It was not until Saturday that I found out that he began to be lazy and used a brush to write the kindergarten's pen operation, which gave me a chance to practice.
PS: I'd like to add here that I take a proactive approach, that is, I will solve this problem before the child breaks out. I think based on parents' understanding of their children, it is ok to take the initiative to attack, and the effect will be better than that of passive solution.
For the summary of SPCP method, please click: /p/d2d53a6e3ce6.
Me: Little friend, I found that you have been doing your homework with a brush for two days in a row. What happened?
He: Mom, a thick brush is easier to write than a thin pen!
Me: Oh, a thick brush is easier to write than a fine brush. Are you worried about poor writing?
He: Yes! Worried that fine pen is not easy to write and the score is low. I don't want to get low marks.
Me: You don't want to get a low score, of course I know. But if you look at your previous homework, it's all written in fine pen, and many of them are full marks. I'm afraid you always write with a brush. Easy as it is, it will go backwards. When you go back to school and have to write with a fine pen, the teacher will say you (define the problem). what am I supposed to do？ (invitation)
He: I can start from tomorrow and do my homework with a good pen.
Me: Great! Good idea, then we have a deal!
He: It's a deal!
The problem is easy to solve!
On Sunday morning, when it was time to do his homework, he smiled and took out his thin pen. When grading him, I gave him a few full marks (ignoring a little flaw) to strengthen his love for meticulous painting.
This dialogue has three advantages:
The first is, of course, to prevent him from losing his temper. In fact, if we don't use spcp method, he will probably refuse my request, entangled in the strange logical whirlpool of which is easy, which is difficult and which is not fun. He likes fun.
Secondly, he, who has always been more self-centered, took my concerns into consideration this time and came up with a solution himself.
Finally, as a new spcper, I also got a successful practice opportunity. I hope I can use spcp more and more skillfully to help him move from a grumpy child to a rational child.
In fact, I think many things that need to be discussed can be discussed by SPCP method, not necessarily to prevent children from losing their temper, but to give children an opportunity to integrate their left and right brains, exercise themselves to listen to others and find a "win-win" solution.
I hope that through our continuous efforts, bad temper can also be exchanged for good quality.