how to behave in interpersonal communication has always been a difficult problem for us. Too enthusiastic, naturally familiar, others say you are oily and unreliable, keep your personality and stay at a respectful distance from others, others say you are dull and difficult to achieve great things; Being too enthusiastic about rich and powerful people will not only arouse their disgust, but also be described by others as eager for quick success and instant benefit and become a clingy villain. However, if we ignore rich and powerful people, many resources and opportunities will be missed by you, which makes us very distressed.

Many books that teach us how to behave in life say that it is simple to behave in an inner circle. The inner circle is to cultivate one's morality and maintain noble character, and the outer circle is to behave in a proper way. But we can do it inside, but it's too difficult to grasp the outer circle. This is why we know a lot of skills in dealing with people, but we still can't do it properly.

In Heaven, Xiao Yawen asked Ding Yuanying how to behave properly. Ding Yuanying said: "Just right is just right, just false, not true, but false." Xiao Yawen certainly didn't understand such profound words. After repeated questioning, Ding Yuanying said something that had a profound influence on Xiao Yawen: "You can't climb with fate."

Ding Yuanying is truly a person who interprets the code of traditional culture, and his judgment on how to behave is exquisite. All interpersonal relationships originated from a predestined relationship. No matter how rich others are, they have the right to have resources, but they have no predestined relationship with you, which is in vain. For those who have no predestined relationship, we should follow it, while for those who have predestined relationship, we should cherish it. Many people often lose their watermelons and pick up sesame seeds in interpersonal relationships, but they are ignorant of gold and jade, but they must never climb. The fate that clings to them is not your real fate, and they are also despised and laughed at by others. Why bother?

1 Suiyuan

When it comes to predestination, many people think it is something mysterious and unclear, just like Zen in Buddhism. But fate is actually very simple, that is, the objective law. The reason why Ding Yuanying became a serious master is that he can see the objective development law of things through their appearances and follow the objective law.

Many people think that the most precious thing in life is what they have not got and what they have lost. It is what they think is precious that keeps them in pain, and even some people don't want to extricate themselves. If you don't get an explanation, you don't have a relationship with her, or if you haven't arrived yet, you have lost it, which means you are doomed. Why insist on making yourself suffer? Ding Yuanying is able to live a natural and unrestrained life because he knows how to follow fate, wait when it doesn't come, don't entangle when it has been lost, don't remember it, and when it comes, he will cherish it. The fate between him and Rui Xiaodan is the best proof.

2 Cherish Fate

In Heaven, Ding Yuanying seems to be cool and heartless, but he is a person who cherishes fate. When his friend Han Chufeng's wife asked him to borrow money, he knew it was his meal money, but he lent it to Han Chufeng's wife because he cherished his fate with Han Chufeng. When private equity shareholders thought that Ding Yuanying had immoral business motives, Zheng Jianshi voted in favor, but Ding Yuanying did not accuse him because Ding Yuanying cherished his relationship with Zheng Jianshi. When Rui Xiaodan fell in love with Ding Yuanying and threw herself at him, Ding Yuanying fled. Why? It is because Ding Yuanying cherishes the fate with Rui Xiaodan and doesn't want to destroy it because of crossing the line.

We usually make a mistake. We treat strangers well, but we treat people who are close. This is the concrete manifestation that we don't cherish fate. Strangers have no relationship with us, no matter how good it is, people who have close relationships with us are destined to have a relationship with us, and all we have to do is cherish the relationship. Fate in life is like a deposit in a bank. If you treat me well once, it is equivalent to saving a sum of money. If you treat me badly once, it is equivalent to taking a sum of money from the bank. When the money in the bank account becomes zero or even negative one day, that is, when the fate is over, all we have to do is not to force it, but to cherish it.

3 don't climb

Fate is a wonderful thing, and it doesn't change because of your wealth, power and resources. People who are knowledgeable and knowledgeable can know each other. Billionaires' minds can only be understood by poor beggars, while beautiful women are infatuated with men who are good at nothing and have a bad relationship. This is fate, and there are certain objective laws in it. However, many people cling to others because of wealth, power, resources and other factors, which are not only in vain, but also despised. Such stories are common in novels at all times and all over the world.