Text: After the topic of the last article ended, a friend left a message in the background saying that M was the first chat with S, and then I was very nervous, and I didn't know how to talk because it was Meng Xin. They are afraid of saying the wrong thing and don't know how to say it. I believe this problem will cause dissatisfaction with Meng Xin in many circles, and they also want to have a good solution!
Many circles will have symptoms of social phobia at the beginning, especially when an S is added at the end. In many people's minds, S is a very powerful existence, just like parents or teachers or instructors. In short, they always deliberately lower their status in front of S, and of course they want to play the role of a qualified admirer. Take the first communication as an example. Should I take the initiative to speak or wait for the other person to speak? What topic should I talk about? What should I answer if the other person asks me?
Therefore, seemingly simple chatting is actually a test of S. In order to cope with this test, the author's advice to Meng Xin is simple. "Authenticity, quality and mentality" First of all, you don't have to deliberately create your own personal design, you should keep your truest self. You know, no matter who you communicate with, what the other person wants to see is definitely the truest side. Keeping the truest side will often make your communication smoother!
Secondly, quality is the most important. Quality lies in manners. Don't use vulgar content to gain S's attention, and don't make yourself too conspicuous or too humble. Both inside and outside the circle are equal!
Finally, the mentality. The mentality here is more about the cognition of mentality, and then the adjustment. As mentioned above, the focus is on the equality of psychological cognition, and then it is to adjust the mentality of social tension.
Comments: The first communication will be more or less awkward, but it is usually only the first communication. Once the first communication is over, there will be no such problem, so try to cross the first communication as easily as possible!