standpoint, learn more, and don't be too subjective, too extreme and too narrow-minded. When you encounter something, give yourself more hints, tell yourself to be calm, be considerate of others, take a deep breath to calm yourself down, ease your tone and leave room for others. After a long time, you will form a good habit, and naturally you will not be so grumpy.

First of all, we must understand that a person's temper is related to his personality, and his personality is related to his virtue. This cannot be faked, and virtue depends on his own cultivation.

Secondly, people with bad temper are generally impulsive people. In the face of many things, they often rely on their own perceptual knowledge to deal with problems, which is very bad. If you don't treat problems so impulsively and rationally, your temper will be much better.

For example, your wife or girlfriend lost 500 yuan. What will you do when you find out? Think about it. Touch your conscience and say what you would do if such a thing really happened. Your character will definitely say, "Why are you so careless? 500 yuan was supposed to give it to you. Now you have lost something. What should you do! " I think that's how most people with bad temper handle it! People with higher quality will handle it like this: they will calmly ask where and when they lost it, whether they went back to find it, whether they asked anyone, and so on. Then they will say that if you really can't get it back, forget it. If you lose it, you can earn it again, but you must be careful in the future! Remind the other party in a peaceful way, and the other party may accept it more easily.

In addition, people with bad temper will often talk and be aggressive when treating others, which will not only leave a bad impression on others, but also encourage your bad temper while others tolerate you.

For example, if someone asks you a question, it is quite simple for you, so you will say, "Why do you ask this question? Why not ask a question that can be thought of with your knees? " You're not retarded, are you? "It looks like a joke, but it is full of arrogance and rudeness. People with high quality will talk about this problem in detail and then say that it is actually a simple problem. Do you understand after listening to me? This way of speaking gives others a follow-up and is easy to step down.

How to get rid of bad temper? The cause of bad temper

Finally, it is important that people with bad temper usually lack self-control. If this is done, it is possible to do three things in mind, otherwise. ...........

Self-control is actually a good exercise. When you are doing something that you find interesting, if you stop doing it and there is nothing to lose except unpleasant feelings, then force yourself to stop at once and not do it.

For example, when you watch TV, a movie is very interesting. You're watching. You really want to watch. Well, turn it off and do something else. Although you are still thinking in your heart, your subjective consciousness has begun to increase self-control. Gradually, you will find that your temper is not so bad, and people's virtue is also high. If you can do the above four points.

Finally, doing long-distance running every day is also a good way to exercise self-control ability, 2000 meters a day. Insist on it every day, and your self-control ability will certainly improve, but it is impossible to improve it after three days of fishing and two days of drying the net.

What is the reason for bad temper?

Anger and anger are actually a hostile and angry state of mind. When people's subjective desire is contrary to the objective reality, this negative emotional reaction will occur. Psychological research shows that bad temper and frequent anger not only strengthen the pathogenesis of heart disease, but also increase the possibility of suffering from other diseases. Therefore, in order to ensure your physical and mental health, you must learn to control yourself and overcome the bad habit of losing your temper. Consciousness control When angry emotions are about to erupt, you should control yourself with consciousness, remind yourself to be rational, and hint to yourself: "Don't be angry, it will hurt your health". A cultured person can generally control it. Admit yourself and dare to admit that you love to lose your temper in order to get help from others. If people around you constantly remind and supervise you, then your goal will be achieved. Any normal person will be angry if he responds appropriately to injustice, but no matter what happens, he should let the other party know what he borrowed from his words and deeds without prejudice, instead of making an inappropriate counterattack quickly. Thus depriving the other party of the opportunity to admit their mistakes. Always put yourself in others' shoes and seek truth from facts. If you can stand in the other person's perspective, then, in many cases, you have no reason to take it out on others, and your anger will naturally disappear. Be tolerant and generous, don't haggle over every ounce, don't retaliate, when you learn to be tolerant, the habit of losing your temper will disappear on its own. Now in real life, some people often say, "I used to get angry easily, but I didn't realize anything was worth getting angry until I had a heart attack." Please don't wait for a heart attack to stop being angry. If you want to overcome the bad habit of blonde temper, start today.