My biggest source of positive energy is a fair-skinned and hardworking girl. She studied in a university in Beijing and got a master's degree in finance for two years. Now she has graduated and works in a Beijing branch of a bank. In the first year of study, she did the following things: (1) She ranked in the top 3% of her major, and the key points were advanced microeconomics and advanced econometrics, which was the biggest headache for me. She got 90+ in both exams, and once even 95+; (2) Pass five courses: CFA I, CFA II and CPA; (3) Besides studying, she also practises leisurely. Both companies are top brokers in China.
Last winter, in such a severe job hunting situation, she couldn't help stumbling. After getting a relatively good offer in her hometown capital city, her family inevitably advised her: "Come back, why stay in Beijing?" But she quietly said to her friend, "I don't have to stay in Beijing, but I have gained more from studying in Beijing for more than one year than from my four years in college, and sometimes even more than my previous twenty years." This growing sense of fulfillment makes me reluctant to give up. "
Today, she took part in the work. When I first started working, I chatted with my friends occasionally. I was so tired that I fell asleep in bed as soon as I opened the door. I narrowed my eyes, thinking that she got up at six o'clock every morning when she was taking the postgraduate entrance examination, and she couldn't shake the silhouette after sitting for 12 hours. I thought she was working in a white shirt and suit now. I think even if life is as tiring as she said, I seem to see her future, which must be radiant.
Seeing this, even I mistakenly thought that this was a story about bullying. However, my sister who went to high school immediately told me: "Our school won the second place in the provincial college entrance examination with a total score of 723 this year, but she was actually not satisfied with her grades. A few days after the score came out, she went back to school to teach herself English ... this is called Xueba! "
So, I'm not telling a story about bullying. Because there will always be someone in this world who will review for a shorter time and get a higher score than you. I just want to say that in the same growing environment, there are always people who go faster and further because of their sobriety and self-knowledge.
Perhaps in the eyes of better people, her grades are simply easy to get. They don't even have to die for the exam, but they can get into a prestigious school smoothly, and they don't have to work hard to prepare, so they can get an offer that everyone envies and hates. But three years ago, she graduated from college like me. In the previous four years, we were in the same classroom, listening to the same class, writing the same homework, complaining about the same thing and doing the same test questions.
Today, three years later, I have been left behind by her, and even I can only see the dust flying in front of me, and even the figure has disappeared. Behind the dust is not only the lack of knowledge, but also the courage to face difficulties and the pursuit of challenging yourself.
I used to set various boundaries for myself, whether out of natural inertia or panic and frustration. For example, I just don't understand accounting thinking, I just don't understand the complicated operation of futures market, and I just don't understand the course of econometrics. ...
The older I get, the more I even learn to escape. I always comfort myself with "I won't do this job in the future anyway" or "I don't need those theoretical derivations in writing my thesis anyway" and find various reasons to avoid the hard wounds in those knowledge systems. I don't know if I will stumble because of my laziness and evasion in my future life and work, but now I finally understand that even if I don't stumble, I am far behind others.
The world is changing so fast that others are flying all the way. If you are alone, you will not only be left behind by your peers, but also a large number of latecomers will surpass your level in the future. It will be really late to regret it.
When I was a freshman, one of my most respected teachers once said at a meeting, "Students and young people your age can be regarded as a growing tree. What matters to you now is not how lush the branch is, but how to tie it deeper. Because only when the roots are deeper and stronger can this tree become taller and more lush. "
At that time, I didn't listen, thinking that everyone didn't understand this truth. Now, this is the simplest truth, and it took me six or seven years to understand it. I think the implication of the teacher's words is: when you are young, never set limits for yourself. When you are young, you should study hard, try new things and experiences as much as possible, and accumulate innate experiences and lessons. Only in this way can we lay a solid foundation, absorb nutrients and grow tall and straight. Looking back at his rickety and fragile roots and malnourished branches, I only feel that I have failed the teachers' earnest instruction.
Last month, I paid attention to a public micro-signal, called an activity, called "It will change every day in the next 30 days", which listed many things that can be changed. As a person who often complains and grumbles, I chose the little thing of "not complaining every day".
A month passed, and I was surprised to find that I not only kept a steady and calm mood every day, but also got rid of the anxiety that often bothered me. More importantly, my attitude towards the whole life and the future has become positive.
I have never seriously thought about the destructive impact of my shortcomings of "complaining about others" before, but later I think that the negative emotions in my life, such as anxiety, easy to give up, lack of self-confidence, etc., all stem from this.
It turns out that it is not only in the knowledge structure and learning, but also the "limit" I give myself in life. For example, because of my stiff body, I couldn't do many simple moves in the first yoga class in college, but the yoga instructor at that time mistakenly thought that I didn't want to do it seriously and severely scolded me: "Can't you finish an action seriously?" ! "
So, until now, I firmly remember the embarrassment and embarrassment at that time and don't want to learn yoga anymore. When people ask me, I always give up on myself and say, "I am that kind of rigid body, I just can't do yoga." In fact, when I think about it seriously, the yoga instructor may have just uttered a sentence casually at that time, but this sentence has impressed me for several years, so I have always missed the opportunity to change my physical fitness through yoga. Borrow a friend's sharp scolding method, that is, "Stop nagging, you can't stick to the ground every day!" "
Now, I don't want to refuse to practice yoga on the pretext of being stiff, to refuse to learn swimming on the pretext of being in poor health, to refuse to put on light makeup before going out on the pretext of being in trouble and having no time, and to refuse to plan a trip on the pretext of bad weather far away.
I once said that youth is so precious that it seems that how to spend it is a waste of time. I don't know whether to soak in the library study room, or to read books, travel and see the magnificent world. Xueba is still respected by everyone, and travelers who quit their jobs and left school are also preaching their values. Apart from different views, most of us are actually confused and skeptical about the way to settle down. So we have been constantly exploring and overthrowing, and finally find our own way.
I don't know how to go in the future, or how to live is a "right" life without regrets. I just want to keep trying new things in my life, don't give up easily, don't say no easily, keep a curiosity, live an increasingly rich life and broaden my narrow life.
Get rid of the mental bacteria of "I can't", "I won't" and "I can't do it" and move towards a broader life! Don't miss these good bodies! Move your fingers and share this article!