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Some people say that women are emotional animals and are most likely to act impulsively. Although this sentence is slightly biased, sometimes I have to admit it. Especially when you wait for a long time and finally meet someone who meets your psychological expectations, even the most rational and intelligent girl will become blind. Although people naturally mature through constant trial and error, who has never encountered a scumbag in their youth, but being injured all over the body is probably not what a parent wants to see.

Therefore, I would like to say here that although parents should not interfere too much in marriage matters, if possible, please tell your daughter not to have a flash marriage. Especially when you meet a man with the following behaviors, although he is not a scumbag, he is a proper mother's boy. Don't ever think that they will change after you get married.

Unable to take care of himself and unable to separate from his mother

As a child, it is a very common phenomenon to occasionally seek advice and support from your parents. But as a man, he has to ask his mother for everything. If he cannot take care of himself without his mother, that would be a bit too much.

I heard from a friend that her first love was a mama’s boy. When we first started dating, boys would call home if they came home late. As a result, the girl's inner favorability soared, and she felt that filial boys were good.

But later I discovered that he couldn't decide on any small things, and he had to ask for his fucking opinions, such as small things like accommodation, what clothes to wear every day, etc. What's even more shocking is that his mother will open the door and pass in towels when he is taking a shower. Later, because his mother didn't like her friend, the man broke up with her coldly and violently. At that time, I was still a little sad and reluctant, and wanted to try to save him. Now I really want to thank him for not marrying me back then.

I want to say something here, this is what a mama’s boy is, and it’s also the abnormal situation where the mother can’t live without her son, and the son can’t live without his mother. When a girl gets married, she will have the feeling that she is the third party who destroys the relationship between mother and child. In daily life, I often feel the helplessness of being unable to integrate into my husband's family, or even being deliberately isolated.

Keep talking about "my mother" and always choose his mother

Although some men have already gone to work, no matter what they talk about, they will habitually Mom talks about it. At first, it will leave the impression of a good baby. But if you dig deeper into the background, it is not difficult to find that such men have incomplete personality differentiation, are not independent in personality, and are too dependent on their mother in all aspects. As a result, they will not be able to have independent opinions and thoughts in their future lives. When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have problems and conflicts, they cannot be a good bridge to mediate the relationship. Between his wife and his mother, such a man will always choose the latter.

Too dependent on mother for money and unable to achieve financial independence.

In addition to the above two manifestations, another typical behavior of mama's boy is lack of financial independence. Mainly manifested in two aspects: one is handing over the salary card to the mother, which may sound filial, but after all, a man still needs to have the ability to manage money reasonably; the other is that his ability to make money is limited and he is completely dependent on his mother for support. If a girl gets married, it goes without saying that she has to live her life looking at the face of her husband's family.