Borrowing money is something that even ordinary friends find difficult to talk about. If you can still bring it up to your ex without hesitation, there is only one reason: he has no intention of paying it back.

They all say that talking about money hurts feelings, but what I want to say today is that talking about feelings hurts money.

Some time ago, my friend Nana came to me hesitantly and asked me that her ex borrowed 5,000 yuan from her, but it was almost Chinese New Year and she still hadn’t paid it back, and she was too embarrassed to ask for it. What should I do?

Asked her when she borrowed it, she thought for a moment and said it seemed to be in May last year. I couldn't help but sigh in my heart and told her to go and get it quickly. Why are you embarrassed? Don't assume that the money you paid is real.

came back.

Nana was still hesitant. When the two were together, her ex was not nice to her, but now he is trying to collect debts, which seems a bit heartless.

Besides, talking about money really hurts feelings. If the other party asks, "Am I not worth 5,000 yuan in your heart?", she will definitely feel so guilty that she doesn't know what to say.

True to the old saying, now it is the grandson who begs for money.

I asked Nana, if you don’t talk about reconciliation, is it because you still can’t let go of this person?

Nana said yes. They separated because of the opposition of the man's family. Nana has been unwilling to do so and has maintained intermittent contact with him.

So the current talent wanted to borrow money, but she transferred the money without saying a word. That was a act of righteousness.

5,000 yuan, neither too much nor too little, is Nana's monthly salary.

If the other party was really shameless enough not to return it, she wouldn't ask for it. She would just see a person clearly and stop all her thoughts.

I was so angry that I stamped my feet after hearing this. I saw that there are many ways to be a person, and it doesn’t have to be a waste of your hard-earned money.

But she still looked at me with an innocent face, claiming that he was not that kind of person and that she would not be mistaken about the person.

I shrugged, whatever.

Until yesterday, she told me on WeChat that she had been blocked by her ex. I asked her where was the money?

She said she just wanted to mention this matter, but she sent a message and found out that she had been blocked.

I was angry and helpless, so I replied to her: For some people, their ex is just a way to borrow money. It’s unfortunate that you met her.

In relationships, I have always considered myself generous.

Even though I am a woman, I never give him gifts or spend less money on him than he does.

For me, when it comes to love and money, I don't want the other person to feel that I owe him.

When I was in school, I was obsessed with a boyfriend who had a bad character.

The reason why his character is not very good is because of money.

When we first got together, we were both poor students and didn't have much money. He bought a few bills for daily dates, and then it was basically aa. This is what I also proposed. I think girls need to bring money when they are in love.

It is not appropriate to go into your own wallet and blindly take advantage of the other party.

When he gives me a gift, I always give him a more expensive one.

At that time, I really liked this person. I didn’t want to buy many things for myself, but I didn’t even blink when I bought them for him.

We also applied for a bank card and put it in his place. When the two of us had spare money, we would deposit it into it. It was euphemistically called the love fund. From now on, we would spend the money on common expenses.

If we break up, split it half and half.

Of course at that time we all believed in growing old.

Although my sisters all say that my way of dating is not good and that I can easily spoil the other person, I will stupidly defend him and say that he is not that kind of person.

Once when the new semester started, he was scammed over the phone and all the tuition fees of several thousand yuan were paid into it. He didn't dare to tell his family. I took out my own private money, which was just a drop in the bucket.

But he couldn't enroll in school without paying the tuition. When it was about to start, he told me that he had paid the tuition and borrowed it from his ex-girlfriend.

I was quite concerned when I heard it, but I still thought for him that at least the matter was resolved.

Later, I kept urging him to pay off the money as soon as possible, and I also found time to work part-time. I wanted him to pay it off as soon as possible and not have anything to do with it anymore.

What if someone changes his mind at some point and wants him to commit himself?

But he kept saying: I also want to pay it back, but only if she is willing to accept it.

I was stunned for a while. What kind of silly girl is this? Either her family is too rich, or she loves her deeply, because the money is not a small amount.

What bothered me even more later was not that he never paid back the money, but that whenever we had a quarrel, he would come up with a winning phrase: Look at you, you are not as good as my ex-girlfriend!

Finally, I couldn't bear it anymore and broke up with her. Since your girlfriend is so good, you should go find her.

When we broke up, he also said, "Tomorrow I will return your money in the love fund to you. We don't owe each other."

I have deposited at least a few thousand into that card.

I don’t know whether it was out of anger or something else, but he has been slow to call me the money. For this reason, I have always mistakenly thought that he has not given up on me and cannot bear to settle the accounts between us.

Even though he had a new girlfriend, we still kept in touch and I always felt like I was special to him.

It wasn't until he asked me to borrow money because of some difficulty, and I lent it out without hesitation and never heard from him again, that I discovered that history is always surprisingly similar.

I guess now I've become that great ex-girlfriend he calls who borrows money and doesn't have to pay it back.