Do you prefer talking with one person alone to talking with a group of people? When you are tired, do you prefer being alone to meeting friends? When you are depressed, do you meditate alone instead of talking to others? Are you not good at social rhetoric and don't like to say insincere flattery?

If most of your answers are yes, then you can basically be regarded as an introvert. Maybe you realized this a long time ago, and you are often troubled by it. You always fantasize about how good it would be if I were an extrovert. If you always think so, then I recommend you to read this book: Advantages of Introversion-Potential Competitiveness of Introverts. After reading this book, you will find that introversion is not a hard thing to say. On the contrary, it will bring you unexpected benefits.

The author of this book is Japanese psychological counselor Shennong Yushu. He is an introvert. He didn't like socializing since he was a child. He has no friends and acquaintances, and he doesn't like chatting. From the beginning of work, I felt inferior because I was introverted and couldn't handle a lot of work, which eventually led to self-doubt and disgust. He also tried to change his personality, but ended in vain. So he quit his job and began to study introverted personality. He wants those who are also introverted to truly live high by understanding what introversion is.

This book mainly talks about the following parts: the first part tells how the author realizes that he is an introvert in a society that respects extroversion; The second part introduces the characteristics of introverted personality from the perspective of brain science; The third and fourth parts introduce how introverts should cope when they hit a wall in reality; The fifth part tells introverts how to play their character strengths; The sixth part puts forward practical strategies according to the experience of the students in the training class where the author is located.

It is novel for the author to discuss introversion with evolutionary thinking, but I think what he said is very reasonable. The book says that there are many introverts in the world. If introversion was only a weakness, it would have been eliminated in the natural evolution of survival of the fittest.

In view of the fact that the funds that are not conducive to survival will be reduced in the process of biological evolution, he also cited an example: the giraffe's neck becomes longer because the longer the individual can eat the higher the leaves, which is conducive to their survival. The gene of short-necked giraffe was eliminated because it was not suitable for survival.

Therefore, introversion is not a disadvantage. Just like primitive society, extroverts may be good at group hunting, but this is not enough for human beings to survive. They also need someone to make hunting equipment, deal with prey and make strategies, which are more suitable for introverts. Extroversion and introversion are just two different personalities, and there is no difference between good and bad. Both have their own emphasis, and introverts don't have to envy or deliberately change.

In addition, this book also analyzes introverts from a scientific point of view. For example, the brain circuit of introverts processing information is longer and more complicated than that of extroverts; Introverts will be stimulated by sound and light or their attention will drop, and they need to concentrate for a longer time.

I like a few words in the book very much: introverted people, the best way to charge is to be alone; Look inside bravely, and you will see your own light; You don't have to follow in the footsteps of extroverts. You have an introverted working style and introverted treatment that suits you. You will do better by amplifying your introverted advantages. Don't deliberately imitate extroverts, and bravely accept yourself as an introvert.

Many disappointments in life actually come from anger at their incompetence. And many times we think we are incompetent, but we don't see the truth clearly. If you still feel inferior or blame yourself for being an introvert, then this book may be an opportunity for you to change yourself: first learn to accept yourself as an introvert, understand the differences with extroverts, find your own internal motivation and self-resilience, change your view on social interaction, and communicate with introverts in a social way.

I hope that you who are introverted can find your own rhythm and become a person with unique advantages.