some people say that there are only three things in this world, one is your own business, the other is someone else's business, and the other is God's business. Clarify the division of responsibilities, pick yourself out, understand your responsibilities, and the rest is the business of others and God.
however, it's easier said than done. How many people, because they don't have the wisdom of life management, are constrained everywhere in the workplace and have some ambitions, but because they don't know life management skills, they are not only unable to make a successful career, but also exhausted everywhere and have a bleak future; The family should have been obedient to the mother, but because of frequent conflicts, the chicken flies and the dog jumps.
Frustration makes them sigh and doubt life: life is too bitter and the world is unfair! I work hard, why is it harder than others!
This book will teach you 12 life management skills, so that you can easily "mine" in the workplace, be considerate at home, establish a good parent-child relationship, and enjoy life.
The author Cui Cui, born in Qingzhou, Weifang on January 12th, 1984, graduated from Shandong Art Institute, and was once a host, who hosted the "All Games Forward" of Shandong TV Variety Channel.
She is the most valued "closed disciple" of Wu Xiaobo, a financial tycoon, and once became the "youngest CEO" in China.
At the same time, she is the youngest director of the leading Dao Fund (with an investment of 1 billion yuan), and the most harmonious parent-child woman in China is the founder of the media Momself.
She can not only discuss projects with big names such as Wu Xiaobo, Feng Lun and Pan Shiyi, but also have a heart-to-heart talk with new employees. Even if you are busy, you will give your children and husband high-quality companionship, taking care of work and family.
Cui Cui has transformed from the host to the CEO of his own life, and he is really the winner of life. Others will think that such a strong woman should be domineering and strong, and she is full of affairs and has no time of her own. On her, I don't feel "pressure" and "anxiety" at all, but I am calm and calm between gestures.
This successful person with high emotional intelligence, how does she have the wisdom of life, strategize and manage efficiently? Today, we begin to study her book: Being the CEO of your own life.
1
How to deal with a strict boss?
On one occasion, A held three stacks of materials, consciously prepared them, and took them to write comments and signatures for the leaders. These documents, after layers of review and rewriting, lasted for two months and exhausted their efforts.
Because the comments to be written are long, rich in content and complicated in form, she printed out the comments, marked the names of people and their respective times, and the leaders could write according to the guidelines as long as they were present.
The leader was domineering. After she instructed him to write the first material, he turned over and reread the sentence to copy another person's comments. He was angry because of this complexity, and he criticized A rudely.
He said that A was not ready, which made it a mess and complicated. But it is a complicated matter. These materials are very demanding, and any details should be carefully studied. The logical relationship is meticulous, and the people and things involved are very complicated. The key is that every detail can't go wrong. This time, it's really painstaking.
At that moment, the leader's criticism A was completely accepted, and his mind was clear. He saw his own shortcomings and repeatedly said yes, explaining to him that he was not considerate.
There is no conflict in my heart. A tells herself that the criticism of the leader is for my own progress and I am grateful.
In this way, I feel warm in my heart, but I feel clear and excited. A is glad that the more stressful I am, the clearer I am, the more open-minded I am, and there is a kind of light that shines on my heart.
it's 99%, but if 1% fails, it will fall short. To learn a lesson, some people criticize you for not doing well, which is to remind you of your shortcomings. This is an opportunity to upgrade your ability. In the future, 1% will be done well and naturally improve.
this is the effect of criticism, so I am grateful, so I am happy. Laugh and scold by people, and the bottom of my heart is selfless.
Zhuangzi told a short story. When a man was crossing the river by boat, a boat in front of him was about to hit him. The man shouted several times and no one responded, so he swore: The man sailing in front of him is not long-sighted!
As a result, an empty boat crashed into it, so people who were angry just now suddenly disappeared without a trace. Do you think, in fact, whether you are angry or not depends on whether there is anyone on the boat that crashed?
Sometimes you are angry only because the other person is so competitive that there is such a person, not just because that person has done you harm.
this empty boat theory tells us that if we empty our object, you will suddenly see your heart. I found the source of my anger, and the anger disappeared with it.
Zhuangzi once said, "People can make a fool of themselves to travel around the world, but who can harm them!"
Many times, we think of others as an empty boat, so there is no anger.
2
In the book "Being the CEO of your own life", you talked about "energy management, clever use of division of labor thinking, and firmly grasp the initiative in the relationship". Many people may feel the same way about the above things. In the face of the boss's condemnation, they immediately feel that they are wrong and completely deny themselves.
once you have fear, compromise and escape, you will spend all your most precious energy on denying yourself and lose the direction and motivation of precise efforts.
people will have great mental stress, feel that their skills are not as good as others, and they will be short by half at once, and that positive force will be reduced by half.
Just as we educate our children, we need to encourage and affirm them, and the children who are affirmed will have a strong motivation. He will feel that someone recognizes him, and I can do it, no worse than others. A child who is often criticized, frustration makes him heavy, and he can't get positive growth strength.
people can't always be in prosperity. When encountering setbacks, they should learn to manage themselves and develop the ability to resist setbacks.
The division of labor thinking in the book can help you to clarify your responsibilities and rationally divide your work. In response to the above situation, there are many ways to change the psychological state at that time. The first way to manage emotions is to accept. Accept your emotions, accept that you are hurt, instead of criticizing your cowardice and incompetence.
the second is observation. Observe the source of your own grievances and fear of retreat. Why? Is it my own fault? Or am I right, but the other party didn't understand the whole story clearly? If so, we have the direction to try to identify.
once again, it is the expression of defense. Go in a positive direction and take action, instead of letting negative emotions lead you by the nose and letting bad emotions affect you for half a day or all day. Only by stepping out of the responsible mood can we find a positive solution.
after these steps, I feel basically calm. At this time, the truth of the matter is clear to me. There are clear barriers in your heart, and there are no obstacles.
you have cleared your mind, clarified the division of labor, what you do, the emotions of your boss, and the boundaries of responsibilities have come to the fore. I am me, and others are others. You see the criticized self and why others criticize it. Get to the point of criticism and correct it.
you have a gully in your heart, so naturally you do things neatly and methodically.
The book "Being the CEO of Your Own Life" tells us to do our own thing well, "see" other people's things, and then look for countermeasures and take action. The rest is god's business!