this question shows the psychological status of many people at present, that is, with the material life getting richer, the sense of happiness is declining, and even becomes the trouble of the "rich". What is the cause?
first, in the struggle to achieve the necessary goals in life, as the goals get closer, there will be a sense of happiness. This is not difficult to understand in itself. Just like a track and field athlete, whether sprinting or long-distance running, he will concentrate all his attention on sprinting when he is close to the finish line. At this time, he will basically not be distracted, but will be filled with joy. Wow, I will reach the finish line soon. The same is true for earning money. When you want to buy a house, whether in full or in installments, owning a house is your goal. When you get the house, you will be very happy, and the same is true for cars.
second, when the basic life goals are achieved, people will have a dull period of emotion, and the joy will gradually disappear. Many people will have an experience. For example, after moving into a new house or buying a new car, after a while, they will begin to have a process from novelty to habit. And the sense of joy just dropped or even disappeared in the process of this emotional weakening. There is a saying that people will only know what treasure is when they lose it. But for the house and the car, if you get it, it will belong to you, and generally you won't lose it. Therefore, if you have it, you don't know how to cherish it. This is the root cause of the disappearance of happiness.
thirdly, the endless comparison and desire are the direct reasons for the loss of happiness. Many people work hard from the initial small goal, and every time they achieve a small goal, they will feel the joy of success. However, with the realization of the small goals necessary for life one by one, I began to compare with the people around me. Originally, there was a two-bedroom house, and when I saw that others lived in a three-bedroom house, I was satisfied again. The trouble was that I never knew that satisfaction would not breed. Although you may surpass a few people, you can never surpass everyone. People's desire is constantly expanding in the excessive pursuit of material life, while the sense of joy is inversely proportional.
Fourth, people who lack the pursuit of spiritual life will never know where their happiness comes from. The ancients said that it is very reasonable not to bring it when you are alive and not to take it away when you die. What this brings and takes away is material things, but from the spiritual world, it can leave endless wealth to future generations. But how much spiritual wealth can many people who are already rich pass on to future generations? Some people may say that I have a lot of money in my life, so let others envy me. But you are not that other person, and you also envy others. What's more, how many people in China, Asia and the world can achieve this goal? If you analyze the richest people, they will eventually turn their wealth into charitable funds, and the ultimate pursuit is spiritual life.
To sum up, if you have become a great achiever of material wealth, you need to pay attention to your spiritual pursuit, so that you can have your own complete spiritual world. Otherwise, you will be dissatisfied all your life, and you will be in a vicious circle of comparing with others all your life. The person who will never get it is the most sad reminder.
When I grow up, I miss the days when I was a child without money. At that time, I ate with a small folding table. There were no big fish and big meat, only a simple stew of eggs, stir-fried vegetables and soy sauce soup. Sometimes it was even simpler, just a bowl of noodles. I traveled by bike, no computer and no mobile phone. At that time, I still think about it beautifully, as if I had no worries.
Now I have a better life and made money. Every day, I circle around the car and house, go home to work like a robot, and have no entertainment activities. In the final analysis, it is because of the high pressure, high cost of living, and people's vanity and desire to pursue beautiful things are getting higher and higher. They go forward on the road of pursuit, but forget the scenery along the way.
What is happiness? It is the feeling when people's desires are satisfied. Unhappy, on the contrary. If we want to have a house and a car at the beginning, then at that time, working hard and enjoying the process is the happiness at that time. And when it becomes easy to put these things, there will be other desires. Begging for mercy can't be generalized, but there are also many people who will be unhappy after they have it. Give a practical example: a friend's wife, when they had nothing, got married and rented a one-bedroom house, and it was a shabby and old house. Then they worked to save money, bought a house and a car, and were ready to have children. As a result, his wife, who wanted a divorce, had to leave, saying that this life was not what she wanted. In this city, there were no relatives and friends, so it was boring to live like this. Then she went to her hometown for more than a year and divorced. Although it is a case, people's desires and demands are changing, which leads to your unhappiness, and it may be jealousy and envy. It is better to envy others than yourself. These emotions are also the expression of desire. Although Buddhism is not advocated to control desire, it is necessary to know what kind of life we can live and what we really need. Because desire has no end.
because the older you get, the greater the pressure.
earn more and spend more.
mortgage, car loan, and various loans are pouring in,
children grow up slowly, and parents grow old slowly.
the old and the young, who used to be children, have become their dependence.
furthermore, in our youth, anything is possible if we go ahead. Although poor, I have dreams.
when you enter middle age, you will be annoyed because you have reached the ceiling.
because many things have a price. What kind of things do you do at what age? If you already have a car, a house and a deposit in your twenties, and these are all earned by yourself, then you will face more pressure than ordinary people. Because of the age of more than 2 years old, everyone is just coming into contact with the industry or just starting a business. It is the time when life has just started and we are struggling for our own cause. And you already have a car and a house by this time. And these things are things that ordinary people should have after a period of struggle and then at a certain age of 3. So to some extent, you have got what you deserve in advance, so you have to face some pressures brought by these things, such as mortgage, car loan, the future development direction of the company and so on. There is no such thing as a free lunch. You have to "pay" for everything you own.
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