Friends who can't see each other again

Some people fall, some people are crazy.

Someone went with the wind.

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Giving is much more than asking for happiness.

Why do rich people in the United States donate a lot to charities such as universities and hospitals, because they can get the happiness brought by donation. When they see that their money can affect the future in width, depth and length, they will definitely feel happier than when they earn money.

Since Bill Gates founded the charity foundation, he has found that his money is far from enough to help people in need in the world. But outsiders will definitely think that his money is inexhaustible.

On the contrary, many people in China don't want to donate money because they can't see the impact and feel happy.

The happiness I am most afraid of is unsustainable and not long-lasting, and it is easy to fall into an infinite loop. I don't earn enough money, and the car and house can't solve the "hunger". I always feel that I have to work hard.

The easiest way for a society to increase people's happiness is to affirm everyone's achievements and make them feel that they are paying.

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Whether in history or today, many people's careers are not smooth, usually because of fate, not lack of luck.

Li Guang, a famous flying general in the Han Dynasty, was never rewarded as a Marquis all his life. In the preface to Wang Teng-ting, Wang Bo wrote a famous sentence, "The phoenix hall is easy to get old, but Li Guang is hard to seal". It is a pity for him, and later generations are often indignant at Li Guangming's reading of this historical masterpiece.

However, objectively speaking, although Li Guang is famous, it is difficult for him to win the title with meritorious military service. Li Guang's luck is not bad-he can escape if he is caught by the Huns, and there are many opportunities, but he has missed them. Therefore, we can only say that Li Guang's life is really bad. Why? Because he saw things and did things with many problems, for example, he delayed the fighter plane. As a superior, Wei Qing sent someone to ask questions, and he committed suicide in a rage. This way of dealing with the problem is obviously problematic. For another example, he is good at riding and shooting to kill the enemy, but according to Han Xin's point of view, this is just a man's courage, not enough to seal Hou.

There is no record in Historical Records that Li Guang organized troops to kill the enemy effectively, although he had the opportunity. Li Guang experienced more than 70 wars in his life, but he didn't practice the basic qualities of a general, which shows that there is something wrong with his way of thinking, that is to say, the way of seeing and dealing with problems has not reached the level of Hou. (For a more detailed introduction of this history, you can see Historical Records and Biography of Li. )

Similar to Li Guang, Sun Ce in the Three Kingdoms period was keen to show personal courage and was killed by bad guys. This is his life, Guo Jia has figured it out, Sun Ce will eventually die in the hands of people who don't deserve to die. Sun Ce used to have a lot of good luck, but no amount of good luck can change his life.

As Margaret Thatcher, a famous British female prime minister, likes to say:

Pay attention to your thoughts, because it can determine your words and deeds.

Pay attention to your words and deeds, because they will dominate your behavior.

Pay attention to your behavior, because it will become your habit.

Pay attention to your habit, because it can shape your character.

Pay attention to your character, because it can determine your fate.

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The other extreme that East Asians love to walk is that they are timid in everything. Of course, most people will comfort themselves by saying "I have a knife in my heart", which means that I am "strong inside". For example, in a company, a leader is eccentric, bullying him, making him do all the work, promoting him but not promoting him. Many people are thinking that we should work harder and be diligent in order to impress the leader, but the leader will bully him next time. This is equivalent to burying your face in it.

So do many Asian parents who force their children to study. I heard some parents in China educate their children, "Mom and Dad have no skills, study hard and you will have a bright future".

In fact, when they became tyrants and went to a good university, they found that there was still no chance. Parents are incapable, just like being slapped by society or people around them, dreaming that their children can turn over with good grades in the future is actually a sign of recognition. If you treat life with cowardice, you will be slapped by the world constantly. In fact, their fate has been decided since childhood.

In the United States, the situation of many Asians is similar. American universities can't treat Asian children fairly, and the requirements for scores are much higher than those of other ethnic groups. Most parents just admit their cowardice and let their children take more exams.

In fact, it is useless to score more points in the exam, which can only make the competition among Asians more intense. The fundamental solution to the problem is to abolish the "affirmative action bill" that discriminates against Asians, but most Asian parents admit their cowardice as soon as they talk about it.

20 16, the writer Liu Zhenyun said at the graduation ceremony of Peking University that Ah Q and Sister Xianglin are the parents of China people, but in fact they are both cowards who have been slapped.

And a person's reaction to a slap actually determines his life's fate.

If you believe in fate, everything is doomed.

If you don't believe in fate, anything is possible.

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I chatted with an excellent and respected senior in the workplace before and told me a word called "five senses". They include knowledge, common sense, insight, courage and appreciation.

Knowledge, easy to understand, is also the meaning of education.

Common sense, knowledge gained from theory and real life.

Why put common sense above knowledge? There is a simple reason. People without knowledge are not terrible, but they can learn, but common sense is not necessarily. It needs environment, opportunities and self-observation.

Only when you have knowledge and know how to recognize common sense can you have your own "knowledge" and your own views and thoughts.

With the above three kinds of "knowledge", you are a learned and knowledgeable person, which can generally be regarded as an intellectual or a learned person.

Courage means that after you have knowledge, common sense and insight, you should have the ability to stand out in a complex environment and dare or have the courage to put forward your own different views or direct actions.

Appreciate, do you know how to "appreciate" others, including those who are better than you and those who are worse than you, your friends and opponents, your praise and criticism, and even your enemies? ...

Appreciating is actually finding the bright spot in others, so that you can learn more from others. If you are a team member, you can give full play to his advantages and tolerate his shortcomings.

So we can reflect on our stage and level from these five aspects, and whether we can improve it.

Life is a river, and everyone wants his river to be wider, deeper and longer.

A little deeper, we must rely on our own practice and understanding of the world; To put it more broadly, it is to be with some like-minded people and do something together.

References:

"Knowledge" Wu Jun

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