Oh ~ domineering leaked, I simply admire! Finding a long-term meal ticket that he has raised all his life has never been within my goal. Just listening makes me feel sorry for myself. Why do I want it? In this strange interaction, both the other party and even the subconscious mind that reaches out to others will automatically assume that "asking others" is an empty position, so there will be differences in any aspect. When two people conflict because of contradictions, there will be a kind of "compensation" mentality, and the "soft-hearted" party will naturally become the victim, and the result of step by step concession will further consolidate the imbalance of the relationship, and will also
Of course, it is definitely another matter to take care of the newborn at home temporarily without going to work, but this situation may happen in the next door upstairs and downstairs. Mr. Zhang, who is in charge of making money outside, will do nothing but be served at home. He "reasonably" thinks that "you only need to take care of the children at home, and someone will give you money if you don't work. I made all the money. After working hard, I am as tired as a dog. Why should I help with the children when I go home? 」
The mothers around the bank counter unanimously passed without objection. Although they sit at the counter every day, their eyes turn to the back of their heads and face countless strange things, they are scared to death by gangsters who rob with knives from time to time. Even if they may suffer a bloodbath at any time, they would rather stay in the company and put their lives at risk (laughs), which is easier than being completely drained of their children's physical strength and hollowing out their hearts at home! You must not have expected this gentleman who doesn't know the truth. Your wife never stays at home when you work hard.
You want your off-duty time, but working 24 hours and staying at home doesn't mean there is no income and output value. You have saved the baby-sitting fee that you don't have to pay, which is actually equivalent to your wife's salary. More important is intangible value. Your wife shoulders the heavy responsibility of raising and educating your next generation, which is completely different from your fantasy of "just holding the child and laughing and circling all day"! You need to relax at home. You don't want to spend any more money. Don't you dare ask, "When can your wife get off work? When can I not be busy? When can I have a good sleep without hurting the whole family? 」
Judging from the experience of a person who has been around us, new parents may want to participate in the growth of their children in infancy, rather than leave them to a third person to take care of them. During this period, both husband and wife need to discuss the professional division of labor, which can be that the mother who wants to breastfeed is the main force to take care of the children, the father works together, and Qi Xin works together for several years.
However, the workplace is a place where there are a lot of negative emotions coming and going. Men who bear the burden of family expenses will easily absorb too much negative energy if they are not careful. If their fragile hearts are not resolved in time, they will inevitably go back on their words when they get home. They will use colored eyes to "demonize" the other half into a yellow-faced woman who is unkempt and asks him for money all day, and become a housewife who vents sandbags. It is innocent and wronged, but there are still many accidents in life.
When the children are older, regardless of whether the mother's working salary is higher than the nanny's fee, I will encourage women to go out of their homes and develop their own careers when environmental conditions permit. Otherwise, I'm glad to see that stay-at-home mothers have lived a life without monotonous slashes. No matter how much they have contributed to the family, you should keep your "roots" and keep a part of yourself, so that you won't suddenly get lost in your new identity and sprout. Children need mothers, but husbands also need their wives and yours.
Don't be a flower that depends on the climate to decide life and death. We all have the ability to choose a better one, where to grow, what nutrients to absorb and why to bloom.
If a woman has her own career stage, her achievements at work will make you exude a confident and charming posture. Through work, she can also improve your problem-solving ability, constantly broaden what you see and hear, so that you won't fall into a stupid woman who doesn't like her in any quarrel. If you can keep the fighting power that stands out among women, you won't lose control of your obsession because you can only stay at home all day. Most importantly, you have control over the money you earn, so you can spend it with confidence. When you use the money my mother earned to buy him a birthday present, or celebrate the other half's promotion and invite a big meal to comfort him, you can win his appreciation and respect for you as a modern independent woman.
Both men and women should have money, but if they don't learn the correct concept of financial management, the wealth earned by biting their teeth may be countered in unexpected ways in the future.
If you have a strong interest in volatile investments, such as stocks, futures options and other derivative financial products, it will force you to receive 1 2% interest as a bank deposit, and you will certainly be world-weary and have doubts about life (laughs); If you can be satisfied with prudent financial management, do not seek profiteering and quick money, and can't accept that the principal will vanish overnight, it will force you to bet all your bets on the investment with infinite ups and downs, and you will certainly be unable to bear the psychological pressure and suffer from anxiety and insomnia every night.
Before managing money, you must thoroughly understand your personality. Using force and violence can never maintain long-term self-discipline. Money will shorten the distance between heaven and hell, make you more comfortable and bring you closer to danger. It's not just a matter of quantity.
At the beginning of a financial plan, it is necessary to presuppose the future use of this fund, and then find the most efficient combination and collocation corresponding to this goal in many aspects. All financial products are just tools to achieve financial goals, and each has its own purpose. There is no best, everything has its inevitability. With the changes in every stage of life, your financial needs will be different, and the same product may become suitable for you under different circumstances.
According to my personality and current stage of life, I am unmarried and childless. I know I'm not crazy about adventure and speculation, and I can't live a bittersweet life. Through the asset management mode that suits me, I can enjoy the quality of life to the fullest, and I can also try my best to practice my dream of traveling around the world. Copy and paste can't solve all your needs. I want to go my own way in financial management and help you add a pair of wings that are not easy to break when you struggle for life.