If the concubines are at fault, they will generally be put in the cold shoulder.
Don't worry about the influence of your parents. Which family is stronger than the royal family?
There are indeed some families in history that are stronger than the royal family, but will the daughters of such families make mistakes in the harem?
Power is greater than royalty. This concubine must be absolutely right in the harem. If there is a mistake, it must be the fault of other concubines and even the emperor himself.
For example, I haven't heard that Cao Cao's queen daughter Cao Jie made a mistake, have you? Cao Cao's influence is far greater than that of Emperor Xian of Han Dynasty, so it is absolutely impossible for Cao Jie to make mistakes. No, that belongs to Queen Fu, too. Look how miserable Queen Fu died. Look at Emperor Xian of Han Dynasty, full of mistakes. How miserable it is to endure for decades.
(The picture shows Prime Minister Han, Wang Cao and their son-in-law Han Xiandi Liu Xie)
If the consorts were not Cao Cao, Emperor Wen of Sui Dynasty, Lu Shi and Wu Shi, it would be impossible for the emperor to care about the concubines' families.
As you said, it is even more impossible to "live outside the palace with my son instead of being in the cold."
Why did eunuchs in previous dynasties unswervingly prohibit concubines from touching men?
Nothing more than the emperor's fear of being cuckolded by others.
As long as the emperor himself is not dead, concubines can't settle outside the palace for a long time, unless they are mothering for a very short time, just like sister Jia Baoyu in A Dream of Red Mansions.
It's probably useless for the emperor to die himself. The toffee who gave birth can still have a place in the palace. The former imperial concubines who had no children were either ordered to become monks (actually imprisoned in Buddhist temples or Taoist temples) or put in limbo, and there was no happiness at all.
In some dynasties, after the death of the emperor himself, the concubines who gave birth to the captaincy could be taken to the captaincy by the son of the captaincy. However, there are conditions. All the princes who can be vassals are fully developed princes, and the concubines themselves are about forty years old. Ancient women may have entered menopause at that age, and the possibility of cheating is relatively low.
So from a certain point of view, being the emperor's little wife (except the queen, everyone else is the emperor's little wife) is also a seemingly happy thing, but in fact it may not be happy, and the risk is particularly great, even worse than speculating in stocks, futures and gold. It is not surprising that accidental abortion is light and people die.
Zhi (Zhi) is also a pig. A person just cuts off his limbs, gouges out his eyes, injects copper into his ears to make him deaf (smoke deafness), pours medicine into his throat, cuts off his tongue, destroys his vocal cords, and then throws it into the toilet. Some people even have to cut off their noses, shave off their hair, shave off their eyebrows (not just eyebrows and hair, but also eyelashes), and then apply an ointment. If a skin falls off or dies during the execution, the executioner will be laughed at and even lose his job. Some of them died during the execution, and those who didn't die were put into toilets and made into human prostitutes. The most famous is that Lv Hou, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, took Mrs Qi hostage, arranged for someone to "take care of" her, and then abandoned her in the toilet to let her die of pain, cut off her ears and even scratched her face. This is one of the cruelest tortures invented against Mrs. Qi.
(People who have no hands or feet are probably like this. This picture is not easy to find, and the child is still laughing. The true restoration map of human body should not be found on the domestic network)