Hello, welcome to the third and fifth issue of the lifelong practitioner text version. The concept we want to polish in this issue is: let’s talk about a seemingly off-topic topic: many years later, they are all the same, and they will find that they may have had it once

The above opportunities (although not necessarily).

But why didn't they make a choice in the first place?

If you talk to them again, they are all the same. They all think that their requirements are not high, and they do not seek to be the richest and the most beautiful... They think this way: ... It seems that everyone is indeed very average.

I didn’t even ask for the best. I only asked for 1/3 or more. Why can’t I find it?

This is a simple math application question. Each requirement only leaves 1/3 of the choices. In the end, only about 4‰ of the choices are left - but in fact, there are not many people who can understand it deeply enough during the appropriate age.

There are more than 150 people (including same-sex people), so it will take you three lifetimes to actually meet them.

This does not include another factor: In fact, it is not just about finding a partner. As long as we have basic common sense about probability, we can avoid most of the troubles in life, such as a mistake we always like to make: This is why I will find a partner very early.

I have reminded everyone before that probability theory is one of the basic knowledge that we must master.

Everyone has that moment.

My requirements are not very high, so why can’t anyone meet them?

Each condition does not seem high, but if you calculate it according to the probability, you will smile bitterly: It turns out that it is not that I am unlucky, but because this is the real world.

So to be precise, when they set the standards, they doomed themselves to the fate of being left alone.

We said last week that the scariest thing in life is that "the world is not what you think it is."

So even though we are reluctant, we have to accept it, and then polish our values ??objectively and rationally to make our choices more reasonable.

Then, those who were left didn’t seem to have put much thought into this aspect, and they just didn’t have the troubles of others - which felt really "unfair"!

What do those who don’t have any left think?

In fact, they are all similar in this regard, and their thinking mode is roughly like this: This is an excellent example of values ????determining destiny (or to put it lightly: values ????determines the quality of life): What are values?

Values ??are about thinking "What's more important?" and "What's most important?" and then focusing on what's important, not what's not important...it's that simple.

So, here comes the topic, let me ask you: The answer is also very straightforward: That’s it, there is only one top priority in life, “choice”.

Looking further carefully, there are only a few opportunities that people need to work hard to choose in this life.

Which major to choose in college, what job to choose after graduation, whom to marry when the time comes, what track to choose if you start a business, what project to invest in when you have spare money... The so-called "big things" are probably these, maybe

There are others, but there are not many of them.

Therefore, great wisdom must be applied to these big things.

As for other places, being confused is actually good advice.

We always mention "cherishing attention". In fact, we hope that everyone can put the saved attention into places that are really worth using it.

I have always felt that many important resources are limited, whether it is attention or time.

So if you think of them as limited resources, then how to allocate them effectively becomes a crucial issue.

When many people buy things on Taobao, they especially like to "compare shopping" and have quite a lot of experience in this regard.

Of course I don't recommend that you be extravagant and wasteful, but if you spend too much time thinking about such trivial things, you will probably be "out of your depth" when you really need to make a major decision.

And I believe that “everything can be prepared.”

So if you make choices every day, especially when making important choices, you will become more and more skilled in the future and truly achieve "double the result with half the effort."

In the previous article, we have actually mentioned that the basis for everyone's choices is his values.

If you have different values, you will make different choices.

Each issue of our articles is to temper our own values ??from various angles and dimensions. We think about what is more important and what is most important, and then make choices from that angle or dimension.

For example, if we know that attention is more important and valuable, then we will make many different choices; if we know that the most important factor in determining price is demand, then we will make many different choices; we

Knowing that the primary need for investment is to avoid risks rather than take risks, then we will make many different choices... Therefore, tempering our own values ????is equivalent to improving the quality of choices.

Going one step further, what is the deeper methodology for making choices?

It can be explained clearly in one sentence (I am personally obsessed with the principle that can be explained clearly in one sentence): Let me tell you another thing first.