Suddenly becoming the parents of three children made their lives shudder for a while. As a father of three children, Jack is both happy and depressed. After working hard every day, he has to face three crying little guys when he comes home, which makes Jack very nervous. He even relieved his stress by drinking and coming home late, so the burden of family fell on Rebecca alone.
In the face of her alcoholic husband, Rebecca finally showed her attitude after Jack came home late again: I wanted to be a perfect parent, with at least nine points, but now we only passed because I gave my all and you lowered our scores. I can't stand you lowering our grades any longer. After a long talk with his wife, Jack was wide awake. He slept in front of his wife's bedroom that night. The next morning, facing his gentle and strong wife, he promised her to give up drinking and raise his three children together.
I will give full marks to this confession and collect it decisively. I really appreciate Rebecca's way of dealing with problems, putting them out, explaining the truth clearly, and showing her attitude and what she hopes the result will be, instead of complaining blindly. I have paid more than you. Why don't you understand me and get into endless quarrels? Of course, not all quarrels should be avoided. Contradictions and frictions in life are inevitable. It is acceptable to quarrel with the purpose of solving the problem. The most terrible thing is that when quarreling becomes a normal state or it is found that quarreling cannot solve the problem, quarreling becomes malicious slander. Because we all know each other too well, know each other's weaknesses and what we care about, so the attack is more targeted, leaving no room for language, and finally we get an irreparable situation. No one is willing to give in, and contradictions accumulate bit by bit. Whether in love or after marriage, aren't many beautiful feelings shattered like this?
I like what a woman said: "Things change, let it be". The confusion faced by many people may be that things have changed, but he is still in the same place and does not follow the crowd. When life throws out problems, if we can face up to the existence of the problems, accept each other's imperfections with an inclusive attitude, then actively deal with them and try to find a balance, maybe many feelings can go further.
Before they had children, Jack and Rebecca had a very sweet relationship. When Rebecca was a child, she couldn't talk loudly at home every Sunday, otherwise she would be kicked out of the house because she wanted her father to watch the ball quietly. I met Jack after falling in love. He is also an avid football fan. She didn't want to be left out, so she began to learn to watch the game with Jack, and finally became more enthusiastic than Jack. I must have a YY here. I really want to have a girlfriend like Rebecca. I can't get excited about watching football matches or playing games by myself.
In a super bowl, Rebecca inadvertently put forward the idea of not wanting children. She is worried that having a baby will disturb her sweet life now. The two began to argue about whether to have children. Rebecca squatted in front of the frog bar sadly and missed the best moment of the game. Jack is not in the mood to watch the game, and the team he supports won and didn't feel any happiness. He found Rebecca and showed his heart: "If I had to choose between you and your children, I would choose you. I always fantasize that when I have children, I will watch the game with them, but I will let them talk casually, no matter how loud the voice is. " Jack's gentle confession gave Rebecca greater confidence and they made up again.
Jack began to try to be a competent father, but the problem will not go away.
Kevin almost drowned in the swimming pool in order to attract his parents' attention. Jack realized his problem and sincerely apologized to the child: "I'm sorry, I'm really sorry, but this is my first time as a father, okay?" I have to take care of you three. I'm trying. Now I can get a sentence, do I love you, dad? "
Randall, who was adopted, is the cleverest and most sensitive. In order to integrate into this family, he could have got an A, but he deliberately got a B.
Kate has been a fat girl since childhood. When she went to the swimming pool, she received a note from her little friend: We don't want to play with you. In order to comfort her, Jack took out a magic T-shirt and told her that she could become what she wanted as long as she put it on, and said thoughtfully, in my eyes, you will always be a little princess.
I have to say that Jack and his wife have done well enough as parents, but the children still inevitably have various problems. Kevin and Landauer can't get along, and Kate finally becomes a fat man who hates herself.
Kevin is a third-rate comedian when he grows up. He makes a living by acting comedies and TV dramas that he finds disgusting, and leads a life that others look glamorous, but he is not happy. On his 36th birthday, he finally couldn't stand it. He cursed the absurdity of the plot and the vulgarity of the audience on the set and then quit his job.
Kate is deeply troubled by obesity. She forced herself to eat those low-calorie disgusting foods, but she still couldn't lose weight. She has been trying to change, but she is worried that the situation will remain the same after the change.
Randall's job is commodity futures trading based on long-term climate models. He loved his job, but because most people didn't understand it, he began to doubt himself. Maybe he shouldn't be engaged in such an incomprehensible career, dealing with a pair of boring numbers, but should become a person engaged in the literary industry, which may win more people's love.
There is also a small plot that touched him. On Thanksgiving Day, Kevin accidentally knocked over the blueberries carefully prepared by his mother. Jack quickly said: nothing! I know how scared I was when I was a child. When I was a child, I accidentally broke a bowl. My mother will always complain that you are so stupid. When my father is in a bad mood, he looks gloomy and I dare not go out. I don't blame my parents for saying these things. Now I clearly know my parents' own limitations. On the way I grew up, they gave me enough love and freedom to choose. I'm grateful for that.
When Rebecca asked the children what kind of Thanksgiving they wanted, Randall said, "Actually, I don't want to celebrate Thanksgiving, because every time I go to my grandmother's house for Thanksgiving, you talk loudly, as if you were a different person. I don't like you like that. " My car broke down on my way to my parents' house. Rebecca called my parents and asked them to pick them up. As soon as the phone was connected, there was a quarrel. After hanging up the phone, I turned to Jack. I don't know why. I think of myself. I vaguely remember accompanying my parents to my grandmother's house to pay New Year's greetings when I was a child. My mother always quarrels with my grandfather, and every time it seems to be an unpleasant memory. Now I occasionally call my mother when I work outside, and sometimes I unconsciously show impatience. Maybe I didn't realize it at that time, maybe we all left negative emotions to the closest people.
The whole film is about trivial things in everyone's life, which is related to growth and has some warmth. Like every ordinary person, they sometimes feel sorry for themselves, sometimes unrealistic, sometimes obsessed with the past and sometimes too reckless. But after struggling, life will still give them some moments of epiphany and a few but important returns.