I met a little girl these days. She is nineteen years old and knows what she wants to do. I think it's great to find something interesting to do at such a young age. Watching her chat, her tone is slightly childish and mature, and she does not hide her desire and ambition for life.

I was the same when I was 19 years old. I was a full-fledged ambitious girl, and I never concealed my material desires. When I said I wanted it, I wanted it. No matter how hard it was, I was willing to pay, and I was tired, as long as I wanted it, as long as I felt it was worth it. But my former friends, or some male friends who are suspected of straight male cancer, will ask me what my future plans are. After I tell them the truth, they will say, Oh, you are a girl, so hard, so hard, and then what?

I'm not getting married yet,

I'm not having a baby at home, so why bother?

About you being a girl, you don't have to work so hard. I think everyone probably heard more than me. Many people just listen, they should go their own way, and they should go back and suffer.

But at that time, I was still naive and a little feminist. I thought such remarks were insulting to women and me. I must argue with them and spend my whole life trying to convince them, just forcing them to say it themselves. When girls start to work hard, they can say something equally powerful.

However, every time I have such an argument, I lose, because every time they will say that you are still a student and have no understanding of reality at all. Real life is far from your campus life. When you really get into the society, you won't think so. In fact, it doesn't matter whether a girl works hard or not.

At that time, I didn't know how to refute this conclusion, because his premise was established. I was really a student girl, and I had a more terrible desire than a man. Even if I took a part-time job occasionally, I just saw a little bit of the reality.

then I learned to shut up, not because I felt guilty that I couldn't last long, nor because I was afraid that I would sharpen all my unwillingness in the process of growing up. But because I think if I can't talk to them again, I may be angry enough to break up with them. After all, at that age, none of you can underestimate my conceit. At that time, I didn't understand it. If people say something about you, you just pretend you can't hear it, and you don't understand the truth that you are still good friends. When I was a junior, I went to my local high school to practice as a Chinese teacher and an assistant to the head teacher. Many students thought that it was nothing if they couldn't go to college, and it was nothing if they didn't work hard. Anyway, my parents would help me find a good job, even a position that you couldn't get even after going to college.

At that time, I was particularly anxious, especially some girls. They used curling irons to curl their bangs in class, but they couldn't even take out their textbooks. They discussed the teacher's hair, the teacher's skirt, the boys in the next class, and what to eat after class, but they just didn't listen well.

Maybe their parents are already ready to be a catcher. Even if they are not, they are ready to get married. It doesn't matter if they study or not.

In order to change this atmosphere, I have even become the one that everyone hates most. The "head teacher" who probes behind the window always quietly watches what they are doing, arranges homework in self-study class and makes a surprise attack.

I don't know how to instill in them some values that girls should work hard. Changing others is the most difficult thing in the world, but education is so sacred. I suddenly feel a little scared to put the future of so many people in the class on my shoulders. I am a pervert with a burst of responsibility. If I can't teach them well, I think I will be very painful.

I am selfish and don't want to suffer, which may be one of the reasons why I insisted on not being a teacher later.

I don't even know if it was right to insist that everyone should work hard and girls should work harder. Because some girls told me that she just wanted to get married early and start a family in our small town.

I know there is nothing wrong with this vision of life, but I still severely criticize them when they are distracted and slack. Believe me, I will say anything worse.

What I said was actually addressed to myself. I don't have a good appearance, a good figure, a good family, and I can't rely on my parents or men. Who will depend on in the end?

people have to rely on themselves in the end, and girls are no exception.

It's true that girls will get married and have their own babies, but there are many kinds of life before and after giving birth to a baby. Starting a family is only a step in life, not an end.

and getting married is a happy thing, not a retreat after having no choice.

there are many ways of life. isn't it a little early for you to limit yourself to one now?

I still insist on this. I don't know what the result of girls' efforts is, but I always feel that there is nothing wrong with efforts. Many people ask, you work so hard, and then what? I don't know then, because my efforts are still in the process.

There will be many endings of "then":

No matter how hard I may try, I can't escape the fate of an ordinary person, and I can't escape the cycle of a dull life. Even if I try hard in the end, I will still work hard, and I will honestly accept my fate as an ordinary person. Because I knew before I tried, no one can always make a dream come true. I may have seen big waves, colorful and colorful, and suddenly one day I want to return to my family to live a sweet and safe life, be a full-time mother, protect and educate my baby with my own experience, and be happy with my husband and children. Moreover, this seemingly calm identity also requires unimaginable efforts. Maybe, I think this world is so wonderful. Even in married with children, I want to wander around this world for a few more times. I'm here, and I'm sorry for my ambition and desire. Even if I'm tired because of my multi-layered identity as a wife and mother, I'm still me, and I want to try my best to let myself see myself, aren't I?

Then if they ask me again, it's been a long time on the edge of real life. Do you still think girls need to work hard? Even if you work hard for so long, then what?

then? Then I can choose how I want to live.

every girl is a leprechaun. She should cultivate Wang Dachun with half affection and half sexiness. ID:chun9276.