When you say "husband and wife go their separate ways", it generally includes two situations: economic "single" and spiritual "single".
Husband and wife are economically "single", which is what we usually call economic independence.
Two people who had nothing to do with each other were combined by a marriage certificate to form a family, and they had children, families and children. It can be said that husband and wife are one in the legal sense, but as natural persons, husband and wife can be independent in personality and property, and still independent in personality and economy.
So in the modern sense, husband and wife are equal, and there is no question of who belongs to whom. However, when the economic situation of husband and wife is unbalanced, there is economic complementarity and subordination from the perspective of each other's rights and obligations. For example, some wives don't go to work, stay at home and teach their children, and they can rely on their husbands financially. If the wife has a job, a fixed income and can be financially independent, this is a kind of progress for the family, and the concept and practice of husband and wife's personal property independence can be implemented. Such economic "singleness" reduces bondage and increases freedom and comfort, doesn't it?
Next, let's take a look at the spiritual "single" between husband and wife. In the words that people often say, stay yourself after marriage.
In the survey, it is found that many couples break up, not because they don't love each other enough, but because they want to be the focus of each other's life. The preference in life and work makes each other have no chance to breathe, which has always led to frequent friction between the two sides, and the result can only be a regrettable ending. The best state for couples to get along with each other is probably to respect each other's wishes, preferences and choices.
Only by being yourself can one love others better. A strong relationship between husband and wife is not to impose your expectations on each other and give up on yourself in order to fulfill each other. But to develop their own independent thoughts and get along with each other, independent and interdependent.
It can be seen that a good relationship between husband and wife is not mutually controlled and bound, but relatively independent and mutually supportive. If you want a long-term love between husband and wife in marriage and family, you can't just satisfy your own desires, but give each other more economic and spiritual independence, and expect two people to grow better in love.
Having said that, I hope you can see and understand more about the relationship between husband and wife from the experiences of people you have experienced.