Faye Wong, Li Yapeng, Zhou Xun and Leah Dou made a hot search at the New Year party. After all, the relationship between these four people is too complicated and strange, and their box is still a little dizzy. It seems that the people in this entertainment circle are really beyond our ordinary people's understanding.

Faye Wong can be said to be a "legendary" figure in the entertainment circle. Because of her feelings and marriage and her maverick, netizens have a polarized reputation for her. People who like her praise her for her true nature, living herself and being a high school girl forever. People who don't like her call her a selfish "old" woman who only wants to fall in love by herself, regardless of her children, and is not worthy of being a mother.

Audrey Hepburn, who has been divorced twice, had an extramarital affair, cheated on her, etc., is the eternal goddess in the hearts of many netizens in China, while Faye Wong, who has also been divorced twice, is often raved by netizens and even insulted by ugly words. The same divorced female star, why do netizens treat it differently, and the view is so obvious?

Let's talk about Audrey Hepburn first. She was the most famous actress in 195s and 196s, which was in sharp contrast with Marilyn Monroe at that time. One was elegant, dignified, romantic and pure. One is a sexy stunner, the target of public criticism.

Hepburn was divorced twice. Including marriage, she had seven relationships, many of which involved extramarital affairs and infidelity. This should have been criticized by people, but her image has never been affected. Apart from emotional twists and turns, her career has been very smooth, and her reputation and reputation have been very good. Her image always seems to be synonymous with nobility and Bai Yueguang in men's minds.

Although Hepburn has rich love history, she is dignified, prudent, gentle and virtuous, and she is an artificial image of a good mother more than herself.

She always wanted to have children because of the difficulty of pregnancy. She not only loved her children, but also gave her maternal love to thousands of children in Qian Qian. Especially in her charity work in her later years, she focused on UNICEF, and many photos appeared with hungry children and African refugees.

In people's minds, no matter how many times she has been in love, she is a qualified mother, because she plays the role of a mother well. The temperament around her, especially in the future, is full of maternal brilliance.

Let's talk about Faye Wong. Her love story is well known to everyone. She has been divorced twice. Her ex-husbands are Dou Wei and Li Yapeng, and each marriage left a daughter. Among the two husbands, there was a sudden love affair between brother and sister, and the object was Nicholas Tse. What is even more wonderful is that Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse divorced each other and had a "century reunion". At that time, Nicholas Tse was already the father of two sons.

The reunion of Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse has always been a hot topic, just like Faye Wong's participation in Yan Ran Foundation this time, which should have been a normal activity for stars. The video of Faye Wong's casual disco dancing was praised by many people for her young heart, but at the same time, there were many insults. The charges against her were that she was not a good mother, irresponsible, and her words were fierce and extreme, as if she had committed a great crime.

China has always been a patriarchal society, and the primary and ultimate mission of women is to be a good mother. Faye Wong may not be a good mother, but she is far from the image of a good mother recognized by Chinese people. If her personality remains the same, she will have to accept all kinds of negative accusations for a long time. No matter how successful her career is and how decent and wise she is in handling her feelings, compared with Cecilia Cheung, who lives alone with her two sons, she is not a good mother.

In today's society, women are rich in love history and want to be humiliated by sluts, but it is more terrible than this. What is more common is the "good mother accusation". Attacking a woman, especially a woman with children, can deny her as long as she is not a good mother.

This is why Audrey Hepburn, who is also a star, divorced twice and even has a more chaotic private life, is much higher than Wang Fei.

A leader of the feminist movement once said: As long as women have children, men and women will never be equal. As long as women are considered responsible for their children, they will never have their true self.

From the day when women decide to have children, their life focus and everything should give way to their children, give up their dreams and sacrifice themselves for them, so as to be a qualified mother.

Hepburn didn't give up her career, but most of her career focuses on serving children. Therefore, her image has always met the expectations of the patriarchal society, and her reputation has never collapsed. Faye Wong didn't give up her career, but she was too self-centered and pursued her love in her own way, subverting the great mother image of "sacrificing herself for the children" that many people have been maintaining. This is also the root of her "hate".

when I wrote this, I couldn't help thinking of a friend's sister. She filed for divorce because of her husband's affair. Her son was in the first year of high school that year, and her family advised her to wait until the child was admitted to college. Her husband also vowed to turn over a new leaf. But she couldn't get sand in her eyes and insisted on leaving. Their divorce war affected their son, his grades plummeted, and even he was tired of learning. At this time, all relatives and friends accused her of being selfish, irresponsible, not a good mother, and even neighbors pointed at her, saying that she must have a good man outside, otherwise she would not be so reckless about her children's future. She couldn't bear the torture of those arguments and finally committed suicide by jumping off a building. "Woman, it's so hard to be yourself!" This is a sentence left by my friend and sister. It is not so much a word as a cry.

Summary:

In our culture, it seems that mothers always sacrifice themselves to fulfill the image of their families. In most women's life orientation, responsibility comes before happiness, while children come before themselves. Therefore, many people think that a woman's lifelong career is a "good mother". If you can't take this role, you will be criticized.

Actually, as a woman, she can choose to be a good mother all her life, or she can choose to be a good mother all her life. She can put the role of mother in the first place, and she can also put the role of herself in the first place, which is the freedom given to women by a civilized society.