1. Restart the circle of friends, challenge the impossible
Recently, a good friend came to me to complain, saying that he tried to develop some good habits but failed, and felt that he was very low, and I envy that I can persevere for so long without giving up due to doubts from the outside world.
I told him that you can do it too;
Failure is not terrible, but the denial of oneself is terrible;
After communicating with him, he is improving After some thoughts and actions in the process of forming a habit, I found that he defined developing a good habit as his goal, rather than sticking to it because of the meaning it brings. So after communicating with him, I adjusted my action plan. , corrected the goal and significance of habit cultivation, he decided to start over, and hoped that I could help supervise him to complete it. If any problems were found during the process, he hoped that I would correct them in time. Of course, he readily agreed to this request. It is a great thing to see a friend change. Happy things.
So I decided to get involved and challenge the habits that I had been unable to overcome with him; he chose exercise and meditation, and I chose to post daily thoughts in Moments.
In this way, we happily decided to share today's changes and thoughts with each other every day. In a blink of an eye, the week is over and we have all completed the first week’s challenge.
During the process, we received many questions from colleagues and friends around us, asking whether we were stimulated or what happened; we also collected and distinguished their comments rationally.
This week we all came to the unanimous conclusion: nothing is insurmountable, what really needs to be overcome is our inner fears.
2. Get close to good people and become good people
Recently, I saw a lively discussion among friends in the best friend group. The learning-type friends pulled other friends to think and share together. , business-oriented partners share recent interesting things in the industry, and relationship-oriented partners share recent learning and some topic discussions;
The biggest highlight is that everyone is very independent and willing to share and think. There is no such thing here The parents are full of shortcomings and emotional infighting, but they encourage each other and learn together.
Observe the changes in myself after joining the best friend group in the past few months. I have become more humble. When I am with them, I can make myself better by observing and learning their way of thinking, doing things, handling relationships, etc. Changes have also taken place by leaps and bounds.
In the past, I refused to get close to good people because of embarrassment and lack of confidence. Now I find that only by getting close to good people can I become a good person faster.
Next, try to get close to excellent people, learn from excellent people, and make yourself an excellent person.
3. Create a relaxed parent-child relationship
Jelly has just celebrated his 8-week birthday, and the little guy is growing faster and faster.
How to deal with the relationship with my child; how to better achieve him; how to cultivate his learning ability, etc. These questions all bother me.
It is urgent to start looking for answers to problems from children’s educational books. In this process, there are some contradictions between the solutions to many problems, especially in the process of application in real life, which often makes the relationship between myself and jelly very tense.
So I began to reflect on what kind of parent-child relationship I wanted to create. It wasn't until this week when I was communicating about parenting knowledge with my colleagues that I realized that I had made the relationship too heavy.
He is an independent individual with his own consciousness and development speed; as his close relative, what is more needed is enough patience to accompany him, accept his changes in self-awareness, guide him, and help him find own love.
Education and companionship is a long-term process that requires enough patience. It is also a very arduous process. It is a responsibility and an obligation. Accompany us with your heart and treat us sincerely. This process will also be a happy stage.
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?3. Maintaining micro habits and reflecting on journals Persistence
Harvest and growth
1. Practice the unity of knowledge and action. This week, when I started posting my daily thoughts on WeChat Moments, I began to understand more and more what many bloggers mentioned about the unity of knowledge and action. Whether the changes in thoughts and behaviors are consistent is a good test process through constant self-thinking and reflection. Stick to your true inner thoughts, strive to keep your behavior in line with your thinking, and achieve the unity of knowledge and action.
2. Have the courage to be yourself and achieve yourself. Whether you post on Moments or learn from outstanding friends, the biggest change for yourself is to have the courage to be yourself and admit that you express your true thoughts. In my reflection journal, I kept mentioning that admitting one's mistakes is a kind of courage, and finally overcoming fear and being oneself.
Change and Action
1. Insist on self-reflection; the recent public self-reflection has made my thinking more profound, and I have begun to work hard to change my shortcomings. Change actions, reflect on the results, optimize and adjust the continuous self-cycle, and the inner system begins to operate.